Are my parents being unfair?

Question

Today I turned 18 (which means no limit on when I have to be home as far as drivers license goes) and my friends invited me to go over and play poker. My mom said I should be home at 1 since my license only allows me to be out as late as 1, but once you turn 18 in my home state, there are no more limitations but when I informed her of this she said still be home at 1. I got home at 1:15, and I hit lots of red lights even though there is NO traffic on the road (and she doesnt believe me about this). I have a VERY good track record with times and this is a first that I'm late, but its 15 minutes not an hour or two. When I got in at 1:15, my brother and mom met me at the door and my mom said she's going to have a talk with me tomorrow. My parents are fairly harsh and will probably disallow me from going out with friends for the month and probably the rest of the summer. Mind you, I'm an honors student going to college on scholarship full scholarship. I am not a low-life. Is this unfair?

I'll also add that I paid my own money to play poker and was very reluctant to leave to begin with, because I was still in the game and leaving would not even give me a chance to compete for the money I spent hoping to win. It really sucks to have to leave when I spent my money and haven't lost, only to automatically lose to go home...

Answer 1

It may seem unfair. But as a mom myself. I am sure she just worrys about you. Since you are living under her roof, you must go by her rules. It doesnt matter if you was 18 or 50.
Rules are rules, and in her home, she made the rules.

You just turned 18, you said, give her time to adjust, she may lighten up some when she gets use to the fact that her child is of age.

~faith

Answer 2

Sorry my friend your are 18 not 21. Even if your are 21 as long as you are leaving at their place you should abide by their rules period. You should not above their rules because you are honors student or the best Nero surgeon in the planet. As long as we are leaving in their place home, their place we should abide by their rules. When your mom said be home at 1 o'clock, it doesn't mean that you should leave the party at 1 o'clock. You should always make sure you will be at home 30 mins to 10 mins before not after.
In Short my friend they are not being unfair they did what is right you broke the rules and you got punished. am so sorry that you lost your money. Better luck next time.

Answer 3

No they are not being unfair. No matter how old you are you still live in their house and they pay your way. weather you pay for youself to play poker, your parents pay your rent and buy you food and mostly likely still buy you some clothes. Lets not mentions the water bill and the light bill and the gas bill and every other bill in the house you live in for free.

For you yes, it sucks but until you move out you have to follow what ever rule they give you.

Answer 4

You know you came in late for a reason, just to piss your parents off. I understand that your 18 but it's their house and you have to follow their rules even though you are grown now. But did you ever thought that the reason why they ask you to come inside early was because you are and honor and they don't wnat to see your scholarship go down the drain. They best interest is at heart and that's looking after your well-being since your not thinking about that. We all want to stay out late and do what we want, but when your in your parents home your life belongs to them. I rember when I turned 18 and I wanted to stay out late well, my mom said to come inside at 1am. I being that I was grown got mad and stood even later when I got home it was 4am in the morning and my mom had just left for work. When she got home I thought everything was cool until she took my house key , pack my bags and told me to get out. I stood by my grandmother's for a week and now my grandma don't play that I better not come in her home late. I went back to my moms and even though I went to school and had a job and looked after my sister and helped her with bills it was still her house.Listen to mom sometimes they tell us things for our own good and that helps us stay out of trouble. If something would have happened to you like a fight over money she would die, but by coming in early she knew you were safe and if that happened it did not happen to you.

Answer 5

Moms house, Moms rules. It's as simple as that. Fair yes. You should set a good example for your brother and help your mom by following the rules. When you get your own place it's your rules.

Answer 6

yes that is sorta unfair, but you need to rememebr life is never fair. once you make money you wont have to leave under your mom house. and if you dont live under your mom house than you wont have to listen to her rule and if u dont have to listen to her rules tah n u can stay out as late as you want. also try talking to your mom in a gentle way, not an argue. good luck

Answer 7

life isn't fair. i was kicked out at 16 with no where to go living on the streets cause i ratted my mom out on the affair she was having on my dad. i lived you will too, alot of kids have it worse off than you do just remember that.

Answer 8

in some ways ur parents care about you and wants u to be successful but in others i think they are over reacting especially in this situation. one day you'll thank them whenever u become a parent. take the bad with the good and roll with it.

Answer 9

I'm sure it all seems unfair right now. But remember that old cliche "As long as you're living under my roof..." well, you know the rest!

Answer 10

yeah thats unfair