2007-06-12 18:56:53 · 18 answers · asked by tankerwife 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
In bed...but not for sleeping
2007-06-12 18:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
My husband has gone on four deployments in the past four years. He is getting ready to go on the fifth in January. I have found that the best way to spend the R&R is quietly. I told his family that although I understood that they wanted to see him and make sure he was okay, that this wasn't the time for them to fly to our place. We chilled, watched movies, ate pizza, and just spent some quality time together. Keep it simple. Just imagine that you are in a combat situation with people shooting around you and less than 24 hours later you are home. It's hard on them.
We went to sleep when he was tired, took naps, and ate when he wanted to. I have seen wives try and make big plans for trips, parties, and family reunions during the R&R and it isn't a good idea. I can guarantee that he will not sleep on a regular schedule in just 2 weeks.
Good luck and just enjoy having him home.
2007-06-13 07:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by jbdb2494 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my husband was home he pretty much just wanted to hang out around the house or do simple things like go to the movies. And he wanted to eat anything and everything he could get his hands on! And I know everyone keeps going on about the sex thing but that's not necessarily true. I heard from alot of other wives that their husbands were so jumpy they didn't want to be touched (mine was like that the first couple of days...in part b/c he came home over 4th of July and the fireworks made him jumpy) I think alot of that might depend on where your husband is and what his job is. Mine said it was really difficult to go from having people trying to kill him one day to being home with his wife and kids just a couple of days later. Prepare yourself for that because I know a couple of people who were really upset and thought their husbands were cheating on them because he didn't want it as much or it wasn't the same as before he left.
Overall I'd just say to let him decide what to do. And like the poster above me said make sure he sleeps when he wants because his internal clock will be different than yours because of the time difference. Oh and one more thing...try and stay away from crowded areas. (I saw one poor guy who'd just gotten home in the morning and in the afternoon he was at Chuck E Cheese (on a Sat no less!) He looked like he wanted to run screaming out!)
Have fun!;-)
2007-06-13 09:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband will be coming home for R&R in 2 months, we are going to St. Augustine, FL For a like a second Honeymoon. We were married In April last year and spent our 1st Anniversary apart. So we want to go on like a second honeymoon!!
2007-06-13 12:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kala C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him make that desicion. When my brother had RandR from Iraq, he wanted to spend as much time as he could in those short weeks with his fiance, and she let him make all the plans. That way he could get everything in and yet spend the time with her.
My prayers go out to you and your family. God Bless you and your husband. Enjoy your time with him. It'll be great!!
Again, God Bless, and a big Thank you to your husband.
2007-06-13 02:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by Squeakers 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Getting to know one another patiently. Allow them the time to accept the changes that have taken place and allow them the opportunity to be a part of a life they once existed in. Take things slow and be patient.
2007-06-13 02:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by jaowli 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
AWAY from post and don't invite family over. This is your time! USE it wisely. Can you guys afford to go on a vacation or take a cruise??
My hubby is coming home on R&R in December, so tropical vacations and a cruise are outta the picture.
2007-06-13 01:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by jp8 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
however HE wants to spend them. That could mean hiding from the world , or it could mean havinga big get together with friends and family. let HIM set the pace and decide what he wants to do. everybody will be different.
2007-06-13 12:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-13 02:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Party like its 1999!
2007-06-13 02:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by William B 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Together, completely together, remember he's gonna want to spend time at home because he hasn't, doing the same old stuff, because he hasn't. Take him to your fave restaurant around there, to the theatre, whatever you guys liked to do before he left.
2007-06-13 02:00:12 · answer #11 · answered by ~~*Paradise Dreams*~~ 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋