My friend owes me money but I don't know how to politely remind her. It's just a small sum, but I won't be seeing her for a while so I need to remind her ASAP.
2007-06-12 16:40:17 · 18 answers · asked by para p 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
How about, I hate to bother you, but people forget things over time, would it be possible for you to repay me before you leave?
Being straightforward with tact is not impolite - harboring a resentment when you didnt ask is ;)
2007-06-12 16:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I find the more direct approach gets action. The only polite words may be in the beginning, with words such as, "I'm sorry to bother you, but I need to have you repay the $20 you borrowed from me two weeks ago."
A polite "getting your foot in the door" to bring up the delinquent obligation gets you halfway there. She will be reminded, and she will either pay you, give you an excuse, or completely ignore your request.
Direct words get results. I am not saying that you should be rude or disrespectful. All you want is your money back. You need to be assertive.
2007-06-13 03:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do forget, but there are just too many who don't care and don't intend on paying you back so don't worry too much about being polite.
Get your money back simply by reminding her that she borrowed it and you'll need it back before she goes or you go; whichever it is.
If she comes up with excuses and can't pay you back; NEVER,NEVER AGAIN..LEARN NOW.
She's the one who borrowed it so she should repay it and you shouldn't be in this position now; trying to figure out how to politely ask for it back.
Just say, hey, I won't be seeing you for a while and I'll be needing the money I let you borrow.
2007-06-12 17:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by cut-it-out 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
In a pleasant tone, say:
Hey, do you have that 20 bucks you owe me? (obviously, whatever the real sum is)
If you like, you can add:
I could use it now.
Say it pleasantly.
As long as you're pleasant, there's no reason to not be direct.
2007-06-12 17:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sure, you can tell her with a big smile "remember you owe me some money".
The next time, remember.. if you lend money to a friend, you'll probably lose the money and the friend.
:-)
.
2007-06-12 16:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't we see this happening all the time. The lender feels like the beggar, begging to get their money back. It's so sad.
2007-06-12 21:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is what i do: 'do i owe you any money? just wanna clear any debts between us' and when they ask back, remind them.
this works with my friends because they always ask back!
2007-06-13 00:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by yin yang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you are low in cash and need some to pay a bill or something and ask if she has what you lent her
2007-06-12 16:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by Vee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
best way is to ask straight cause whatever way you ask she will ustand that u want the money and if she is a friend she would like you to be stright..
2007-06-12 16:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by coolcal 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
NEVER loan money to people if you need it back. Assume your money has just been flushed (for a good cause) and act pleasantly surprised when it comes back. Bottiom line: if you can't afford to GIVE it, don't loan it ot...
2007-06-12 16:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by bebop_music 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋