am turning 20 and suddenly it hit me all of my friends are changing, maturing, having boyfriends, some even have kids, well i know its way too young right, then most of them are graduating and i still have to stay atleast 4 years in college because i need to take up law,
at this point have you felt that you are loosing your friends, like most of them are taking life seriously and you are still stuck with having fun and playing games with life, like you dont want a boyfriend you want to still have fun and all of them are insisting that you should have one, i dont know i got lost, perhaps i have been reading too much to observe that all of them grew up and i still think like peter pan
i dont know if at some point they want to be like me unattached, without major responsibilities except my responsibility with learning, i dont know if having a boyfriend would make me feel matured.
2007-06-12 17:18:05 · 16 answers · asked by haringmarumo 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 20 and carefree. I feel great about it too. Nothing wrong with that
2007-06-12 17:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by Life Is Illusive 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, having a boyfriend will only distract you. I know exactly what you're saying and believe me, what you're doing now (focusing on your future) is absolutely the BEST move you can make!! It feels akward, I know. It feels like you should 'be; and/or 'feel' a certain way and you look outward at others and see 'it'. But it's an illusion!! They're feeling the same way!!!
Ten years from now, when you've graduated law and in practice, you still might feel this way, but the great thing is...you'll have a law degree and a job. These people you're looking at now will be feeling the same thing except they WON'T have that degree and job to fall back on and if they have kids, they'll be struggling.
Get what you started out to do out of the way, then work on feeling grown up if you haven't by then. I can't stress how much it's worth having something to fall back on while you figure out what life's about. So ask yourself this question....would I be in a better position in life to ask questions about myself and what everything is about WITH a law degree or without one.
2007-06-13 00:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by ark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends grow and change all th time. You need to do what you think is right. Haivng kids young is the right decision for some, but not all people. You will have a great career and you will be better able to care for a family than some of your friends that have no college. I don't consider you to be "Care-free" since you are working your butt off to get into law school.
2007-06-13 00:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is right for you and not what your friends want. Just because they have children and boyfriends doesn't mean that you need to go out and do the same thing. You can do all that when your ready once you reach that point in your life where you feel you need all of those things. Do your law school, enjoy being single, and when you party drink one for me too!
2007-06-13 00:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by diva22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me your are on the right schedule better to do it now than regret not doing it or trying to get back out there after the kids and a husband and 20 more candles on your cake maybe its the friends that need to slow down marriage at 20 is way to young they have given up on their youth as long as you are focusing a career and you are continue enjoying your life if they go astray just make new friends but keep in touch with the old ones.
2007-06-13 00:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your education seriously. Right now that IS your job.
If you decide after the first year, to keep going with it then it will pay off in the end.
Don't worry about settling down too soon. You have your whole life to live! Maybe you'll meet a hottie in law school who doesnt want to settle down just yet either!
2007-06-13 00:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well im 18, and most of my friends are changing because they have boyfriends and a bunch of new friends. So bassically i stay home all day . I guess u can say that im carefree.But i dont mind as much,cause i usually concentrate on school work , cause that is my main priority
2007-06-13 00:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by tboy149 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also 20 and like you I just want to have fun. having a boyfriend don't make you mature but then again I don't know you.
2007-06-13 00:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you feel like you want to do. You're pretty much responsible for you and yourself only. Just remember that some of your decisions will result in some hard consequences.
And always remember right from wrong...and listen to your conscience.
2007-06-13 00:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by brotherb95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see growing up like developing an appreciation for foods beyond ice cream and spaghetti-os. It's about gaining access to a whole big sophisticated world of experiences, rather than limiting yourself to childish things.
2007-06-13 00:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by John's Secret Identity™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel pressured, be yourself. This is what makes you, you. If you don't want a boyfriend until you turn 55 then so be it; that's what's wrong with this world; people always live their life for someone else. Stay strong- as long as you strive for your goals then to hell with everyone else. BE YOU!!!
2007-06-13 00:23:26 · answer #11 · answered by Bubba W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋