I am a christian,, recently actually. my parents are pastors but i was neevr intothe whole God thing until about two weeks ago. anyways my boyfriend, joey, his parents are also pastors, and he isnt a christian. how can I be a good influence on him without goin back to my old habits? and another fact is we both live in zimbabwe, but we are 6 hours apart. so i have to be good at being a good influence on the phone more then anything. so please if you have any tips I would greatly appreciate.
if this is necessary I am 17 he is 21
2007-06-12 16:36:21 · 22 answers · asked by tandita 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Mangwanani Tandita.
With your parents both being Pastors, your boyfriend could cause you a problem, unless you seek their advise, especially as it would appear you have not long converted to Christendom yourself. They will be able to guide you, far better than any of us. They are followers of God and will understand.
If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents, try talking to another Pastor or an elder of your church.
If Joey is an unbeliever, then I doubt his parents would be able to sway him.....well not in a hurry.
Six Hours.....umm....Harare, Bulawayo? Does that mean you are of a different Totem?
It would be wrong for you to try to change him, well not in a hurry anyway. Just hamba gahle, otherwise you will chase him away. For the time being, just enjoy your friendship.
Above all, don't let Joey influence you into going back to those darker days, especially if you are still at school or college.
Good Luck.
2007-06-12 17:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by Greatgrandmother 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A boyfriend is a potential marriage partner, so be very careful not to make an unyoked choice. According to the Word of God, both people should be equally yoked (both Christians) in marriage. If not, all kinds of problems will arise, especially when you have children. And do not base your relationship on hopes of his becoming christian. Hopefully with you as someone who cares about him, you can lead him to the Lord. But before you would ever decide to marry anyone, and they profess to be christian, make sure it is not for your sake. Pray to God for a partner. God bless
2007-06-12 23:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by connie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Work on being a good Christian yourself. If you bf likes what he sees he may be influenced. Alternatively find yourself a Christian boyfriend. But since you have only been a Christian for two weeks he may find you not sufficiently Christian!
2007-06-13 03:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by LillyB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is good Bible advice;
(1 Corinthians 15:33) Do not be misled. Bad associations spoil useful habits.
Ask him if he would be prepared to become a good christian first, with all the responsibilities, and THEN court you.
It could take some time.
If he is not prepared for that, dump him, regardless of who his parents are, and find yourself a GOOD man.
And please, give yourself another 5 or 6
years before any commitments.
2007-06-13 00:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by pugjw9896 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that women are more spiritual than men naturally.
Now that you have free will and chosen to seek God and you realize this is the right path for you, don't let anyone take it from you. Darkness uses other people to pull us away from God. You will be foolish if you allow yourself to back slide because you want your boyfriends friendship more than you want God. The best way to help him is stick to your new realized faith and don't give it away. Show him by example that you are faithful to God. If he is meant to be with you, he will follow your example. You don't have to force it on him because if he is not ready, he will not follow. This is where you need to be strong for your soul. It is best to be equally Yoked in a relationship. If not you may have difficulty and it would be better to let one go for another who follows your path to righteousness. I could never be with someone who does not agree and Love the Lord. If they make a choice to not believe, then that is their problem, not mine. I hope this helps you some.
Rev. TomCat
2007-06-12 23:49:32 · answer #5 · answered by Rev. TomCat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Live your life in such a way that he'll ask you how you can have peace in difficult situations. Let him see, by your example, that Christ is needed in a person's life in order to conquer the evil that exists in the world. Keep your conversations chaste and godly. Let him know how important Christ is in your life. And don't listen to people who tell you not to try and teach him about Jesus. Remember what Christ said, that if anyone is ashamed of him before mankind, He will be ashamed of them before His Father. So, don't hide the fact that you're a Christian because you think it might offend him. Better to offend him than to deny your Lord who redeemed you with His own blood. Peace.
2007-06-12 23:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by superfluity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a true Christian, the Bible tells you "not to be unequaly yoked". God does know best!!!
I would say also that it is something to talk to your parents about, just doing that should help alot.
2007-06-12 23:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Action speaks louder than words. By example be a good example to him. One never know how it touches so many people in the right way.
2007-06-12 23:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Mel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well , the bible says "be not unequally yoked", which means that a believer and an unbeliever should not marry. And if you don't have any plans to marry Him one day, then why date him ???
Go to your parents for advice and listen to them , you will be glad later, that you did .
I married the man that I loved , my Mom told me not to marry him and I did it anyway. He just left me for another woman after 29 years of marriage and six kids later. I wish , I had listened to my Mom.
God gives parents great wisdom to see things for their kid's life, just trust God and listen to your parent's advice.
God bless you .......
2007-06-13 01:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Friendhip does not depend on religion.it is only personal relation.Do not mix frienship and religion.I have got good friends from all religions.
2007-06-13 00:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋