It seems like every time I get my self esteem up, it's easily destroyed because someone tells me I'm ugly. My brother tells me I have a big nose and sadly I think its true. I'm pressured to feel that I need to have a girlfriend, but the thing is I really don't WANT to start dating right now. I'm 16 years old, I'm not gay, but I don't want to date, but peple make such a big deal out of it. My own brother tells me I need to get a girl.
Can someone older assure me that I will grow out of this? I hate being pressured to start dating and worrying about looks. It's driving me nuts!
2007-06-12 17:22:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeha m8 don't worry about it too much it will only make you more self-concious and you will end up going crazy. The next time your brother tries to bother you about getting a girl just tell him to f*ck off. I advise you to try building a little muscle or get a hobby that distracts you until you feel you are ready to date. The gym will boost up your self esteem and well the strength and muscle might come in handy later in life. and the hobby will keep you relaxed and focused when you are feeling stressed. Don't worry too much about it and IM me if you feel like you need to talk to someone. Good luck!
2007-06-12 17:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Slifer! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not into the dating thing right now, do not worry. There are plenty of teenagers that have enough, with school, and trying to work, on their plates. There is no particular reason why you can't just hang out instead of trying to hit on every girl in town. You have not met the right person yet.
As for the looks, most boys tease their siblings. Do not take anything personally. You will probably grow up to be best buddies.
There is someone for everyone, if they really want a relationship. Your nose will not make a difference, nor will anything else when that person comes into your life. Just maintain a pleasant personality, be sensitive, try to be interesting, and develop a good sense of humor. Those things will be very important when you do meet that special person.
Tell your brother that when the right person comes along, he will the the third person to know.
2007-06-12 17:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you and you need NOT listen to negative opinions about your looks, or advice which doesn't respect your own wish and priorities.
I've personally experienced something similar about dating. When I was in my teens, I wanted to focus on self development. Ever thought of dating a girl? Yes of course! And what big pressure you may suffer when everyone surrounding you starts dating, let alone all those voices telling you to get a girl. But that's relatively less important. What you need is really make the best use of your youth. You can only be young once!! It was not until I was 22 did I start to date a girl. You may be going against the tide (which is rather funny when you think about it seriously), but that doesn't make you a nerd.
I must say dating really sucks up most of your time and you tend to be living in your own world of romance with your lover, and that's not healthy! Spend more time with your family and friends; develop some interests. When you look back later in life, you'll be proud of yourself for not having wasted your youth!
2007-06-12 17:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by jim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. I think not wanting to date at your age shows more maturity and more self esteem than you know. Give yourself time to find out who you are. Once you know that, you may feel more comfortable about dating. Besides, what does dating lead to, long term relationships? Who needs that at 16? Final thought, there is a big difference between having doubts and having your self esteem destroyed. Most teenagers are overly self conscious. It comes with the hormones. Bleh! I wouldn't want to live through it again. Stay smart. Peace.
2007-06-12 17:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by MysticPen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be glad you don't want to be involved! Dating at 16 is a fecking nightmare! You're very fortunate.
Just do what'cha like. Play video games, do sports, keep your grades up, and BE THANKFUL that you don't have to deal with the mondo drama drivel that 16-ers are famous for. It's insane what people do.
Also, no one looks awesome at 16. And even the rare people who do are just as miserable as everyone else.
Don't worry so much. Far as I'm concerned, you sound like you're smarter than the people who're pressuring you.
2007-06-12 17:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to tell you something that will change your life buddy.
Looks = Zero Factor whatsoever. It DOES NOT matter. Girls on the other hand :), thats a different story.
I think it's not that you don't want to 'date', it's just that you are rationalizing your fear for making a move, or talking to girls or whatever.
You probably actually DO want a girl, but you want it all on a silver plater. You don't want to feel rejected if a girl doesn't like you.
My advice, do it anyways, deal with the 'rejection' (it's not even that bad...), and find a girl you like.
2007-06-12 17:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your brother to shut up.
You, my friend, are still a youngin'. And just cuz someones nose is slightly on the pinoccio side, it doesn't make them ugly. =) If you keep getting down on yourself, when it comes time and you ARE interested in having a girl, they will see right through your self esteem issues. Confidence is what makes a man sexy!
2007-06-12 17:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by *Penelope* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU'RE FINE. I've always thought people who can't get along without a significant other to be quite shallow and pathetic, actually. At age 16 you should be figuring out who you are, not messing with pretend relationships. You have the rest of your life to bother with that. You'll start when you're ready.
2007-06-12 17:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude don't let what people say get to you...If they say you have a big nose, say thanks...If you do this all the time they will being to feel stupid for saying it in the first place...
What you need to do is stop worry about this, if you let it get to you, they win...Prove that you are the winner and blow this stuff off...When you get older you'll see how stupid this stuff is...And I'm Italian, big noses are sexy as heck.....
2007-06-12 17:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm early 20's. i started dating at 16, but only towards the end of the year. i know guys who hadn't until college or even after. it's not uncommon. dating is a pain in the butt always. but especially when you're young. and a lotta girls aren't giving it up yet at 16, so why bother dating them? :)
dude my uncle is ugly as hell. and short. and balding. and fat. and not rich or famous.
and he gets more girls than just about anyone i know. fine ones, too. why? because he's a f&cking player and he's confident as hell.
2007-06-12 17:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by a b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋