OKay so.. I was talking to this guy a while ago and it wasn't too serious. well it wasn't working at all and in the mean while I find out i'm pregnant. SO.. i told him and for a while he was just calling me all the time and bothering me.. really working my nerves. That escalated into him calling me making very nasty comments saying i was in an inter racial relationship and making very racial comments. This was not true and if it was what the hell did that matter... so right now we don't speak which I love. I'd rather do it by myself but what do I do if he calls and wants to be involved? I don't want to deny him his right but he is just not someone I want to be around my baby... I don't want a hateful child. PLease help!!
2007-06-13 06:30:54 · 5 answers · asked by Daniyells 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd tell him i'm not pregnant anymore but he knows where I live and he circles my street from time to time. His moods changes by the minute, Also I don't want to be that kind of person. I don't have hate in my blood...
2007-06-13 08:28:30 · update #1
Ain't it just so? Your boyfriend and his ilk give love a black eye!
As for this creep---after he left you with nasty, hurtful words considering your very vulnerable condition, how can there be any doubt in your mind about what you have to do next? You're alone and you're free to do whatever you want to do with your life and this baby's. Don't you know that the other definition of freedom is "when there's nothing more to lose?"
He had his chance to lay claim to something he accomplished. He could have feathered a nest for you to make you fall a bit pleasant---or made other plans. That is cowardly, irresponsible, insensitive. It makes one feel like puking.
As to what wise thing you'll say to this guy when he shows up?
Tell him to go jump and shake hands with the devil!
2007-06-13 07:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by ravishingV 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woa. That's a tough situation. How far along are you? If you're not that far, perhaps you can have a heart-to-heart with him and let him know that you will not tolerate his attitude about other races. Let him know that you don't want your child to be around that. You can 'work' on him.
If you don't have a lot of time, just put your foot down. Give him an ultimatum and then threaten him with a restraining order if he doesn't stop harrassing you.
Good luck with everything!
2007-06-13 08:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by YSIC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing during this time is that you take care of yourself and keep yourself calm and at a low level of stress.
It might be best to take some time to really think about this from a long term perspective and what you would want for your child. Maybe you can try and talk to him rationally about the situation and your thoughts for moving forward. Things are better dealt with when everyone is thinking rationally and calm. Maybe its giving the situation time to settle and eventually everything will fall in its place.
Congrats and Best of luck
2007-06-13 06:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by PetuniaFritz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you made a misake, and that you're not pregnant after all, or anything just to get him off your back. You don't need this kind of stress. I don't think he really deserves any rights since he has been nasty to you.
Congratulations on your baby to be!
2007-06-13 06:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance around his child and KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT. If it seems like he is not good for your child ask him to stay away for awhile. If he refuses get a restraining order. Do not call the police. They will put him in jail just for profit. He may not deserve their treatment.
2007-06-13 06:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋