2 month old - controlled crying.?

Question

My 8 week old baby sleeps perfectly during the day but becomes funny at night time and gets distressed whenever I put her in her cradle, taking some hours to settle enough to sleep.
My husband wants to try leaving her to cry until she falls asleep but she gets more and more stressed, and says that i'm ruining her by only leaving it a few minutes before helping her. That she has to 'learn' to not boss us around. She is only 2 months OLD!
Tell me he's expecting too much from her!

Answer 1

I don't think that you should let your baby cry out because she is just too young. I think that you should just let her go to sleep when she's ready because she is going to follow her own pattern right now. I'm afraid to say that at 2 months it is okay for her to boss you around she's in control right now, but when she turns 6 months or so don't let her boss you around. LOL

Answer 2

I am a mother of 4 and grandmother of 2.

My experience has been that evenings can be more difficult because they get hungrier. Though now docs tell you to wait quite a long time before introducing new foods, 1/4t rice cereal (least likely to cause allergies) mixed in a bottle can go a long way toward helping a child feel satiated and sleep better. By the way, the extra sleep you'll get when your child sleeps makes you a much better parent!!! (and none of the 6 have food allergies).

I also understand the tension between wanting to comfort your child, and not wanting to "train" them to think that crying will remove them from the cradle.

I first make sure their needs are met, and then if the child is still fussy, I comfort the baby by rubbing his back while he's laying down. I will leave the room for a few minutes, come back and rub for another minute, leave for progressively longer periods, and repeat until the child is asleep. I avoid picking the child up--rewarding the crying--but want the infant to know it has not been abandoned, and that it will be comforted. A baby DOES need to feel its needs will be met to develop into a secure child (and adult).

The entire gang was pretty good about sleeping as babies.

As for "ruining" her and her "bossing" you around, that's attributing devious motives to an infant. Think in terms of rewards--what behavior would you like to encourage, and how would you reward it? Rather than "punishing" behavior you don't want to encourage, withold rewards for behavior you wish to discourage (i.e., picking her up every time she cries in the cradle.)

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

While I have let my child cry it out, I did not start until 6 months old. 2 months is way too young. Some will say 6 months is also, but we had a whole different situation. At two months old the baby is crying for a reason. Hunger, wetness, security needs. They do not have the ability to know how to manipulate their parents at that age. The concept is not there. A parent is there to meet the childs needs. No matter how often or what time of the day or night that need is required.

You know your child and what is best. You can never spoil a baby. Ever! Do what feels right for you.

It gets easier and better - promise.

Answer 4

HES EXPECTING TOO MUCH
personally i don't believe in crying out method..
She may be getting too much sleep during the day, Maybe way too overstimulated before bedtime, either way there is a reason why your child is inconsolable at that time.. try to figure it out.. Make sure there isnt a medical reason first, then watch your baby closely at that time, what does the family do, what does she do? Whats the difference between daytime naps and nightime routine? Next time she gets like this go in a completely dark closet and swaddle, give her a passy shh shh sh in her ear, if that helps, she gets overstimulated at night and doesnt know how to shut out the smiluli othen than crying... Also, have you established a good bedtime routine? time to start, do it exactly the same way same time every day, eventually she'll get the hang of it. She's only 2 months, her needs need to be met quickly in order to obtain a trustful relationship with parents.. You cannot spoil a BABY, tell your husband that.. She's crying because she needs you, it's her only way of communication :) Good Luck to all of you !

Answer 5

I don't believe that theory @ all, babies that young aren't able to comprehend such. They just know they need comforting. I mean come on they don't ask for much, just their basic needs. Food, shelter and love. I always go to my daughter. But I found that getting into a routine helps greatly. We get home from daycare, I feed her, we play, I give her some tummy time, we play somemore, by 7-7:30 we take a bath using that calming soap. Then we snuggle and I feed her & she just falls asleep usually by 8pm, then I move her to her bassinet (now starting to use the crib sometimes) She stays asleep 99% of the time.

Answer 6

I do agree with him...to a certain extent. I, personally, think the babies younger than 6 months should be attended to...coddled almost. You could wait like 10 min before going in and see if that helps, but my son(at 8 weeks) would just get himself so worked up after 10 min it actually made it harder! It may be that she needs to spend more awake time in her room/crib. Try getting her to lay in her crib and play with her there a bit everyday. That helped my son like his crib better. Good luck!

Answer 7

Your baby is WAY to young to let her cry it out. You may try keeping her awake a little more during the day, it sounds like she has her days and nights mixed up.

& Yes he is expecting too much from her!:)

Answer 8

Collick and the best remedy is to take the babies clothes off and lay her or him on your belly the heat from your body pulles the pain out of the babies stomach. kinda like a heat pad

Answer 9

Do the "15 minute" recurring, pass in, and soothe him slightly. perchance he's feeling slightly discomfort or get him the "chilly teether" to calm his discomfort down slightly extra. even as they are teething, no longer in ordinary words do toddlers sense some discomfort, yet additionally they understand, how ordinary that's to get "mommy's interest". in any respect situations, enable him comprehend that you comprehend his discomfort and talk to him. except that, i don't think of I did some thing different! reliable success !