My first love really broke my heart, but he was still my first love and I think that counts for something.
Like, I was gutted when I found out he was married last year, and very pleased when I heard that his marriage had broke up.
Also can I just say I do not have FEELINGS for him, and I'm am about to be married myself.
What do you all think of your first loves?
2007-06-13 00:50:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My first love was 29 years ago and if he'd asked me I would have married him, I still think about him but fondly rather than sadly and I don't still love him.
However my second love did break my heart - this was in 1981 then a year later I met the man I married and am still married to.
My second love was devastating and I would never have married him as I knew it would never work, funnily enough we are still in touch but only at Christmas.
When I married my husband I knew I was still in love with someone else but gradually my love changed, especially after my children were born.
If you are sure that your future husband is Mr Right go for it, only time can heal were love is concerned.
You first love doesn't sound a very reliable catch if his marriage broke up so quickly, I think everyone secretly feels pleased when their ex's relationships break up.
2007-06-13 01:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by reallysuri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first love was fab. We met at school. Yes I did love him. As daft as it sounds, and as much as we were just kids, you cant help this kinda thing. It never turned into a sexually active relationship. We were together about 3 years. I remebered when I met his mum for the first time. It was at a Parents evening, I saw him and his (I assumed) mum walking on front of us. I encouraged my mum forward to met him and his mum too. After a brief 'hi' and conversation, he and his mum turned to continue to his first met of the night with his mum and I heard him say 'I told you was amazing!' I'll never forget that.
I often wondered what he was upto, what he'd be doing, if he was married or engaged or in a relationship, if he has children, if he had his own home, if he drove a car or motorbike, what could have been if my family don't move away. However last year, which was 12 years after I last saw him, I accepted that regardless of him being my first love, that I had my life now to get on with. I met my new(ish) partner and have fallen in love again.
I don't have feelings for my first love anymore, but first loves are just that first loves, you never forget them. Doesn't necessarily mean that you have feelings for them though.
2007-06-13 08:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it was your first love you are bound to have an attachment to them. The emotion of love is so overwhelming it leaves a mark on you.
I often think of my first even though I havent seen them for 10 years and we are both married to other people
2007-06-13 07:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by Raven 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I still think about mine alot i know he still with the girl he left me for which pisses me off and that theyre getting married that made me jealous and id probly hav a party if they split but then my life has moved on so he will always be my first love part of my past
2007-06-13 07:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia27 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I still hold a big torch for my first love, despite the fact that we were only kids. For some odd reason I still think a lot of him and probably think that if we were older we would have hit it off great! Your not alone here.
2007-06-13 07:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I still think about her occasionally and with fondness.
But unlike you I wouldn't be happy if her marriage were to break up. I want her to always be happy....
If you don't have "feelings" for him then why were you pleased that his marriage broke up?
I think you should mature a bit before entering that marriage.
2007-06-13 20:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jim L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I still speak to my first boyfriend, but my first love I've lost track of. I still think about him occasionally, and wonder what would've happened if I wasn't so young.
2007-06-13 07:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by Heather H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 14 and he was 18, he was the love of my life.......and 35 years later, having had two husbands, I'm sorry but I couldn't even tell you his name?!!! All I can remember was, he worked in a bank and was a real gentleman!
2007-06-13 08:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lifeisgreat! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course I do. Love was very much pure and unconditional back then, wish I could bring back that old feeling of unjaded love.
2007-06-13 08:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by gapdreambabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time. Partly because we see each other often and I didn't want things to end. But it was ruined because of someone I thought I could trust, who decided he would ruin things and move in himself.
2007-06-13 08:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋