How many chances do you give someone before it's "over"?

Answer 1

i say it depends on what they have done. certain things are deal breakers - for me, things like violence, threats, cheating, or lying. in the case of those things, one chance, which is talked about in the beginning of the relationship. but for other things, like someone with annoying habits (i.e. having a temper, or being late) who is trying work toward understanding... i say look for REAL effort in him/her trying to meet your needs & respect you, as long as they do not cross the line to something scary.

honestly, i think if you are even asking this question you probably know the answer. i stayed in a bad relationship for 12 years, continually hoping things would change. if i had those years back i would do things very differently. i have learned to have much more self-respect & i have learned that i have the right to be happy & be respected as well as to respect others.

Answer 2

There's no answer to this question because every situation is different. If two people break up over something minute, their relationship is probably not strong enough to handle the bigger stuff when it comes along. If people break up over something larger, then why would they want to be together if those larger things are happening? Situations where you should never even consider a second chance would be things like abuse (physical, verbal, mental), dishonesty and cheating. If those things are happening in a relationship, there's something wrong with the relationship that's not going to change.

If you break up over little disagreements, you should look at the relationship and try to figure out why those little things led to something as big as a breakup instead of just giving each other space for a couple days.

In my experience, and this is in no way scientific, only about 20% or 30% of "second chance" relationships are successful. Third attempts, I'd say that goes down to 5% or 10%.

If there's something precipitating the breakups, that's what needs to be addressed in order for the relationship to even have a shot of being successful. Too many couples get back together solely based on the "good times" and forget about the reasons the break up happened in the first place but those things don't go away. They'll come up again and odds are, the couple will react the same way. No one deserves that roller coaster. True love has it's ups and downs but it's not something you should ever be miserble trying to find.

Answer 3

Usually depending on the particular situation it is fair to give a person 2 chances. If felt that you dont think it will happen again and it doesn't, then the person cares to enough to use their chance wisely. If not kickem to the door because if you let them get away with again and again they will continue to do it because now theyve realized they have gained dominance over you, which never leads to anything good.

Answer 4

I don't even call it a chance. I pretend to give him or her a chance by testing it to see if he/she goes for it JUST TO SEE if the "chance" I'm about to give will be honored. Leave the door open wide and dare you to come in - if you still have a gut. Chance is like saying "I forgive you" but before I forgive you I need you to learn something. Maybe sit and think about it for a long time and if you can handle it, you'll have me back.

Is this zero?

Answer 5

HOW can you trust someone when your best and closest friend lied to you? Give them one chance. every someone should get one chance . What did they do to deserve this last chance? How many chances have you given this someone?

Answer 6

Everyone deserves a second chance. Your second chance may be at a better relationship with someone else. Ditch the jerk if he does you wrong.

Answer 7

I give a lot of chances I think. But sometimes I think I give only one chance. iono is the best answer I think. But this is all what I think.

Answer 8

One, look at it this way if someone repeats their mistake they obviously weren't sorry the first time. Zero, if they hit you, from my experience their are hitters and non-hitters and no in between. From your picture you look like a very pretty girl who doesn't need to take any crap from anyone.

Answer 9

in my case, I gave too many! I feel, the more chances you give, the more you get hurt.

now I live by the saying " fool me once, shame on you - fool me twice, shame on me."

if they don't get it after the first chance given, bye-bye.

Answer 10

Depends on the situation,maybe i will give chances and maybe no i wont!!