Am I cold hearted?

Question

A few years ago, I went to a lot of family funerals and did not cry, I had good memories of those members that passed away and I recalled those.

Then later in the year, I had to put my cat down...the vet gave him the shot and he died in my arms. I cried like a baby. Then it happenned to my other cat...same thing.

I did not cry at the funeral of my family members, but cried when my cats died....am I cold hearted?

I found out that the clay litter in my cats box was toxic...they would lick their paws and go into their digestive system.

Now I use natural litter.

Dave

Answer 1

In my eyes for you to even ask this ques shows that you are not cold hearted. You obviously wonder if you are because you care. I can say I love animals more than people most of the time. They are loyal & depend on us throughout thier lives. they are innocent and it is very hard when you lose them. I felt like I lost my best friend. I wave up to heaven to my animals that I have lost more than my family members. Damn, am I coldhearted?

Answer 2

No, you are not cold hearted. You just have a soft spot in your heart for animals. I know alot of people who won't cry over a death in the family, but will over cats and dogs. I mean, hey what's wrong with loving your animals, right? Alot of people don't cry at funerals because they don't want to cry in front of others, and by the time they get back home, they can't cry then, either. There are also some people who are very immune to human death because of the fact that they see it or hear about it all the time on TV. But you don't see a murder mystery or something like that with a bunch of animals, do you?

Answer 3

No your not cold hearted. I know this is going to sound bad but hear me out. WE are suppose to be happy when some one dies, because they have went to a better place. You know that in your heart.

Now with the cats, you have raised them, they are like your children. I cried when my dogs died. I have been to funerals and not cried at all.

Maybe you weren't that close to the family member.
As long as you remember these people with good memories that is all that counts.

Answer 4

You aren't cold hearted. If you were you'd never have cried for the cats either.

Sometimes its easier to accept the death of people, especially people you are not that close to, then to accept the death of a beloved pet.

The fact that it was the litter you used that poisoned them may also have helped make you feel guilty about their deaths?

People are just different from one another. We all react differently. Dont put yourself down because you didn't do what other people expect.

Answer 5

No I do not think you are cold hearted. Everyone reacts differently when someone dies. Some people are much more sensitivie to others. Perhaps when you cried for you cat you was letting out greif for others of families as well. Or you might just be someone who deals with death and greif very well and accepts it. Its the best way to be in this world I think.

Answer 6

No your not cold hearted. You cried because it died in front of you. Not seeing the thing die might make you less sad about it. I don't really cry at famiyly's funerals either. But the poeople dying is family I rarely know.

Answer 7

No, I don't think that you're cold-hearted! I think that you're just recalling the better memories of the family members that you've lost, and that's fine! I didn't cry at my mom's funeral, but whenever I think about her and go visit her at the cemetary, I bawl my eyes out.

The cats are like your children. (At least, my pets are.) I bet you were closer with your pets than your family.

Answer 8

No you are not cold hearted.

I get the same wya with animals. Your pets are with you daily for many years, that is not so with most family.

Plus humans have the understanding of death, I dont think animals really do. So I cant imagine being sick and not understanding what is happenening or not being able to tell someone whats hurting.

Answer 9

You may have felt some guilt at your cats death, as you are their owner and took it upon yourself to provide for them. The death of your family members, though tragic, may have seemed like something more beyond your control. Maybe this is why your family members deaths did not upset you as much.

Answer 10

I don't think so...I've done the same thing. I've mourned the loss of a pet with tears and not so much for a family member.
But all my family passings were expected. Until my granny passed, it was sudden. Knocked me on my @ss. Its been two years and I still catch my breathe.