Are there asexual marriages?

Question

This may sound a strange question.

Marriages were designed for people to raise a family... and even if couples are not into children, I've always thought sex is an important ingredient in a couple's life...

But is it possible that people may marry and don't have sex?
(I ask this because recently I read an account of someone who said she had lived with her husband for 3 years before they married, and they had never had sex until they married... I have also read about a married woman who said she was a still a virgin, as far as I remember because her husband had sexual problems...)

And how about those who marry late in life, or over age 50 (as I've heard)?
Given to the hormonal alterations that occur as people age, sex may lose a lot importance.
I think I've heard that some people even become incapable of having a sexual relationship.
So...?

Answer 1

I am asexual - just born that way. Unfortunately, I didn't know much about it when I got married - I thought I would eventually get interested. Well, that didn't happen. I just give in to him, it's basically another chore like making dinner or doing the laundry. When we figured out what was going on, he was really upset that I had never been or never will be attracted to him or want him. He feels rejected, even though he knows it's not something I can change. The whole thing caused his sex drive to erode to the point where he only asks once a month or so. I would imagine in another few years he will stop asking, and we will have a completely asexual marriage, or he will be so frantic about losing his desire completely that he will ask for a divorce and find someone who desires him.

Answer 2

As someone who is over the age of 50, and married for 37 years, I would like to say that sex is still an important part of marriage. The thing is that as you mature, the importance changes. It does not consume your every thought because you are in a relationship. Other things become as important. Like being friends, sharing everyday things with each other, learning how to find each other again after the kids are gone, etc. Life is really good. BUT to answer your question, You can have a marriage without sex, there are no rules that say you have to have sex when you are married. Just because you do not have sex with a person doesn't mean that you don't love them. Sex and love are too different things.

Answer 3

obviously the couple who lived together and never had sex were waiting till they got married.
and you said the second one had problems, what an understanding wife she was!
People over fifty do definitely have sex whether just married or married for 35 years, as in my case.
How much people have it is a personal choice.
Whether some people don't ever have it is again a personal choice.
If you wish to "do it till you die' mention that to your wife before you marry and then pray nothing goes wrong with either of you for as long as you live.

Answer 4

Yes, I know for a fact that some of them do marry. Go to the Aven site and start reading. It is much harder for asexuals to find like partners because there are few ways to met each other. Some are very lonely because of this, it is a sexual world after all.

Diane

Answer 5

Because Love has NOTHING to do with sex in the long run.Sex is just that---SEX. Love is a life commitment.Yes people can marry and not need sex.It ain't all that.

Answer 6

sure why not
sounds strange but what the heck

Answer 7

if the couple feel OK without SEX that's fine ... But most couple don't have sex in their 50 or over....

Answer 8

Anything is possible!