How to deal with not being the family favorite?

Question

It's pretty obvious that my mother favors my brother over me (even though he doesn't live here anymore!); my brother is also the family favorite (extended), and I'm pretty sure that no one cares about me that much in the family. I've noticed that I began distancing myself from the family in the beginning of my teenage years; how did some of you deal with not being appreciated that much in the family?

Answer 1

Looked the other way and kept working on my own life (by myself) knowing that one day I would meet someone who I will be number 1 to and have kids who will tell me that I'm their favorite mommy in the whole world. You know what that day is here. Also I should say you need to talk to your parents about your feelings make them understand because you could be wrong they might just feel he is easier to talk to and you seem like you don't want to be bothered.

Answer 2

ooh gurl im goin through the same thing but u c ive been abused by my mom its hard 4 me i went 2 go c a consular mayb u should im planing on doin that this summer i had 2 meeting wit the consular @ skool u should 2 i always feel that way dont worry ur not alone everybody is always payin more attention 2 my lil brothers i only got spoiled 4 1 year & that waz it im the oldest so its harder 4 me well i hope u take this advice it can help

Answer 3

im not the family favorite and im glad im not there is too much pressure with being the favorite that sometimes that attention can get you so sick and wouldnt even let you explore the horizons, dont get jealous i know its hard not too, and we are humans we feel that way, but then you also need to see the positive things, and that when you rebel you are only destroying yourself and not them.
its not good to be the favorite for they would expect so much of you. and when you dont meet those expectations its hard to explain,youre family cares about you even though you might not see it, what is important is that you care for them, you love your family unconditionally

Answer 4

I made friends that became my family and ignored it. I have no idea why my mother prefers her son's over her daughters as they are both slimeballs, and its her daughters that take care of her. But she does, she always has and she's not changing now. Learn to live your own life and don't expect anything from people who don't have it to give.

Answer 5

Well, some of my relatives have allways treated me in a disrespectful way. They have allways tried to take advantage on me. Some of them used me to get what they wanted as if I was an object. I told them (cousins) that if they didn't wanted to talk to me that's ok, but I'll not accept they to come to me to ask for things if they are ignoring me. So I stopped talking to some of them. As I'm not important to them, they are not going to be important to me anymore.
The best you can do is to tell them straight that you do not like the way they treat you. If they don't get it stop talking to them.

Answer 6

just build relationships with other people outside your bloodline or confront your family with your feelings. learn from this, too, in case you have children in the future.

Answer 7

my family treated me like the famly piece of dog sh i t. luckliy i dealt with it by trying to get ahead of all of them, which wasnt hard bcuz they were all drugged out losers . i went to college and betterd myself and they are still nutty losers. i feel im lucky not to be the favorite there woudl be something wrong with me if htey liekd me. they are all nuts

Answer 8

Just move on. Make something of yourself.

Answer 9

Somebody's got to be the oddball out......

Answer 10

as i see it its there loss to not really know me