Really Depressed?!?

Question

I am 11 weeks and I am so emotional today and I don’t know how to snap out of it. I am feeling very overwhelmed and very depressed, like I can’t seem to do anything right! I keep asking myself, if I am this messed up now…what’s gonna happen when the baby comes? I am so financially strapped that it’s causing me to almost have a melt down. Is anyone else going through this? Did you go through a depression state when you were pregnant? How do I snap out of this depression? I can’t stop crying! Help!

I still have 6 months before the baby comes but I can't help think about everything I need to have done before then.

Answer 1

Oh boy did I go through this every one of my 4 pregnancy's. If its unplanned its such a shock and no one is ever fully prepared. You will be ok I promise. We have lived through the same things your going through. Start to check out baby stores just to see the kinds of things you might want. Start to slowly buy one or two things at a time so that by the time the baby comes you will have everything. Check out your state's agency's to see if they are able to offer help money wise. And see about getting some counseling too. The best place to go for baby stuff is resale stores. There are tons of kids resale stores all over the place. Never buy new things for a baby they are just too expensive. And new stuff is what a baby shower is for. You will get past the depression as time goes on and you will be an amazing mother. If you ever need to talk feel free to e-mail me.

Answer 2

I went though the same thing and still have my bad days at 27 weeks. What I did to make things go a little quicker was make a small list of things to get for that week. When I got paid I would go buy a bag of diapers. I can't really speak for the financial situation your in, but I know plenty of women who have been there. They looked locally for places that helped out pregnant women, and got tons of help. I know that your baby shower will be a big help so remember that. Just remember your still early enough in your pregnancy to have everything come together in the end. Some places hand out diapers, other programs like WIC, will help you get a car seat. They also have a food program to cut down on the grocery money you have to spend. Don't worry!!! Everything will happen. Ask people you know, or contact your local government office and ask them what assistance programs pregnant women have in your area. If you need to cry,then cry. Talking to my baby helped a lot too. Remember your never alone! I think every pregnant woman has been depresed at some point. It's hormones, and when you have added stress it makes it even worse. So call around and see what you can find. Make a list of what you would like to accomplish for the week, keep all your change in your container for a month or two and see how much it adds up to. You'll be ok! Good luck & Congrats!

Answer 3

It's OK and totally normal - just remind yourself this is a new adventure and what you are really worried about is the unknown so work on knowing:
Budget - Go th the library and get a book on home budgeting I would bet there are many ways you could be saving money by using coupons and sticking to a list.
Concentrate on the positive - get a few fragrent herbs or plant some flowers to grow as your pregnacy progresss they will be so lovely in the room when baby gets here.
Relax - take a stroll in the park or sit under a tree and read a favorite book let your mind wander from time to time.
Family - you have resourses- use them - ask friends and family who recently had children if they have any advice or items they can give you to start setting up for the baby. They will be happy to help and you will be reassured of their support.
Look around your neighborhood for resale childrens stores - you will find beautiful baby things for a fraction of the retail cost.
I was 22 and terrified with my first - in a new state with no family (except my x's) and I had no idea what was going to happen. I just took it slow and attacked each concern - I got to know my neighbors and they were so valuable they even found me a crib from one of their friends and helped me set up a nursey in my walk in closet and set up a canvas closet for me. You will be amazed at the kindness of people when they see a mother in distress. If there is a community center near you see if they have a new mothers group and talk to new moms they will be a great assett as you progress. Just remember it always works out - not always the way you planned but it works. I now have 2 more children and am married to a terrific and supportive man and together we own a recycling store - not what I thought I would be doing but it is very rewarding. Just know that you will bo OK.

Answer 4

I was an emotional wreck the first trimester with both pregnancy's. Take it one day at a time. You will get through this. We were also having financial worries when my first was born, but every time we seemed to need something it was provided to us. Worrying about the future now does nothing but cause you undue stress. Think about what you can do today. One day at a time. Take some time for yourself. It will work out! And when the baby comes, you will be so much in love with little toes and a little nose, you will know all your troubles are worth it! Also, Talk to your ob if the depression gets to be too much, they can help. Bless You:)

Answer 5

i know exactly how you feel. i am a mother of two. i would love to be able to tell you this won't happen anymore, but it will. (even a little while after the baby) it just that there are so many new hormones/chemicals running through all of you right now, it can completely mess with your normalcy. i know it may be hard, just try to not focus on all the things you need right now. just trust that things will come together for you, especially if they're supposed to. speak out peace full serene things over yourself and baby all the time. ( i know it sounds nuts, just try it) positive reinforcement if you will. the crying comes and goes, sometimes for awhile sometimes not. it's all part of the pregnancy.
congrats to you and blessings to baby
hope this helps

Answer 6

I was the same way around 11 weeks not I'm 27 weeks. What I did I would make myself be very busy. Go to the park, go look at baby clothes. Go visit people you have not seen in a long time. Make a list of baby items you need. Stuff like that.

Answer 7

honey i went through that when i was prego with my first one my husband and i were so broke then i remember being so hungry and i would look in the fridge and there was like milk and bread.. so i did eat at my mom's a lot.. but i was there plus i had no car and no cable no body to come and visit couldnt afford to have the air on in the dead of summer.. i was soo lonely.. if there is anyway that you can find something to do that you enjoy that doesnt cost much or no money at all try that definatly talk to your doc about what is going on.. see if you maybe can get some government help

Answer 8

it's the pregnancy hormones. Which is normal! I sometimes feel depressed and stressed out during my pregnancy. I just watch TV or go on the internet to get my mind off of thinking about whatever that is on my mind. Just try not to be depress. Think about what it can do to your baby and I'm sure you can hold your tears in. Be strong for your baby. Your baby is counting on you!

Answer 9

It is normal to be emotional during the first trimester. It's all the hormones. I would cry for absolutely no reason at all or over just stupid stuff. Don't worry, you'll even out soon and be feeling better.

Take a deep breath and work on one thing at a time.

Good luck!

Answer 10

I'm only a guy -- but I know this is very common because of the abundance of hormones rushing through your body -- Slow down on the Carbs and eat more fat and protein -- There are very important amino acids in protein (EGGS) that will bring your levels back to normal. Also, fat helps you relax -- Don't worry -- Fat is not stored as fat -- Sugar is