I have been with my boyfirend for 6 years thi year and we have had our ups and downs but its pretty good and relaxed re;ationship. Anyway i want to get ebgaged to him but i havent said a word to him about it cause i want him to just come out and ask me. My question is to you do you think after 6 years you shoud at least be engaged or married? Do you think its because he dosent love me or he is stil not ready?
2007-06-12 17:04:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It depends on how old you are, but if you're in your mid 20's and you don't have any idea if he even wants to get married, it's probably not going to happen.
You should at least talk to him about your future. Does he see you two together? Do you both know what you want out of life? Does he think getting married is something that he plans on doing? 6 years is long enough to warrant having at least a few conversations about the future.
If he doesn't want to discuss the future, you probably aren't ever going to move to "the next step," whatever that may be.
Also, guys probably won't surprise you with an engagement if you've never discussed marriage. Getting rejected from a marriage proposal is a terrible thing for a guy to face, and he will probalby want some indication that you want a more serious committment.
2007-06-12 17:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Driver's_Seat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I are engaged after 5 years and one thing you have to get used to, especially when your young, is that the person he is now, and the person you are now, is not who you will be years down the road. One way to know for sure if hes the one when you have spent so much time with him is the hardest, take a break, and see other people so 10 years from now you dont feel like you missed out on a different life. My fiance and I separated for 4 months because we started going out so young, and we really came out of it a stronger couple.
2007-06-13 00:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by mxpxgirl0071 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well it depends on the couple. I know people that have been together for 10 years and have a baby together and they haven't gotten engaged. It's becoming more and more common for people to not get married. But if you want to get married, why not ask him yourself?
2007-06-13 00:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, if you started dating when you were 12, no, 6 years is not a long time
2007-06-13 00:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Christina V 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
After two of three years he would have asked you if he wanted to marry you. You've waited too long. He may love you dearly, but the two of you may not be a match for marriage.
2007-06-13 08:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You WANT him to ask you.
Have you guys talked about it at all?
If he has no idea about what you are thinking how is he supposed to know you are thinking of marriage?
Bring up little hints, or just talk about marriage... I don't think you should have ANY expectations of getting engaged unless you've at least TALKED about it.
My fiance and I talked about it well before we got engaged.
2007-06-13 09:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you have these questions, ask him where does he see this relationship heading. I am sure from his response you can determine what your next step should be. Sometimes we can Love someone with all our heart and maybe they love us back, but not the same way. I hope that is not your case.
Talk to him and I wish you the Best!!!!!!! :)
2007-06-13 00:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by LRB330 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not if you've been having troubles. Also maybe he doesn't know you want to be married if you haven't spoken to him about it.
2007-06-13 00:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
PERSONNALLY I THINK THAT U SHOULD NOT RUSH INTO MARRIAGE. I KNOW MARRIAGE IS A GOOD THING BUT NOT FOR ALL PEOPLE LET NATURE TAKES IT'S COURSE IF IT'S MEANT TO BE THEN IT WILL HAPPEN IF NOT U SHALL MOVE ON
2007-06-13 00:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by AARIKA 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋