What happened and how did you and your spouse get through it? Did the challenge make the marriage stronger? I'd love to hear your story. Thank you for taking time to answer.
2007-06-13 05:52:04 · 15 answers · asked by historybuff33 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Infedelity, abuse, and alcoholism. We split up and got back together, split up and got back together, etc.. Trying to work things out after 2 years of separation. It is hard, I still have trust issues. I wouldn't bother, but we have 3 children together and I always told myself when I was a little girl that I would be with the man who I had children with for the rest of my life. He is better this time. Put down the alcohol. Big difference. All I know is if you can't stick with someone and work your problems out, you will always run from problems and I am not a quitter. So wish me luck!
2007-06-13 06:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
we were teenage parents - married and bought a house a month after i graduated high school - have been married 18yrs now and have 3 kids. Just being so young with so much responsibility was tough. We didn't have much money in the beginning but we survived. We didn't get to go out with our friends and do the things they did -which was tough. a trip to the movies once every couple of months was a big deal!! But we seemed to manage to get thru it by learning to accept it and by enjoying the things that we did have - mainly each other.
Today we make 4 times the amount what we did back then and we have better things - which does makes life a little easier - but its fun sometimes now to sit back and laugh and wonder how we ever did it back then. Funny the things you learn to appreciate - and especially how you learn to appreciate each other. I would have to say that it definitley played a part in making the marriage strong.
2007-06-13 06:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by lambchop09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the biggest challenge was learning to give and take. We were both somewhat headstrong and used to doing things our own way and didn't really want to change because our own way was right. Changing on both sides was not the easiest thing but the fact we were able to made it a much stronger marriage. The pastor told us before we got married that each of us should try to make it a 60-40 relationship and try to give 60% to the other partner. We didn't always do that but trying to do that I am sure helped.
2007-06-13 05:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to have a girlfriend 2 hours each day. I found myself with a wife 24 hours a day. The mutual politeness and respect for each other remained. However, we each had to face our 100% personalities, which naturally carried many disagreements, especially from the male and female points of view. Solution: we both learned to "compromise", we learned we were not perfect, but via "friendly dialog" we could achieve a level of mutual satisfaction in every subject. We also learned there were areas where either one of us performed better (typically decorating for the female, fixing mechanical things for the male). The secret is to take and to give, without exceeding either one. That will keep both partners happy, so they can concentrate on what brought them together in first place: love. P.S.: our society has become a me, me, me, take, take, take selfish generation, which often explains the increase in divorce rate as well as in the numbers of single parents.
2016-03-13 22:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest challenge was when 9 months into our engagement my fiance told me there is a woman out there who claims to have had his child, but didn't want him in their lives. I'll let you know what happens because honestly I don't know if I am willing to go back after that kind of deception. If you can hide a child, you can hide anything........I'm glad you asked this, however because I wonder if it is possible to move beyond this.
2007-06-13 05:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His family has been such a challenge for me because they did not want us to marry. I have tried very hard to be sweet and I think he appreciates that. I think every challenge makes a marriage stronger.
2007-06-13 09:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
biggest challenge overcome marriage work
2016-02-02 01:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by Maryjane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the biggest challenge I had to learn was that marriage is a daily choice.
I can live without my wife, but I choose to be with her and the same goes for her choosing to be with me.
Its with this realization that I am free to be myself and for her to be herself. Neither one of us has to pretend to be something we are not and its our choice to accept each other as they are or end it. Knowing that what you have can end at any moment makes you value it a little more.
2007-06-13 06:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding a balance between alone time and together time with my very independent wife, and feeling like we are both contributing equally to the relationship. This is still a challenge and I expect it to coninue.
2007-06-13 05:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making time for myself and still taking care of the time needs my wife has. I haven't solved it, because there are always underlying issues involved but I see that we've made inroads.
2007-06-13 06:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋