should i break up with him??

Question

ive been w/ my bf for 4 1/2 mths. and its mostly long distance right now...hes in the army. I do like him and all..but I just dont know if i wanna be with him any more...we've been having a lot of issues and i cant take it ....i just want to be happy and im not ya know. We've been having problems about sex mostly...he wants me to try something i dont and i want him to try something that he doesnt want to try and it feels like its becoming a bigger issue as dumb as that sounds i know....i just feel like he just cares about only himself and not me (yes im talking about sex but everything elses also) and i feel that he doesnt care if he satisfies me or not....all that matters if is hes satisfied. what should i do? talking to him about it seems to get no where...im so lost right now...plz help :(

Answer 1

If you tell him NO and he isnt listening to you...He has no respect for your wishes...I would find someone new....

Answer 2

I've been in your shoes and let me tell you that sex is not a dumb issue - it's one of those things that if you don't clear the air soon with your boyfriend, this little sex issue will become a HUGE issue and you will end up breaking up anyway. If talking is getting you nowhere, then you have to be honest with yourself about whether he's even listening to you or you to him. All of us are entitled to be happy and if you're not, then you have to go and find whatever it is that makes you happy. You can try and work it out and hopefully it will work out, but if it seems like the same issue is surfacing over and over again and you're becoming less and less happy, then do yourself a favor and go where you'll be happy. If all else fails, follow your intuition - it's always right.

Answer 3

I think you should let him know what your feeling and if he doesn't care..well, he sure will not care years from now. So, the question you have to ask yourself is...can I live with a man that doesn't care enough? If you can't, break it off now before you get in deeper. Just don't short change yourself because you might feel that you HAVE to have someone to be someone. You need to do what makes YOU happy or it will not work out in the long run anyway and you'll have nothing but wasted time on your hands. Good luck!

Answer 4

Only you can answer that question and I think you already know the answer. Long distance is hard, so you have to ask yourself if he's worth it. It's always easier to break up with someone than to work out compromises. Relationships in general are not easy, long distance or not. But don't stay with someone if you're that unhappy... and there will always be someone else you will meet!

Answer 5

Well....it sounds like things are not too great and you shouldn't continue dating him if it's hurting you or making you feel uncomfortable. Maybe you should break it off, but tell him your reasons. That you're doing it because you care about him, but you don't feel like it's working out. If you are going to do this, it should be soon....because the longer you wait, the harder it is. This is wierd because I went through just about the same thing! It was about 4 1/2 months for me too. I knew what I had to do, but I was too stubborn, blinded and scared to actually break up. You are too. Good luck and hope everything works out.

Answer 6

OK-
I know what it is like to have a BF/ Dad in the war. It is really hard and let me tell you, people change alot while they are gone. They have new fears and new goals. So, be strict with your BF and tell him what the problem is and that you are not happy. If nothing changes...move on! There is someone else out there for you...I garentee it!

Answer 7

if there's a lot of problems after such a short time together - that's probably a big sign. as for the sex itself, trouble with a sexual relationship is typically a sign as well that there are underlying problems with the relationship.

unfortunately - only you can decide what to do. just remember to have faith in yourself and that he's not the only guy out there. you deserve to get what you want/need in a relationship (and he does too).

good luck.

Answer 8

I didn't even read past your question====because I am a woman that likes my way, and babe in a dating senario if a guy ain't producing good love vibes by cherishing my desires, well bing bang boom of my wand hes gone! It must be heaven in the beginning before the hard stuff of marriage, thats why they call it a courtship--he courts you! What has happened to the women of this generation--clueless!

Answer 9

sex issues can be difficult to deal with... but cant you both just let it go??? or compromise?? i dont know exactly what he wants you to do.. or vice versa.. but if both of you two are not willing..then all you have to do is vice versa... if all he cares about it pleasing himself only.. then he's very selfish.. most men would rather pls their partner first.. then get pleased after... but try talkin to him again... and dont just say no.. u gotta give and take a lil bit too... compromise is the best key... if your not willing.. try saying.. "but im willing to do this" if it still doesnt work out.. then probably you two are just not sexually compatible... good luck

Answer 10

You should. And see what happens....if both of you have real feelings for each other ....eventually it will bring you together ( i am not sure who is the real problem here, but one will try to given in and take the effort to make it work and convince the other in one way or other.) Get it.

Answer 11

Personally I hate self-centered people.. I'd probably leave him.
Depends on you! How much you value the relationship.. are you happy? If you're not then maybe you should consider getting out.. or taking a break.