i recently found out that my ex who broke my heart back in april is gay. i finally have closure, but i still feel the need to tell him how i loathe him. i want him to feel hurt just like i did back in april. but at the same time i tell myself that i should just let it go and not let him know that im still pondering a relationship that ended abruptly in april. but, gosh, why cant guys just tell you why they dont want you. why does it have to be a big game of clue with them. i had to find out why he was no longer interested in me, and thats because he likes guys. by the way, hes on myspace which would make the message easy to send.
2007-06-12 18:09:46 · 19 answers · asked by Nelly J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 19, still a virgin. and he was stationed in seattle, a coast guard. so i dont need a HIV test.
2007-06-12 18:18:19 · update #1
LOL Same thing happened to me...I didnt even bother saying anything to my ex, i wouldnt bother with yours either....
2007-06-12 18:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking that maybe he wasn't sure if he was really gay at the time he was dating you. He probably really cared about you and was confused about how he could care about you and be attracted to guys at the same time. I would let it go, and I certainly wouldn't post anything on myspace for all the world to see. This kind of thing is too private to put out there like that. Give the guy a pass on this one, and just concentrate on taking care of yourself. You've been through a lot, and you owe it to yourself to put this thing to rest.
2007-06-13 01:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have found closure, why bring worry and bring stress back on yourself? Him being gay isnt about you, its about him. Maybe when he was dating you, he wasnt yet comfortable coming out so on the outside he dated "normally" to be accepted. Maybe at the time he was dating you, he was unsure of his feelings. Sexual orientation can be very frustrating for people who are unsure of who they are or where they belong. I understand that your heartbroken, but at least you have an idea of why things happened the way they did.
I suggest you do nothing and just let it pass by. You've moved and so has he, so why ignite the fire?
2007-06-13 01:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let it go and move on. Maybe that was why he had to break your heart, because he couldn't love girls. He has taken interest in boys now. Give it some time. You'll get use to it. Life is short, some people say, but it's long enough for them to change a lot about themselves.
2007-06-13 01:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wasn't ready to tell you. Or anyone.
Wanting him to hurt as you did? What's that going to solve? A whole lot of nothing.
Move on with your life. Our time here is too short to invest so much time and emotion into such things. I am sorry for your current condition, though.
And to affirm others' posts: Get that HIV test.
2007-06-13 01:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by hbomb8404 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all make mistakes and maybe that was one of his BIG ones ??? I have known gays that married to try and *fit in* or hide the fact, what they find out is , it dont work !! I suggest that you just move on and chalk it up to a learning experience...... I know it sounds simple but is not...... but, look at it this way...... every person that passes thru our lives teaches us something, good or bad...... take what you got from him into a brighter future...... why waste time on revenge ?? the only person who will suffer is you....... God bless
2007-06-13 01:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget revenge. More importantly you need to get an HIV test.
2007-06-13 01:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jan O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get tested for AIDS.
If it were up to me, it should be a criminal act if he was with men and then with you. He should also undergo mandatory testing for AIDS on your behalf, and locked up until the results come back.
2007-06-13 01:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Therapeudic Help.
2007-06-13 01:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would I do? I'd have an AIDS test and count myself lucky to be rid of him.
2007-06-13 01:12:51 · answer #10 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋