how to deal with a anger when you get into an arguement with your spouse
2007-06-13 06:40:48 · 11 answers · asked by Peter R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
walk away until you can calm down and view things rationally.
2007-06-13 06:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think before you speak...and think about what you have just said! If you take that extra second or so to think about the consequences of what you are saying (be it more anger from your spouse or hurt feelings) you may be able to turn the conversation from and argument to a compromise. Always try to be the biger person and have patience with the one you love. Good Luck!
2007-06-13 13:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by steph_the_chef 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the romm both of you are at and dont go back at least foe 20 sec.dont think about the arguing or anything that has to do with that just ignor what happen and dont make a big deal over it than. get your mind on something else that make syou happy and than act like nothing evr happend if she keeps on going just leave the room again or leave the house and stay away until she calms down but dont let things like that get to you and try not to argue with her just listen to her and dont say nothing and itll be way much better and soon ennough you guys will stop arguing so much
2007-06-13 13:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a moment and realize that arguing is not wrong. You are presenting your side and listening to her side. Allow logic to control the out come.
If the argument get emotional its pointless. Emotions tell use how we are feeling, but they doesn't tell us the truth.
"You feel I am wrong and I feel you are wrong."
Emotions are just extreme opinions and are worthless when compared to fact and logic.
Anger just shows how determined you are to not lose, but doesn't say you are right.
Pay attention to the argument and when you see it start to get emotional laugh. Keep focused and you will solve the problem. My wife hates it when I point out that what she wants is only an opinion and I just don't agree.
Then she makes a threat of some sort and I tell her now she just trying to be a bully and I still disagree, but I say it with a smile on my face to which just get her so mad, but eventually she realizes that I'm seeing it as a game and I take nothing she say seriously.
2007-06-13 14:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what about it?
If you want to know how to deal with your anger, first of all let go of the emotional attachment to the argument.
I know that sounds hard, but take a deep breath and analyze what she is saying, and then examine her complaint logically, don't take it as a personal attack even if she means it as one, treat it as an opportunity to examine why you are fighting.
Beyond that... take anger management classes.
2007-06-13 13:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by Teclis98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when ever / if i get into an argument with my girl and i start to get to the point that im in rage, i just tell her i need a few minutes to calm down, i go out side, might punch something, to calim down. then continue to try and solve the problem.
you cant argue when your mad, it never works so just gove yourself time to get calm again.
explain this to her, let her know to be quiet for a few minutes.
thats how i do it
2007-06-13 13:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by more then you know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for a walk. My husband gets upset and he goes for a walk, while he is out,if i am upset i clean the house.
2007-06-13 13:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually put up with that crap? ..haha! just kidding.. If you love someone you can stand them no matter how obnoxious they get
2007-06-13 13:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rip there freaking head off
2007-06-13 13:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do don't raise your voice and don't make them feel stupid!
2007-06-13 13:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by tilly a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋