I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months and he's going back to Russia and I'm not sure when or even if he's going to come back. I'm very willing to stay with him and make things work but I'm not sure if he's willing to do the same for me. I would appreciate any advice from anyone who has been in the same position as me (especially someone from Russia or the Ukraine) or has experienced a very long distance relationship. Thanks :)
2007-06-12 18:28:49 · 13 answers · asked by exto88xo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was stationed here in Germany and I was in a long distance relationship with a Girl back home in the US. When I was there with her it was phenominal and there was a passion that I've never had in a relationship and she treated me great. However when I came back to Germany the distance was just too great. She soon gave into temptation of all the other guys that wouldn't hit on her when I was there and there was nothing I could do because of the distance. So I think they are pointless from experience.
2007-06-13 00:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jared G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, I'm not from Russia or the Ukraine but I have been in a relationship like this before. Your boyfriend really likes you but it is hard for you guys to communicate because you live a long distance away from each other. You should stay together and try to work this out. If he really loves you like he says he does then he would be willing to try the long distance relationship. If he doesn't then it's not worth it. I hope I have answered your question. Good luck with your boyfriend. I wish you two the best!
With Love,
NiKKi
2007-06-12 18:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by NiKKi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are allot of hard work, they talk commitment, and trust. If you two have managed to keep it together this long, then what's another 10 months if you two are truly in love and not lust. Besides sex should be the last thing on your mind, and if that is your main focus then you will end up making a bad decision, and possibly losing out on someone who could potentially be the person you marry, and have children with.
2016-05-18 23:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a hell of a risk to take. Assuming its a relationship you may want to be married in on the long run....
I would keep in touch, but not date
Im a married woman from a man that i met for two months and he went back to Poland for another 8.
We stayed in contact as friends and talked and he came back after college. Thats when we started dating.
Let me tell you Its a hard thing to do to be with someone from such a far distance
Have you thought about what if it worked out?
He will miss his family, become home sick, especially if he has no one here. His family WILL ask for him to come back home. Im not the only married woman I know thats married to someone from Europe and we all have the same issues. How will you both handle that?
Me and my husband decided to not have kids so he can see his family more often in Europe. Not that it will happen to you, but conflicts like that are very likely...
what if he wants to go home later? My husband and I consider leaving the country later down the road. I know that the economy is still bad, I went through college and if I go there I wont make nearly what I make there, id have to learn a hole new language. Are you willing to consider that?
what if he gets home sick? When you go there to meet his family he will. Will you be able to visit them every year or two. If a family member of him dies, how will you handle that?
culture clashes are of conflict at times. ( you know the more laid back lively american vs. the more traditional European.)
If you realize later its not working, after he has lost so much time from being away from home, are you willing to leave him?
There is a lot to consider. My now husband isnt from Russia, he's from Poland, but the principle still remains.
Basically, It is a lot to risk, a lot of money, a lot of time, immigration issues. You've only known him for four months and you're not even sure if he'd come back.
Relationships are hard when you date someone from close to home. But when their life and everything they know is from over seas, you are taking complications to a hole new level
Like i said, just stay as friends, there really isnt enough basis to start dating long distance. Later if you guys really have a lot in common and he comes to visit, then consider dating
2007-06-12 18:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Iris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationship aren't worth staying in unless you're married and your spouse has to travel or unless children are involved. The chances of it working out are slim and it would will be very difficult for the both of you. It's a very good thing to leave each other on good terms so that if you do meet again the sparks will fly and you'll more than likely get back together, but if you try long distance you'll constantly be agitated with trying to hold on you what you've had before.
2007-06-12 18:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by Alexander A 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I experienced a LONG distance relationship with my (now ex-husband) I was stationed in Germany and he was stationed in the states. We were both faithful to eachother, but by the time we got back together ( a year later) we had both grown and changed and not with eachother....we got married, but the strain of the long distance was just too much we had changed too much. I would have to say, dont put yourself through the torture! Long distance relationships are myths and rarely work out! Hope this helps and good luck with your decision!
2007-06-12 18:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by helicopterjen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was long distance for a year.
it didn't work out for me but everyone is different.
have you seen 'The Holliday'?
if not i think you should watch it.
It all depends on how your bf likes you.
You need to find out how deep his feelings go & if you want to be his life partner. Think about it long and hard
because it is a very important decision.
NO PRESSURE
take it as slow as you need it to be.
I know ppl think that if they decide to change thier minds later on, or things get rough, things get confusing, and they don't know how to deal with it.. then they can just get a divorce and everything will just be fine and dandy,
but no.
Thats not how life works. So think about everything, know how far he wants to go and how far you are willing to be pushed.
Best of luck.
2007-06-12 18:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by kay_kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...if he is willing to try as hard as you are to make this work...then it would be worth a try...but if it is only you....you will end up hurt...relationships need 2 people to make it work...there are going to be very hard times coming up if you 2 are going to give this a try...so good luck!!!
2007-06-12 18:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by pyon88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way i don't think any one could be true be so far apart..lets keep it real at some point we all feel alone and we need some one to make us feel wanted, even if its for one night.
2007-06-12 19:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by allaloneinnewark 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
KEEP HOLDING ON AS LONG AS YOU CAN STAND AND KEEP IN TOUCH AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.
2007-06-12 18:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Jason L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋