like she is 17 years old and his bf 20 years old and not even finish study like her also but she is preg and they do love each other what should we do somebody help we cant stop her bec she just run away if we dont accept her decision but im worried for her she dont know what she do bec she is young she think thats easy being merraid in that age thier situation, tell me ur openion pls asap.
2007-06-13 02:19:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yep, Monte and Ron White are right, "You can't fix stupid."
so don't be an enabler.
She has made her mistake, and seems determined to carry through. You can't help her. So don't help her. Let her learn from her mistakes. Let her find out that being a Mother at 17 is neither easy, fun, nor cheap. Don't be a second mother to the child. It is her kid, let it be her responsibility.
Let her learn that actions have consequences and parenthood is a MAJOR CONSEQUENCE. Let the burden be on her, at least until she is ready to listen to older more intelligent advise.
Doc
2007-06-13 02:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. You dont' want her to run away because anything can happen to her. She is going through so many emotions right now, that the last thing she needs is a bunch of people telling her that she is "stupid" and making the wrong decision. Yes she is young and she may have made a mistake but don't make it any harder for her by putting her down. Make sure she is going to the doctor and eating properly. If she is over stressed it is not good for the baby. If her boyfriend is sticking it out with her just wish them well and be there for them. Her life is not over it's just going to be a lot of work from now on.
2007-06-13 13:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be young but seems to know what she wants (for now). You say they are definitely in love so you should try to respect that. She sure got herself into some trouble here but it's not the end of the world.
I'd say be as supportive as possible and offer to help. This goes for the whole family. The more you are seen as on her side, the more she will listen to you and THEN you can influence her decisions and make sure she ends up OK. Good luck, I hope it all works out.
2007-06-13 09:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by One Voice In The Day Rings True 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to let her go and make her own mistakes. That is the only way she is going to learn. At least the guy she is preganet for is willing to marry her. Where I'm from, girls get preganet and never see the guy again. Try to compromise and see if she would finish school first and agree the whole family would there to support the wedding.
2007-06-13 09:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by talana b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just like Ron White Says "You can't fix stupid"
2007-06-13 09:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by Monte T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋