one of my close pals was molested once as a kid.. she's 20 now and likely to get married in a few more years.. she's worried that she may not be a virgin. is she a virgin becoz she remembers no bleeding but does not remember whether tat guy penetrated her.. she says she felt odd walkin immediately later but now she cant remember anything how can she know her hymen broke??..she's to get married in a couple of yrs and this is bothering her.i dono how i can help her.. plzz help
2007-06-13 02:28:54 · 9 answers · asked by sure 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I'm really sorry this happened to your friend. It could be that he didn't penetrate but at that age she felt in pain anyway. Was there an investigation because the police might know...Just tell her that even if physically she isn't a virgin, emotionally she still is. If your virginity gets stolen it doesn't count in the same way and it's not until you willingly give it up that you're totally a non-virgin. Good luck to you both
2007-06-13 02:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by xangel123x 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your friend. Gynacologists are the people to see about that, but whether she is a virgin or not does not mean she is any more or less a women. The man she is going to marry must accept that it was not her fault and there was nothing she could do to stop it, if she has lost her virginity. Love the person for who they are and not whether they are a virgin or not. As she was 5 years old it means that she did not mean to do ** so she still is a virgin in my view and her hubby should not mind that if he loves her
2007-06-13 06:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to remember about the bad thing happened in her 5 years think about the future and a happiest life. In normal cases also for some girls hymen may be broken in an earlier stage of different reasons not of intercourse. so that is not a serious problem so be cheerful and expect a happy married life
2007-06-13 21:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your friend. Gynacologists are the people to see about that, but whether she is a virgin or not does not mean she is any more or less a women. The man she is going to marry must accept that it was not her fault and there was nothing she could do to stop it, if she has lost her virginity. Love the person for who they are and not whether they are a virgin or not.
God Bless!
*H*
2007-06-13 02:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like PP's answer.
She shouldnot be judged for not being a virgin before she is married, especially with the horror she went through when she was 5.
2007-06-13 03:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What ever you have explained does not show that your friend had any panitration and if at all it had been even then the same can be done without pennis penetration, such dancing, cycling and other athletic activities.
2007-06-13 03:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kabir S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other causes of ruptured hymen and she should not worry. It could rupture due to sports, horseriding etc. Hymenoplasty can be an answer if she is so touchy about it.
2007-06-14 08:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by lisathegr8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying and forget the past. Improve your looks and look for great future.
2007-06-13 19:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by sagarukin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she at present feels physically fine she is a virgin ......
Virginity lies in ones mind not body ...... tell her that ....
And yes **** that bastard who did that to her ...
2007-06-13 02:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by PP1234 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋