I've been wanting to forget this person for more than 2 years now but I can't seems to do so. Whenever I am out, I'll imagine myself seeing this person and no matter where I go, I'll try to look out for this person. I am so obsessed that I even try to get news of this person from friends. I don't love neither do I like this person but it just seems so I can't get this person outta my mind and life. Please give me some good and useful solution. Thanks!!
2007-06-13 07:04:08 · 31 answers · asked by Jessica 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You might start by trying to figure out the motivation for this obsession. If you don't love or like this person, why are you obsessed? Once you discovered the "root" of the problem, you can start dealing with it. Are you jealous of this person? What is it about them that causes you to spend so much of your emotional energy on them?
As someone once told me, "stop letting this person occupy space in your head...they're not paying rent!"
Make a conscious decision that when you start to obsess about this person you are going to do something specific, like go for a jog, answer your e-mail, call your mother, etc. Then do it!
It's difficult - I've been there! You need a plan to change mental direction whenever these obsessive thoughts occur, and you need to stick with it. If you can't concur this on your own, try talking to a counselor or even your best friend.
Good luck,
BeBe
2007-06-13 07:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by browneyedgirl623 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you are doing yourself. You are the one who keeps on imagining things on purpose, like you choose not to break loose from this person. It's actually a self-destructive thing you are doing, because you know that you will not get the person back.
What you might do is try to be very aware of the impact this has on your life. See how much energy this is costing you, and what other price it costs you.
My guess is that there is also some insecurity from your part behind it. Sometimes it just hurts so much that this person, you have put on a very high place, does not want you. It's like you are torturing yourself with it.
Girl, you are better then that. You don't need to torture yourself. the more you realize that you are worth to get on with your life, the easier it will get to do so.
This person might not be the one for you, but someone else might. By staying obsessed with this one person, you don't give anyone else the possibility to come closer to you.
I wish you the best!
2007-06-13 14:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by Bloed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing you can do is not care if you see this person or not ever again. I understand where you are coming from but try and focus in on seeing people you want, who care about you for who you are. Also look to meet new people the more people you meet the more names and faces you will have to remember the faster you will forget about this person.
I am impassioned by a woman I have not seen in over a year and when I said I don't care if I see her or not I looked for people I wanted to find not those I was trying to forget.
2007-06-13 14:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by theamericanbombers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't actively forget someone, but you can do something about your behaviour. Make a rule not to talk about this person to friends and stick to it. Don't google this person, don't daydrema about him/her. If you find your mind is starting to wander, find something to do.
The energy you put into obsessing about this person could do you a world of good if directed at something productive - a hobby, volunteer work, some kind of education, travel. That trip you always wanted to take, that language you always wanted to learn - now is the time to do it.
2007-06-13 14:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused, you don't love the person yet his tattooed on your mind? Isn't obsession also defined as a fatal love attraction? I'm not being argumentative or something just a little confused.
What replaces an addiction is another addiction. What replaces love is a new love...obsession is replaced by another obsession. Human feelings are really complicated, it's like stirring the wind ( I know there's no such thing as stirring the wind).
2007-06-13 14:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by Rein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It helps to just go and live your life.
Make an extra effort to keep yourself busy, and spending time with friends.
Meet new people, and try new things.
Go out and have fun.
You'll find there are lots of times that you're not thinking of them.
You'll never forget them, they're a part of who you are now. In a while you'll hardly think of them at all. They'll become part of your past instead of your present.
It's just time really.
2007-06-13 14:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by Scott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about their negative points. Laugh at their mistakes. Think you are better then them, but don't show it. You don't have to necessarily ignore them, just smile and move on. And also, think about the future, you'll meet better people then them and you'll not see them after a while. Trust, I've been through it, you not able to forget them is psychological thing...so overcome it, just tell yourself its psychological...and its just gonna slow me down, so overcome it and that'll help you mature as a person. i think everything is psychologically related, whether it is fear or disease. You just have to learn how to control your mind...and life will seem much simpler. hope that helps, and good luck!
2007-06-13 14:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get rid of anything that may remind you of that person...I would also ask a friend to help you get through this,and make sure to not give you any new news on what is going on in that persons life. Just give it time, and I am sure it will get better in time.
2007-06-13 14:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This person has a psychological hold on you. Think about them very seriously one time until you figure out which emotion they elicit. Is it Jealousy? Rejection? Resentment? Loneliness?
Figure out the emotion you are fixated on and then think about IT rather than them, because you only perceive them to be that way. You don't really know how they feel about life and about themselves. Find out what button their Image pushes inside of You and work on relieving that!!
2007-06-13 14:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way besides time. Don't try to forget something. It's like trying not to think about elephants. I've been trying to not think about Rosie O'Donnell, Cher, Britney Spears and others for quite some time. Take it from me, it doesn't work.
2007-06-13 14:08:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋