When girls fancy me I am never interested, it's the ones who don't that I chase. Don't mind the fancying part as the chase is fun, but recently fell in love with someone who doesn't feel the same which is killing me. any idea's why to stop future heartache?
2007-06-13 05:00:05 · 14 answers · asked by mistahclarke 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Have you perhaps been hurt in the past by a relationship that didnt work out?
sounds like perhaps you are going for unavailable girls
ask yourself what it is you want from a relatioship and what it is that stops you liking the girls you attract. if you always seem to attract the same kind of girl, ask yourself what signals you are giving off, how you come across or where your going to meet girls
on the other hand, if the minute pretty much any girl is interested you back off, you need to resolve some intimacy and commitment issues to resolve this
also remember sometimes we just fall for the wrong person and whilst it hurts, you need to make an effort to move on by gonig out and meeting new people. the hurt will hurt less with time
good luck x
2007-06-13 05:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by hazei_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. People grow up. That first puppy love that feels so desperate and overwhelming isn't necessarily what you feel when you find another person at a different age/place in life. Friendship and comfort and compatibility seem so much more important later in life. That's just what I think obviously. I think you get a puppy love, a love that is suited to stability and family, and a love that is friendship. If you are lucky one person gives you all three types, for most of us I think you are still considered lucky with two out of three. (And Meatloaf's right, two out of three aint bad lol).
2016-05-19 01:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't have a telepathic connection with girls.
Although it's human psychology not value anything that gives it's self to you to easily: If these girls didn't fancy you you'd properly be more interested, the chances are one day you'll wish you got one of those girls when they fancied you.
It is possible to make girls love you; if you make them associate you with their favorite emotions. But this is very difficult and requires constant devotion to her. It's best not to try this until you know her very well. Try going out with a girl who fancies you while you get to know her.
2007-06-13 05:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by Samalamlam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you Virgo ?
If you are not than stop fooling around, there is difference in assumptions and reality, "You fell in love" what is it, did you fall from a tree? You fell in love -is your problem why you expects her to fall for you. What is so special about you and why she should fall for you. What is it that you have and other boys do not have?
Always remember "love" is a two way communication , your love is just one half of the loop, the other half is from her, wait and watch , if she responds ( looks, gestures, words, smile) than okay you are on the right track , keep trying, one day you will get her company.
But if she is also Virgo? God save you both.
2007-06-13 05:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by SATISH KUMAR N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's one of the many downers we go through like forgetting to have a go on the lottery and your numbers come up or buying a new car and then a week later seeing one in a garage for five grand less, sucks don't it.
I've been there, done that and literally worn the t-shirt
2007-06-13 05:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be a teenager right? When I was your age, every girls I kissed, I thought it was love. Also, you use the word "fancy." Why?
The good news is that you are finding girls to have relationships with and the more you experience those relationships the more you'll mature and know when you have found the right one for you.
2007-06-13 05:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's not love - that's hormones. Love requires time (lots of it) and sacrifice. It is looking out for, and giving preference to the beloved - their benefit, not yours (hence sacrificial.) otherwise its just an egotistical, possessive (gotta have it) roller coaster. Thus it is also a choice. The greatest things you can offer a another human being is to say, "of the 4 billion people on earth, I chose you to love, excluding all others." Then stick to it .
2007-06-13 05:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get yourself in life trouble of staying with a woman who is very different from you. Make friends with the type that has same values like you and have fun.
2007-06-13 05:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by Gladys.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're trying to hrad. Stop looking for a girlfriend and the RIGHT one will come along when the time is right, enjoy the single life till then
2007-06-13 05:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by willow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the grass is always greener on the other side of the hill as the proverb says and you always want what you can't have.
2007-06-13 05:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by TAFF 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋