Help Girls please!?

Question

I just recently had a baby 4 months ago and I am huge. I constantly find myself pigging out on food even if I'm not hungry my pre-pregnancy days I weighed a petit 100lbs now I weigh 164. I had two babys within two years so I never lost the weight from my first pregnancy. I tried going on diets but I love food to much and I have tried excerizing but I a, two tired from taking care of my babies and my boyfiend dosn't like the weight on me! PLZ HELP!!!!!!

Answer 1

Hopefully you aren't wanting to get back down to 100 pounds because you need to be realistic. You'll probably never look like you did before you had your children but you need to set an obtainable goal and you're going to have to work at it. When I got pregnant I weighed about 120, after I had my daughter I weighed about 140. I got on the shot which made me gain even more weight (I think I got up to 150 altho I was too afraid to weigh myself). I got off of the shot about 6 months ago and since then have been working hard to get some of the weight off. I started watching what I eat, eating alot more salads and even lean cuisines. And probably the best thing I've done was began doing Pilates. Since then I've gotten down to about 135 and I'm comfortable with myself now. I wouldn't mind losing a few more pounds but I know I'll never be in a size 5 like I was before.

As far as your problem with losing the weight, you're just going to have to be disciplined in watching what you eat and you will need to start exercising. I'm one of the laziest people ever, but I make myself get up and do it. I feel so much better about myself afterwards and exercising really helps with your energy level and your metabolism. Trust me I've tried everything else, but exercising really is the best way to go. Good luck!

Answer 2

So you used to be a stick and now you're well, not one. First of all, you need to set a real goal for yourself. Get off of the 100lbs thing and think about an ideal weight for someone your age who has had two kids.

Now that you've picked a realistic weight goal you won't be so discouraged by being so far from the unrealistic 100lbs.

Next step. Your boyfriend may not like your weight and that's fine. But if he doesn't make you feel good about yourself then depression alone will lead you to seek more and more food as comfort. Your boyfriend should be your comfort. NOT FOOD. Obviously you have developed this habit and never struggled with it before. Make a list of all the reasons you felt good about being thin. WHat are your motivations for losing weight. If its just an unhappy boyfriend then forget about it, you'll never drop the weight. Find something from within to motivate yourself.

NOW take a realistic goal, self motivation and get yourself outside walking, running, riding a bike. Whatever. If you can, get some friends to join you in this. Make it a weekly deal and make your boyfriend/relative take care of the kid while you're out. ONce you get going you'll be more physically and emotionally well.


hope this helps

Answer 3

I would say that you need to realize your probably not gunna go back down to 100 pounds considering after pregnancy your hips are bigger and stuff and im sure you look better with a little weight on, i was 95 when i got pregnant and im at 107 right now so im not at my pre pregnancy weight but i feel i look better with a little more weight.

So just eat in moderation dont eat after a certain time at night like lets say 7 or 8pm cut out soda and drinks with nothing bug sugar in it, try water with lemon in it or flavored water and that should help a lot swimming is a great way to exercise and fun because you can take your children with you and when they sleep or are playing do sit ups and stuff, just some suggestions i wish you the best of luck but also know if your happy at your weight then your boyfriend should be too if you feel comfortable then i see no problems.

Answer 4

Huney we ALL love food and we ALL are tired. But you gotta find the will and the strength to hold back and to exercise. I do pilates 10 minutes a day and I also have 2 small children. I also ate Lean cuisines for like 2 weeks straight and dropped like 5 pounds. I also just use my power of control and stop myself from eating. You gotta do it or else your boyfriend will start going to someone else, especially since you are not married, some guys think that they are still free if there is not a ring on their finger.

You can do it, just have faith in yourself!

PS also these things take time, it could take a year or two but just don't let it get past the point of no return.

EDITED TO ADD:

Some tips:
-take babies for a walk in a double stroller, that'll kick you butt!
-brush your teeth and use mouthwash early in the evening like 8:00 pm that will deter you from eating.
-walk away from your meal half way through and go do something, it'll make you lose your appetite.
-don't buy fattening thinks, only healthy snack like fruits, veggies, rice cakes, baked chips, etc.

Answer 5

Drink lots of water: 6-8 glasses a day or a liter of bottle water a day. Exercise by putting the kids in the stroller and walking around the mall or park. ( This will help you get your mind off the fact that your exercising, but will help); You could also ride a bike in the morning or late afternoons, take the stairs instead of the elevators. Let tell you fat burners will not help. You can change what eat without starving yourself. Eat smaller meals with lots of water. Eat slow, your brain takes 20 min to realize that you are full. Don't worry if your boyfriend likes what he sees right now, it takes at least a year to get the pre-preg weight off. You can do it. Try weight watchers (great support group) You need to feel confident and uplifted and should be around those types of people. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

Wow, 164. Honey, I wish I weighed 164. You didn't say how tall you are, so I'm not sure if that's your healthy weight,etc. but I will tell you this, you just had a baby, you had your babies back-to-back, and your energy level is low, so it's going to take some work. What you need to work on right now, is eating healthier and trying to rest. Diets won't work, if you're not exercising and in overall good health. Also, I know it's hard not to worry about what your man thinks, but you need to consider your own feelings. Are you okay with your weight? Is it just your boyfriend's concerns or what?

Answer 7

Hi,
Congrats on your little baby, I just had my first myself (9 weeks).
I'm thinking that the 'celebrities' that seem to drop the kilo's in the first week after giving birth are a terrible image, and sometimes worrying about your body makes you eat more, dontcha love comfort eating! Breastfeeding helps lose weight due to the extra energy burning, but if you're still consuming more kilojoules you won't drop it.
I know myself that if my husband gave me crap about not losing weight easily and straight away i'd be very upset, your body has done an amazing thing and since they were close together you didn't recover completely, so he needs to cuddle your extra bits and shut up and you need to realise how amazing and beautiful you are! Like to see him do that... twice. Positive attitude will put you on the road to getting back in shape, oh, and a little walking helps :-) and remember, housework burns kilojoules too.

Answer 8

wow, that sucks. I'm in the middle of my second pregnancy in less than 2 years and I'm gaining so much too. I am constantly hungry. Everyone says diet and excercise but when you got 2 little ones I'm sure it's hard to find work out time.
I wish I could help, I just wanted to relate and say I feel your pain. Just hang in there. Maybe if you just switch the foods you're pigging out on. Good luck!

Answer 9

i'm in the same situation. i have a 2 year old n a 10 month old. my weight is 155 i love food, i love cooking, but wen it come to excerising i am so lazy. i got on a diet in november. i had my daughter in august of that same year. i wasn't eating any carbs. mostly bread and sweet stuff.(cakes candy etc.) and i was running/walking an hour a day on a tredmill and the first month and a half i lost 15 pounds. of course i gained them back but i am starting a new work out. before i wasnt so committed to losing weight now i am .

well good luck.

Answer 10

If your boyfriend really cares about you and your children he will not care at all abotu your weight. If you are that concerned about it. than have self control. HWen you get those eating binges, instead of eating a whole tube of ritz crackers, than try eatign half or less. Cut everythign in half. That is a start. NOT A GOOD ONE, but a start. take your kids to the park adn walk around while they play or take them for walks. I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 2 weeks old, i know what you mean. But make exercise fun. I put on Billy Blanks on TV and my son LOVES doign it too. ITs good for them. If you really want to lose the weight, you have to try to lose it yourself. No one can just make it disappear. If they could...nobody would ever diet!!!! Eat more fruit, instead it has natural sugar. Try to eat right and exercise thats all you can do. Good LUck!!!!