At school my 2 best friends hate each other and i am stuck in the middle. 1 of them seems to be trying to turn my other friends agenst me and running off from me all because i am hanging around with my other friend (the 1 she hates) i dont no wot to do and i feel depressed all of the time.
what should i do???
2007-06-13 07:00:48 · 39 answers · asked by ~*--->..Becca..<---*~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The best thing you probably can do is talk to both your friends about how you feel about the situation. If they're your best friends they care about you and how their feud is making you feel too.
Also, you might want to consider their points of view. Have they always disliked each other or is this something new? Do either feel betrayed by you because you're friends with the other? Is there anything you can do to alleviate the tension between the two? The whole situation sounds somewhat childish from an outside view, and you may end up having to just choose sides and let one go. (I'd pick the one that's not avoiding and backstabbing you by trying to turn others against you)
2007-06-13 07:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by angeltear757 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here you can do only one thing which seems to be obvious. Take out some reason such as birthday, gathering anything. Call your two friends but don’t tell anyone of them that you are calling the other. When they will arrive at your home, talk to them directly, ask them what’s the problem and what’s going wrong. There must be some misunderstandings between two of them. You tell them that both matters a lot in your life and you can’t miss anyone of them. They will understand your feelings if they are your true friends. Try it out. I hope it will work.
2007-06-13 07:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by magnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will blow over eventually. I would disassociate with them until it does. Don't get caught in the middle. Be the bigger person and tell them you aren't choosing sides you are going to wait until everyone is friends again.
Or if they are your only friends...just make sure when you are with each of the girls the subject does not come up about the other girl. Don't gossip...that's how rumors start and feelings get hurt. They should never turn you against your friends.....it's immature.
2007-06-13 07:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by KR52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. That is between them and if they try to put you in the middle tell them that you are friends with both and to leave you out of it. Sometimes you need to avoid the drama. If they are really your friends, they will respect your decision. I had this problem and I am still friends with everyone even though there is anymosity with others in the group. You can learn to balance the two! Just make sure they understand your position and that things are not going to change from your standpoint. You shouldn't have to choose and they shouldn't make you.-
2007-06-13 07:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by jetskichick25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite them both out to a public place, like lunch at a restuarant. That way they will be less likely to make a seen. Tell them if they are your true friends then they need to come and meet you there. (If it's in your house or at school, they could get loud and very dramatic). Sit them down and tell them that this is really effecting you because you love them both dearly. That you feel guilty and you havent even done anything wrong. Ask themt o put it behind them and move on.
2007-06-13 07:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by A little Southern Comfort 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them both know that you have no problem like them at the trouble they may have with the other girl is non of your business. If one of them is trying to hurt you for your acting in this matter. Stop seen them. They are not really your Friend. Some teenagers count the number of people that they can make do things for them as Friends. You know the Click your in your out that kind of thing. It is something that can scar people for life. It one that do it generally fine theirself in low paying jobs because a boss cannot afford to have that kind of person in a managers positions. So stand your ground and like who you like for who they are not for who they hang with
2007-06-13 07:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they are not really good friends are they? If they are getting jealous over you, you need to tell them to go solve their problems and then come back to you. It is not fair to you that they fight, piss and moan. A true friend will stick by no matter what even if the other friends dont like each other they will try to get along for your befit. Good luck
2007-06-13 07:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Broken Lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell each of them that you are not going to take sides. you are both of their friends and see what they say. they make take it hard at the time but soon they will realize that they were wrong to break up the true friendship that they had with you. as long as you are happy being friends with the two of them then continue to be. your happiness is truly the only thing that matters in life. hope this helps. good luck!
2007-06-13 07:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to fix this situation, you need to find out what each party wants from you. If you are prepared to try to give it to them, fine. If not, end the grief from both of them. They are just playing you and you will be hurt no matter what you do. It's time for new "Friends" that will not beat you up.
2007-06-13 07:19:27 · answer #9 · answered by GRUMPY1LUVS2EAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let that get to you and if the other girls stop talking to you because the other one is telling them stuff than they are not your friends and she is not a good friend either b/c she is makeing others not like you so let them say whatever and get you new friends that wont make you stress like that. and let me tell you after you end skool forget about friends b/c none of them will be there after skool is over and its working time. so yeah just find new friends
2007-06-13 07:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋