My best friend and i talk about everything, the other day i was a bit shocked, she told me she has been thinking about what it would be like to kiss etc... a girl....and that she has been having dreams about her husbands best friend(male)
We are both married (to men) and have children.
Has anyone else ever been in this situation? Is she trying to tell me she's not happy with her marriage????
2007-06-13 02:51:46 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
So she's bi-curious who hasn't been at some point?
Personally myself I'm curious what it'd be like with another girl and am in a perfectly happy long term relationship (9 yrs) too.
Erm dreams about the husbands best friends aren't too uncommon either. I've always been curious about what it'd be like but wouldn't do it as I'm happy with my man (I've only ever slept with him, this could be why she's been having the dreams!).
I'm sure if your friend was unhappy in her marriage she'd come out and tell you though. If you're really worried about it you could always ask her.
2007-06-13 02:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kym 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she just wants to try something she has thought of for a long time. Perhaps she is trying to tell you she's not happy with marriage. But rather than second guess what she is trying to say - try to get her to confide in you and REALLY tell you what she thinks. Do you think you two have a bond that she would feel safe telling you EVERYTHING? She must be able to trust you absolutely to tell you everything.
Dreams are sometimes involuntary. Thinking about kissing another woman is a conscious decision.
A lot of people get married thinking that it will mask the feelings of homosexuality. That is a shame when the real feelings come out later in life and can be devastating for the partner or spouse as well as the person having these feelings.
Maybe it's just nothing either. Could be just a little banter to try to gauge your feelings about the subject or a test to see if you will talk about it to someone else.
2007-06-13 10:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how long she's been married and if she got the chance to do much experimenting before she got married.
My guess is that she married young and didn't play the field or messed around with her girlfriends - I understand some girls do that sort of thing when they're exploring their sexuality (a bit like guys always compare their size) and perhaps she didn't get the chance to do that when younger
The fact she dreams about her husband's best friend suggests she is attracted to him although she may not want to do anything about it - it's subconscious - and again, some women do tend to find their friends' husbands/boyfriends/partners attractive in an untouchable kind of way ...
I wouldn't think she's unhappy in her marriage but she just fancies trying a few things.
2007-06-13 10:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dreaming about these things and actually doing them are two different things. I have some erotic dreams sometimes about people I would never fancy when I'm awake - and sometimes they are women - kissing and ETC. Only she knows what she is trying to tell you. If she is a good friend, then she should tell you if you ask. Or are you a bit afraid that she might want to kiss and do things with you? I suppose having an "affair" with another woman would still be looked upon as being unfaithful. Perhaps her sex life is just going through one of those boring times, and she just wanted to spice up the conversation. Just continue to be her friend and give her support if she needs it and, if she does come on to you, be honest with her and don't let it ruin your friendship.
2007-06-13 10:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by Normsgirll 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really maybe she is not happy the way she is most realationships would say and try to do anything to prove that she is not happy i would tell her to do whatever makes her feel better but hey maybe if she tries things with girls or others she will then make the decision if she really does or doesnt wnt to be with her husband...Just be there like a best friend!
2007-06-13 09:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok it is perfectly normal for someone to dream/fantisize about someone other than there significant other, and to be a bit courious about wanting to explore there sexuality, it dosent ultimatly mean they are unhappy in there curent relationship, more as they r coming to the relization that maybe something is lackin/missin from the relation ship, maybe intimacy perhaps or maybe just the stress from being a mother and wife, stuck in the same old routine, want to try something new just for a change? i cant say for sure im not her, u said u guys r best friends so if u r conserned just talk to her.
2007-06-13 10:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by shawty67 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She may not be happy or she may want to experiment sexually. She said she is only thinking about it so I dont know if you have anything to worry about. What if she were unhappy or actually kissed another woman, what would you do, tell her husband. She is telling you because she thinks she can confide in you. Either tell her she is wrong and not to tell you anything anymore or be a friend and listen and take it in
2007-06-13 09:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by dave n 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just harmless chit chat... unless she's putting her hand on your leg at the same time...? :P
Na, who isn't curious? It's just only the confident or drunk talk about it! I'm in a long-term hetro relationship (and happy!) but I've kissed a few girls, and it is different. It's 'softer'. I've never had the urge to be a 'lesbian', I was just curious, I think. It never went any further than a kiss.
I think she's just bringing it up, and unless she keeps talking about it, I wouldn't worry!
2007-06-13 10:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by *~Ally~* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont necessarily think she is trying to tell you that as people often have strange dreams and fantasies ..
I would ask her direct what she is trying to say .. she could be sounding you out for future activities, daydreaming and wanting to tell someone or as you say trying to say she is unhappy.
If you talk about everything then it should be easy to get to the root of it.
2007-06-13 09:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be she is just revealing to you what is on her mind. She feels she can trust you so maybe she just wants someone to hear her out.
Just be there for her and listen to her as she obviously can't tell her hubby about dreaming about his best friend and kissing women.
2007-06-13 09:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋