i recently had one of my close guy friends tell me he THINKS he is gay. he said that i was the only one that knew, because he didnt know how his parents would react. i didnt judge him and i tried to be understading, but i didnt know what to say...i didnt want to say the wrong thing. so i basically just sat there while he talked to me. i told him that i wouldnt think any differently of him and that i was always here for him. what else could i possibly say? & should i tell my parents? because our parents are good friends. i dont want my mom to go blabbing to his mom..what do u think? oh and he is only 17.
2007-06-13 07:04:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, i don't recomend telling anyone for several reasons... 1: it's breacking his trust that he has with you, 2: there is no real reason to, and 3: what if he changes his mind?
For now it will jsut be good to listen a lot, and ask questions about anything you don't understand. Answering your questions will help him work things out. Make sure he knows that you see nothing wrong with his sexuality, and encourage him to come out to other important people in his life soon, when he is certin of his sexuality.
Just keep being the best friend you always have been!
2007-06-13 07:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by risks_(with a pessimist) 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation once. There's no need to tell your parents...especially if they're friends with his parents. He told you that you were the only one who knows for a reason...he doesn't want you telling people...if he wants someone to know...he'll tell them. The best thing you can do is listen and be supportive (and maybe give him a girlfriend to swoon over cute boys with). And if he says he THINKS he's gay..he's gay. He wouldn't say anything if it were just a fleeting thought.
2007-06-13 14:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by nameless 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that nothing has changed between the 2 of you and you are still his friend.
You should not tell your parents. He has to come out at his own pace.
Just be there to support him.
2007-06-13 14:10:50 · answer #3 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him. Don't tell your parents. That would not be good for your friendship. If he thinks he is gay then mostlikely he is. He most think highly of you if you are the one he told.
2007-06-13 14:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by KingMike 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep it to yourself. He confided in you and doesn't seem to want anyone else to know yet, so respect his wish for secrecy.
2007-06-13 22:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, he trusted you, so don't break that trust. If you need someone to talk to, then talk to someone who doesn't know him.
2007-06-13 18:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by Kim's Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋