i met this guy at the beginning of my freshmen year and when i first met him i was attracted to him immediately. [ i met him through a friend]. after talking to him for a long time online, he asked me if he can have my number and i gave it to him and we started talking for hours. i suddenly felt like i was falling for him. we stopped talking until a couple months later and we were still flirty like before. then i asked him to go to sadies hawkens dance with me and he said yes and then he called me right after that and we talked and he would occasionally say i love you and such. i really liked him and a couple days before sadies my mom found out i had NOT THE BEST grades and then she said i cannot go to sadies so had to bail out on him. i was really sad and he was too. we talked after that but it didnt feel right. everytime he saw me he would hug me and carry me and stuff then a week later he has a girlfriend. should i get over him? did he like me before? did i get wrong signals?
2007-06-12 18:03:57 · 24 answers · asked by noone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds to me like he might be a jerk. Maybe he just wanted to be alone w/ you and when he found out you couldn't go to the dance well there went that so he moved on and so should you.
2007-06-19 17:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you get over him? Yes - he has a girlfriend. This doesn't mean that you had the wrong signals or that he didn't like you before. However, for the time being, he has made a choice to pursue a relationship with someone else who he also likes. As hard as it might seem, I'd concentrate right now on getting your grades back up - one day, he and the girlfriend might break up (most high school relationships have a short shelf life). You'd hate to have to pass up more dates with him (or any other new guy you might happen to meet) because of the grade issue!
2007-06-13 01:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by sarah314 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Interesting.
You should have been honest with him and told him you could not go to the dance. He would have been mad, but maybe things could have been better for you guys.
I know here where I live, chicks bail on their mom's orders and do what they like. But you seem like a good girl. Totally understand.
Then again, guys are really sexually driven. We learn about it in sexual ed. class. We know it's true, because even 40-year old men go after young girls.
He was probably looking just to hook up and have some fun in bed. He found a girl, who probably fits his guy standards, and soon enough, they'll be broken up.
I say forget about it. Not worth your time. There are many places to find guys, girls, and great friends. If you see him and he wants to talk, then go for it. Best of luck.
2007-06-13 01:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by James 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He liked you but he never had a chance to spend face-to-face time with you. For whatever reason, he didn't ask you out and he assumed he was going to be spending a lot of time with you at the Sadie Hawkins dance. Then that didn't happen. While he was still thinking about it, another person came along. Sometimes, that's just the way it works out.
2007-06-13 01:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He liked you, and you got the signals right. I think before the dance he was having second thoughts, though, and he may have already met this other girl by that time too. The bottom line is that this just wasn't meant to be. It stinks, but the best thing you can do for yourself is forget about him and move on.
2007-06-13 01:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun I'm sorry U had to go tho this but as U put it to us sounds to me he was feeling his feelings out and found that he wanted more friends then anything else so I would have to say find a new one that will give you what you R looking for and will only want you for you no matter whats said here Follow Ur heart it holds all your keys in life take care B safe and I wish you the best out of life
2007-06-13 01:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by saveahorserideacowboy7769 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IDK-I don't think you got wrong signals. It's so hard to figure what goes on in guy's minds. A simple yet scary place to explore. Either he just dropped you because a: his feelings were hurt, and/or b: he thinks you were just blowing him off. And maybe to protect his hurt feelings he had to find someone else to get his mind off you. And for some guys, just switching gears like that quickly is pretty easy. It isn't that his feelings weren't genuine, but in general, guys' feelings don't run as deep as ours. I know, it hurts. Try not to blame too much of it on your Mom! And I used to hate it when people said this to me but: "This too shall pass".
2007-06-21 00:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by nursemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's weird, it appeard from what you said that he seemed interested in you(you wern't imagining it). Just cos you didn't go to some dance with him he ends up with a girlfriend? hmm not sure what was going on in his mind, if I were you I would move on cos it doesn't seem worth your trouble I know that it seems easier for us to say that to you but just remember that we have all been in your shoes once before. Move forward and find yourself a nice guy.
2007-06-13 01:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no all the signals were right. he is a guy and guys like to have many before one. the ebst thing to do is most on. if he has a gf it means he has and there is no point in liking someone that doesnt like u back, u'll only be depressed.
2007-06-13 01:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on but I would also ask him why he did what he did. If he really liked you then he wouldn't have done that to you. So I'd find a nice guy that likes you for who you are. Trust me that guy is not worth worrying over.
2007-06-13 01:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by Shauna J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋