okay, so im 16 and i have never made out beforee. my boyfriend [[ who i have been going out for a month with]] , on the other hand has, well lets just say has had his fair share. lol. He has kinda talked to me about making out, but he is such a sweet guy, and has been going real sloww with me. And doesnt want to do anything that i am not comfortable with. But what he doesnt know is that the truth is, i really do wanna make out with him, but i am so nervous that i am just going to make a complete fool outta myself, that i have nooo idea what to do. tips please? what should i do?
2007-06-12 17:59:06 · 28 answers · asked by Katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him the truth. He may be flattered to be the first.
2007-06-12 18:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by tigger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and let him lead. By making out I'm not entirely sure I know what you mean. It is something different to everyone. Some people take it to mean deep kissing. Others label it deep kissing and petting. And some people mean just kissing romantically. I'm going to guess that you mean the last. If I'm guessing wrong, then don't worry. It'll just happen naturally and he will guide you. Otherwise- He won't expect you to be a pro. There is no real guide to kissing. You need to just do it and then talk together about what both of you like. For the first couple of times until you really get to know each other, there are some guidelines
1. Don't "eat" him- Stick to the lips. Having slobber all over your face is not romantic.
2. Keep it simple- Move your lips a some, but don't try to do anything complicated. And keep your tongue in check.
3. Feel what hes doing with his lips- Take cues from what he is doing. Don't just go off and do something that he is not into or is not participating in.
4. Breathe- Yes, it is ok to breath while kissing. If you stop (and lots of people do), it is not nearly as enjoyable.
5. Close the Eyes- Especially at first, many people feel uncomfortable with open eyed kissing.
6. Enjoy it- If you enjoy it and he enjoys it that is all that matters!
2007-06-12 18:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by trinitylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know this will be really hard, but you should tell him. That will make it easier for both of you, he can guide you more and you can follow. I swear, if he's a good guy, it wont bother him at all! Otherwise, study up; watch movies with heavy making out and ask friends. If you are lucky, maybe a friend will give you a lesson!? Ask to my individual advice, its not that hard. Kiss kiss kiss, rub his shoulders and arms up and down and then down to his hands and then place his hands where ever you want them. Reach over his shoulders to his back, around his torso to his back, ect. Don't be afraid if you breathe louder a bit, and you can always be sweet, kiss his neck, forhead, around his lips, ect. Place your hand behind his head for a romantic kiss. The biggest thing here is either tell him or don't. And then, you have to be confidant, because everyone knows confidance is the key factor here. People smell fear, just like animals. BE CONFIDANT! Smile. If you do dosomething wrong, he will probably be so self consious, yes, even with all his 'experience' (you are afterall, a new and different girl) that he'll think what he did is wrong. Also, decide RIGHT NOW where you are going to stop and stick to it. Otherwise, you might end up farther than you wanted to. Unless of you course, you want the experience...:)
2007-06-12 18:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Katie, Welcome to the world of dating. Everyone has a first time to date, to kiss, to have sex, etc... You will not make a fool of yourself. Just let him guide you. If you begin to feel uncomfortable, gently lean back and look deeply into his eyes for a few seconds. Then give him a gentle kiss on the cheek. Then sit back, act a bit shy for a second, and change the subject until you are ready to try again. He will think that you were overwhelmed with pleasure, and you get a chance to catch your breath and take in what has happened. It works everytime!! Have a great time. Just wait until you are absolutely sure before you go any further.
2007-06-12 18:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will not die from embarrassment that's one thing lol! you seem to be funny, so if people comment about you being a fool, laugh with them, don't take it personnally, that will just make everyone forget you look like a fool which you don't. the girl you like will feel very good about you doing that, every girl loves when a guy is willing to "die of embarassment" for her. do not think of what people will think of you, just go right ahead and ask her out! good luck!! marie
2016-05-18 23:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by shelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is actually not as hard as it sounds. I was in a similar situation once. It pretty much comes naturally and once you do it, you will realize that it is no big deal. Just lean toward him 75 percent of the way and let him come the last 25 percent. Then you just open your mouth and follow his lead. lol. I'm sure you will do fine, just dont' worry about to much. He sounds like a great guy :)
2007-06-12 18:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by ....... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ask your parents, If you don't know what you are doing, I hope you get pregnant, I will cast a spell on you tonight so you do get pregnant and have to live as a teen mother and lonely for the rest of your life. You are better off getting a chasity belt and give the key to your dad. Know what you are getting into before you do something you will regret. Poof! I am casting a spell!
2007-06-12 18:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by bigboymaverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dollface, i am also a 16 female.
and yes never made out.
soo i can totally see where your coming from
if he really is as sweet as he sounds
i think he would find it really cute & honored
to give you your first kiss.
soo you might not be fantastic at it, but
he can help you! :D
do not take tips, it's all a learning experience.
but you should tell him.
even tho it might put on the pressure for him!
he does not want to make your first kiss cruddy.
well good luck hun!
2007-06-12 18:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Juni<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda young to and know how you feel. This may sound weird, but I heard that if your nervous, practice on a stuffed animal. Don't be geeky, kinda open your mouth. Run your hands through his hair. Be sexy and it'll work out...
One thing thou - when the moment is right, kiss him, when it's not, don't. Like don't plan it out with him, just do it!
Good luck!
2007-06-12 18:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by sillygoose112393 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think so much! Just be calm and let it happen naturally. Do what feels right and if anything makes you uncomfortable, then say No. Don't let him talk you doing anything you don't want to do! If he really cares for you he will understand and be patient with you. Don't be scared, no matter what you do, I promise he won't laugh! He knows you are inexperienced and so was he at one time!
2007-06-12 18:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by Laura H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple... Admit to yourself that you don't know what to do...
Then when the moment arrives, just be bashful and tell him straight that you'd like to try making out, but he's gotta guide your movements cause it's your first time...
Most of us guys like to take control of the situation when it comes to anything that is linear with sex (kissing or the act itself).
To answer your top question, I would have to say you would pretty much look like a fool... But if you act bashful and innocent, I'd say you'd look like a pretty fool, and just so kissable... Hehehe...
Ohtar, out! :)
2007-06-12 18:04:43 · answer #11 · answered by talant_ohtar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋