My Grandmother doesn't like my mom at all and always says bad things about her to me. Recently I have been busy with school/work and I wasn't able to call her every week. She started telling me that I was like my mother. Now she is really mean to me when I talk to her and yells at me for not talking to my dad who I don't ignore but just have nothing to talk about with because he never returns my calls. I have my immediate family with my siblings and their children that I am VERY close with so should I just ignore my Grandma and close that family out of my life or just bite my tongue when she's rude with me?
2007-06-12 17:12:21 · 11 answers · asked by HmMm. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your grandmother politely, that the reason why you have not called her is that you feel that she is always criticizing you. Tell her that she continues to hurt your feelings when she says bad things about your mother, and falsely accuses you of not trying to contact your father. Tell her that if it continues, you will not be able to call her anymore, as you become very depressed everytime you speak with her.
If she is a good grandmother, she will apologize and try not to offend you anymore. If she is not, she has been warned, and I would not call her but maybe once every few months to see if she is okay.
2007-06-12 17:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No don't ignore her nor close your family out of your life and don't Bite your tongue either. When your grandmother is rude to you, just politely state your mind. If you continue to bite your tongue, she's going to feel she can say anything nasty to you and about your mom.
If she yells at your regarding you dad, you let her know that he always fail to return your phone calls. You know deep down how you feel about you dad. Don't allow her to make any false accusations regarding the love you have for your dad and mom.
Most of all despite the way she treats you don't disrespect your grandma and find something nice for your dad this Father's Day.
God Bless
2007-06-12 17:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by tony 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
granma could die tomorrow if she did would you be sad or regret not talking to her if the answer is yes then just let her roll of your back an nod an be polite but also set ground rules say grandma i love talking to you but i do not wish to bash anyone and if you begin to talk bad about someone you will have to end the call short also you will call twice a month to catch up an more frequently if work and school is not over stressing you and about your dad tell grandma the phone rings both ways you leave messages an he never calls you back
2007-06-12 17:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your grandmother how you feel. Keep in mind that she is probably getting older, which means she's getting more lonely, so her expectations are getting out of hand. I think communication always helps solve things like these. It's all about how you word it.
2007-06-12 17:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Hmm? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
the story of my life, im 31 and my mom is never happy with anything i do, when i was younger i use to get offended, but as u get older u have to realize soemtimes they are just that way, naggy,bitchy or miserable. like they say isery loves company...well dont be that company. it takes alot out of me to not let my mom get to me when she talks ****, but hey let it go cause if not then they r winning by bringing u down w/ them.
2007-06-12 17:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by jess p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a problem i have sometime i end up letting them have it and then getting in trouble i say its just best to bite your tounge and ignore them or just tell them to quit acting like kids.. of course i done that and they didnt like it so be careful
2007-06-12 17:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the beginning, i prefer to precise how proud you ought to experience approximately your self for being solid adequate to undergo this variety of way of existence. historic past has shown that for the period of straightforward terms the suited of people can stay to tell the tale a majority of those circumstances. you have dealt with rather unfavourable circumstances; believe me your existence can in straightforward terms flourish from right here. and because you're so conscious of having people who're meant to love and shelter you as your in many situations happening source of grievance; as quickly as you bypass away them at the back of you will experience the replace on your existence. you will finally be allowed to experience satisfaction and accomplishment when you consider which you isn't surrounded by unfavourable critics. I agree, you ought to bypass away your loved ones and not in any respect communicate to them back. no person merits to be taken care of how you have and there is no excuse, no habit or ailment justifies this variety of abuse to a newborn. as quickly as you have moved to a clean place, the two geographically and emotionally, you will start to be sure how particular and massive you're. the reality you have dealt with this abuse ability you have a benevolent heart. regardless of their medical care of you, you persevered or maybe felt shelter your kin. take excitement interior the indisputable fact which you're so sort and open, this could coach to be an excellent expertise for you interior the destiny. additionally, comprehend that your melancholy and agoraphobia is in straightforward terms a effect of our environment in which you have been residing. particular existence will proceed to modern annoying circumstances, yet those annoying circumstances could be conquer on a similar time as your modern difficulty can in straightforward terms be prevented. finally, earlier you bypass off on your individual you ought to objective to devise forward (no longer saying you have no longer in basic terms offering some advice out of situation). Have a area in concepts earlier you bypass away, be sure you recognize what you will prefer as quickly as you arrive there, and you ought to objective to maintain up some money so as which you will help your self on a similar time as finding for artwork and a place to stay. I applaud you braveness, you ought to not doubt your self. it somewhat is the suited determination. bypass away the nest and bounce.
2016-10-17 02:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut her out of your life. You don't need a bitter old "C" dragging you down.
2007-06-12 17:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by redrum5785 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bite your tongue and ignore her. She's old, how long can she live?
2007-06-12 17:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
distance youreslf and see how it goes. if u still feel like cutting them out of your life, then you should.
2007-06-12 17:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋