1st time mom here...How do i?

Question

I've always been a very anxious and nervous person ... How do I prevent myself from being so anxious all the time and learn to just chill out and relax?

Answer 1

Well, you're already anxious about being anxious all the time.
I guess you need a lot of trust and faith.
Trust God that His plans are always the best.
Have faith in Him that you are part of His plans.

Here's a song I love to listen to when I start to feel anxious:

He Knows My Name
(Tommy Walker)

I have a maker
He formed my heart
Before even time began
My life was in his hand
Chorus
He knows my name
He knows my every thought
He sees each tear that falls
And hears me when I call
I have a Father
He calls me his own
He'll never leave me
No matter where I go
Chorus
He knows my name
He knows my every thought
He sees each tear that falls
And hears me when I call

Answer 2

I have always been a very anxious and nervous person. So much so that I have been known to have a panic attack for no reason at all. After having twins it only got worse. I had to learn to slow down and really find a way to take time for myself. It also really helps to talk myself through things... I just tell myself that things aren't as bad as I am making them in my head and if I breath and count to ten I usually calm down till I am OK.

Answer 3

I am the same way, occasionally. This is what I do to help. Specially during the onset of a panic attack.

-remember I cannot control everything in life
-breath for 4 mins before getting out of bed (when I can) and for 4 mins before I fall alseep. By breath I mean, inhale slowly at the pace of "and-one-and-two-and-three-and-four" and then exhale in the same beat. There should be a slight pause at the top of the inhale, allow this. Focus on your breathing my placing your hands on your belly at the rib cage and feel the breathing. Feel for your ribs moving out with each breath, not your belly moving up.
-drink some chamomile tea during the day
-cut back on coffee or switch to decafe for each cup passed your morning cup.
-drink lots of water
-take time for yourself, read a book, paint your nails, play a card game
-have a nice long bath with lavender, or chamomile
-if it is getting very bad look into taking some St. John's Wort, this may cause the effectiveness of some birth control to be reduced to read carefully.
-stretch in the evenings, or do some sort of working out during the day like yoga, pilates, jogging, etc.
-eat well.

I hope you learn to manage your anxiousness a little better. Each person finds something that helps them, keep at it.

*sometimes a good orgasm helps too*

Answer 4

Try not let it get the better of you now your pregnant. Just remember the calmer you can keep yourself the happier your baby will be. All emotions are felt by the baby right thru pregnancy. Focus on happy thoughts/ feelings as much as you can. Do fun stuff/ relax when you need too. Read lot's pregnancy magazines so your informed what to expect on your journey to be a mum. Don't allow your mind to run wild, try really hard. Unless there is a problem, don't let your brain create one. All is fine and ok, your doin great. All the best.

Answer 5

Well there are allot of things you can do. Do something that you like. Read a book. Do something that takes you away to your own little world. I herd that when you go to those places where those people put needles on your back you come out really relaxed. But i don't know anything about that. So yeah just do something relaxing. Maybe you can take a long bath while listening to soft music.

Answer 6

Its very important to make sure you get time to yourself to relax and be your own person.

Some of the things I do:
Take long hot baths and lock my husband and kids out of the bathroom. I'll listen to music, read a book or magazine or even do sudoku puzzels.

Exercise! It feels SO good when you're done exercising and its quite peaceful if you can do it alone.

Sit out on my porch when my husband gets home from work.

Answer 7

It just takes time. Find a way to have a few hours a week of "grown-up time" either by your self or with friends/family. Only other thing I can say is welcome to parenthood- get used to it, you will be anxious and worrying for the next 20 years. If its too bad, talk to you doctor.

Answer 8

You won't believe me until you hold that baby for the first time, but it will all come to you. You will just know what the baby needs. You will figure out the different cries and what they mean. You will know the difference in the cry for hunger, cry for being uncomfortable, cry for wanting Mom, etc. I had not one nurturing bone in my body, until I had my first child. He is 7 now and I have managed to keep him alive. (He did have cookies and Doritos for breakfast this morning, but it is summertime). LOL!!!

Answer 9

just going to have to take it day by day and challenge by challenge. It wont be easy as you will find yourself worried about most things - but then 1st time mums do.

Try and take a step back from situations and look at them again - see if you can handle them differently.

Answer 10

Just take a deep breath...and chill out