How should a loving woman treat her loving partner with erectile dysfunction?

Question

I've seen the drug commercials ... and doctors are so sterile.

My question is on an intimate level ... how will the man act (angry, sad, scape-goating, lazy) ... how does a woman act in reaction to his reactions and emotions (said or unsaid emotions).

Answer 1

I would imagine that a woman that loved her husband would treat him with understanding and compassion. Just because sex is limited or over doesn't mean that a lifetime of marriage and caring is gone. Many diseases contribute to this such as diabetes, prostrate issues, certain drug interactions, etc. It is neither partners fault and I am sure that an alternative activity can be found that would still give both people pleasure. All it takes is good communications.

Answer 2

It's obvious that you love your husband, even though there is a lack of physical activity, and the best way to "treat" him is to show him you love him - now more than ever. He needs that extra reassurance from you, even though you may think he knows that you already love him. Surely he feels totally inadequate and less of a man, but you need to make him believe otherwise.

Try to spend a day or evening doing the things that you know he will love... like cooking his favorite meal and eating it by candlelight, giving him a massage or even just cuddling on the couch together while you watch a movie.

Also, even though sex is out of the question, there's no reason why he can't still please you sexually. This might be able to help boost his self esteem, knowing that he can still make you happy. Plus, one night of expirementing this way might help him overcome his hurdles with erectile dysfunction.

I'm sure you've done your own research into the causes and cures, but try it again. Make sure there's not something in his diet that he can change or a natural supplement that he can take that would be much less invasive than the usual drugs. Try these websites...

www.webmd.com
www.naturalcures.com

Good luck and kudos to you for being a great wife!!

Answer 3

For all we know you could be the problem. Ever consider it might not just be "his fault" You may very well be the most beautiful woman on the face of the earth or you may be the wife that has plopped on 70 pounds and has a new set of cottage cheese thighs and looks like some type of Buffarillia (half Buffalo, half Gorillia) His "power shortage" may be a medical issue and discussed with his doctor, even if the doctor is tipped off by you a day or so earlier by a phone call, to discuss it with him out of the blue at a check-up. When all else fails go with one of 3 options.

1. blow him.
2. masturbate in front of him.
3. add your best friend to the mix.

if those dont work nothing will and you should stock up on Energizers.

Answer 4

With Viagra.

I'm sorry, it was the first thing that came into my mind.

Men are very sensitive about this issue. Communication is not going to be easy because they don't want to talk about it.

If the man you love has this issue, you should find ways of intimacy/climax that do not require erections. There are many ways he can meet your desires, but you'll have to ask him what you can do for him.

Never, ever, no matter how mad you get, use this as a weapon in an argument. You may make up, but I doubt the relationship would ever fully recover.

Answer 5

First he should see a Dr. and determine the cause and is their help and does he want the help if it means dangerous methods.
Treat him as usual with lots of loving hugs and kisses and flatter him (he is probably depressed over this) like tell him you are sticking close to him in the grocery store so the other women keep their paws off him. He will smile because of that kindness you afford him.

Answer 6

I think that a truly loving partner of a man with ED would treat him as lovingly as he/she did before he developed the condition.
There are more than one ways to pleasure a partner and common sense would dictate that an erection is not necessary in sharing love and affection.
Good luck

Answer 7

what do you mean "treat .... with erectile dysfunction"?

if your guy has that, you should talk to him about it & get him to go to the doctor; it could be a symptom of diabetes, high blood pressure, or other health concerns. Regardless, there are medications to help.

Answer 8

You need to encourage him to see a doctor. It will be hard for him to do.

You need to talk about it, but don't over do it. Despite what alot of women want to believe, guys really don't want to talk about their problems/feelings. They do like solutions!

Answer 9

eventhough a man may have ed, there will be at least one occasion when he can be hard. get him to share this and turn this into a real thing.

Answer 10

take him a doctor who specialises in erectile dysfunction..