2007-06-13 02:11:12 · 35 answers · asked by LALAS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dump her and have sex with women who aren't so uptight.
2007-06-13 02:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by John L 5 · 3⤊ 5⤋
The fact of the matter is that no woman on this board would buy a pair of shoes without trying it on first, but they think we should base the most important decision of our lives on the idea that if we wait, everything will be storybook. Not so. You need to sit down with this woman and make yourself clear now, or you will suffer sexually for years to come. First, tell her that you don't think it is fair or acceptable for her to take this position, and you think you need to postpone the wedding now. Second, let her know that you feel that this is essentially extortion on her part, and that you don't think it bodes well for your future. Thirdly, give her a list of your sexual expectations for your marriage. If she doesn't like it, then now is the time to split. Stick to it. Be firm. Ignore the tears. You'll thank me in the long run.
Trust me, if she's told everyone she knows she's getting married, she'll cave. She won't want to have to go back to everyone, tell them it's off, and then explain why.
2007-06-13 07:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by terry m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get use to it my husband was the same way when we were dating he promised things would be different when we got married. He lied i have lived in a sexless marriage for years now if you and your girl have been sexually active with each other in the past she may be a person who is not in to sex or she may be afraid of getting pregnant before marriage... I would put the engagement on hold until you have these questions answered never marry a person you're not sexually compatible with it never works sorry but it causes so much frustration and tension and can lead to infidelity. Hope i helped have a good life.
2007-06-13 03:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you engaged? Have you been making love?
Do you have a date set?without knowing this the only advice i can give you is:
respect her wishes if you two are engaged then you should wait...ive recently had this problem and i know from experience that when i asked my fiance that i wanted it to be special when we got married...if yall arent engaged then she might be putting pressure for you too....i would talk to her more about it like why she wants to wait?? especially if you to had and then all of a sudden she wanted to stop because there might be a bigger issue here--but you cant be for sure until you talk to her...
but whatever you do dont try to trick her into doing it or make a big deal about it if you love her you can wait....but if you are unsure why without more specifics --the only thing i can offer you is ask her...she should be fine with talking with herabout it......
just be calm
2007-06-13 02:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by leanne 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she has made love to you before you need to ask her why she has had a sudden change of mind. if she hasnt then you need to wait until then too.
regardless of whatever her reasons are you need to respect her decision. if you cant wait then you are definalty not ready for a marriage much less a real relationship.
but that doesnt mean that you can't take care of it yourself. and that doesnt mean another girl, it means use your hand if you have to have it that bad.
2007-06-13 02:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont Make love! At least you know that she has respect for herself..She wants to wait you have a hand dont pester her into things she doesnt want to do use your hand and leave her be if you want a girl that respects herself then leave it as that dont be with her because of sex you wont get anywhere in life! Good Luck!
2007-06-13 02:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Respect her wishes. If you love her you would honor her by respecting her wishes. If you can't respect her you don't need to be in a relationship at all. It is not a hard thing to do to wait! I haven't had sex in 2 years by choice!
2007-06-13 02:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by archaeologygrl2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should honor and respect her wishes and be proud that she is strong enough to want to wait. That shows that she is committed to herself as well as you. I think it's great. Have you ever thought about a girl having slept with numerous men and then with you? All that is being brought into your intimate relationship. No, be a man and wait.
2007-06-13 02:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by VW 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you really love her, respect her. Don't pressure her or bother her about it. You found a good woman that will be honest and loyal to you. Sex with her will be special and great. She wants to be a virgin for her husband, maybe that will be you?
2007-06-13 02:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by azure 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just wait anywayz. IF you love her you'll do what she wants. Besides making love B4 your married is against the law (depending what state you in) and its against the bible. Whatevs though. Just listen to your girl.
-Melanie-
2007-06-13 02:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you love her you will wait.
Ia m the same way. Marriage first after at least 1 year dating.
2007-06-13 02:18:08 · answer #11 · answered by Chhaya05 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋