im 18 my boyfriend adn i broke up bout a month ago, i wanted his baby but it didn't happen, im looking for another boyfriend i guess i have to look deeper into his heart but i dont want a relaitionship just a baby..help me
2007-06-12 20:15:33 · 30 answers · asked by Sylvia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HOW CAN YOU PPL BE SO CRUEL??
2007-06-12 20:22:57 · update #1
hun you cant do that its not fair. on the child and the father. you cant just use a guy for a baby. why do you want a baby so bad? i desprate want a baby aswell hun but ive been with my fella just over a year and now were just thinkig about trying for one. babys are a massive responsability and not toys. i had my first son when i was 16 ( pregnant at 15 ) life is not easy hun, your a young girl go out there and enjoy yourself get your self into a relationship you want to be in then after time discuss having a baby. good luck and all the best from me. x
2007-06-12 20:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg gurl I was just like you when I was 18 I want a baby so bad, well I got my baby in fact I got 2. I am 23 years old now and I wish I waited because there goes your life as you know it. No freedom at all just alot of hardwork no partying is that what you want. I am not saying that my babies are a mistake and I would not trade them for the world I just wish I waited til I was like 25 to have children because I missed out on the most important part of my life and that was to go out and parrytty have fun get an education and a steady job then think about having a baby.
2007-06-13 03:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by sexylady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow i had the same feeling when i was the same age w my ex... but now that i look back and think how my life is now i think it was the best thing for us to not have a baby, i am able to finish school go out with friends when i want and you need to look at it money wise are u able to afford a baby. The reason i felt that way was because i wanted apart of him.. but it might just be a phase youre going thru.. just double check the idea to see if thats what u want and what would be good for a baby if u brought one into the world
2007-06-13 03:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Cali03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, this plus all your other crazy questions... why are you buggin' for attention so bad? I think you need to figure out better uses for your time... and everyone elses.
If you want people to like you, just be yourself. And I really think you should be careful on here (inviting just anyone to come to your super rich dad's vacation home on a jet and all - one of your other questions - is just scary). You don't have to flaunt your money or play up drama scenes to get people's attention... in fact, even if it does work, you won't hold their attention that way. And I strongly suggest you rethinking the whole baby thing... having a child is a LIFE LONG committment... one I REALLY don't think you understand yet or are any way near ready for.
Tone it down a knotch... show people the real you.
2007-06-13 03:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by tenayaledeux00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do you have a $20,000 to $50,000 extra dollars just sitting around? And that depends on if you work full time and have medical insurance. So, also a nanny sitting around you are not using at this time? And I'm sure you know when you will be 18 years old again, so that you will be able to enjoy the best time of your life. Remember that minor detail, should something (god forbid) your child you decided to have at 18 yrs old, has needs that will consume your life till the day you die.
2007-06-13 03:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by kimberlee g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is wrong with you ? did you not think about his father and his future without a father. can he nurture emotionally healthy if he has no father.can you work for a livivg and at a same time raise your children with proper values and teaching . ask yourself this questions. and if you wish to marry another man with this child would the child feel accepted by this man and your children with this man . if the answers are yes , go for a baby with out a relationship.but dont forget if you think all men out there are sleazy in nature you are wrong. there those out there who love their women so much to the extend that they would not even touch the women they love till the time is right as they want the not to be pregnant before marriage.think twice take it as a blessing that you are not pregnant with that boyfriend. you deserve a better life.
2007-06-13 03:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by tom cruise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you start up with a boyfriend with the only intention of getting pregnant, you are really really really messing with that boy's life. You might not understand the implications of changing your and someone else's life, but that's a lifetime, and we only get the one.
Please examine the reasons you want a baby and compare them with what it's "really" like to have a baby and a baby's daddy. Take some time please. Watch some of The Morrie Show and check all the pain and agony those people are in.
2007-06-13 03:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ready to give up your selfish ways, and grow up. Your'e only 18. Who's gonna care for your baby 24/7, when you have to find a good job (with health insurance) that will pay for a place to live in. Buy furniture, clothes, diapers, food, utilities,car w/ ins,gas,registration. Face reality, and stop leaching on your parents or your'e gonna have a welfare baby.
2007-06-13 03:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by Bone Daddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be getting pregnant without having a relationship. You do want the baby to have a good life right? Then wait until you have a job, and a caring husband/boy-friend (a steady relationship). And make sure you both are ready to commit to it! So the child has a good life!
2007-06-13 03:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Um, adopt or get artificially insemenated. Don't use a man for his sperm. If you do that you are doing a great disservice to both the guy and your child. Unless you are looking for a paycheck along with that child, there is NO excuse for using a guy just to procreate.
2007-06-13 03:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋