I don't feel any need to destroy baptismal records but what is angering me more and more is saying prayers and not being answered. My wife divorced me and I feel Christianity is a fat waste because it has no teeth when it comes to reconciling a couple in disagreement. I looked at the Muslims and I think the Christians need to model after them: I do not feel any judge or magistrate should have the right to break what was sanctified. I feel that the only way a wife can get a divorce is by permission of her husband. Otherwise if the two of them have a disagreement it is OK to be separated until they can come together again in peace. But divorce should be completely removed from the power of any government entity. No you can't force anyone to love you but no one forced them to take those vows. So those vows need to be just as binding as the military inductance ceremony.
2007-06-12 16:28:43 · 12 answers · asked by sharonmm2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some of you feel I was controlling but none of you who stated that ever asked me how my wife treated me?
No- I'm not controlling in reality. My wife was a new immigrant and I taught her many new things. She arrived in the U.S. very underweight and I fed her and she gained weight. She was also diagnosed with latent TB and this "controlling husband" was with her every step of the way to help with the doctors, getting her meds and seeing that she was cared for.
I did many other things for her as well and all I asked in return was love because thats all I cared about. She left me on May 2 in a very under handed way. That was the thanks I got for giving part of my life up for her benefit. My opinion hasn't changed-I do means...I DO. It is a commitment, not a maybe. Ever seen older couples married 30-40 years. THATS commitment. THATS love! They might get mad, throw mashed potatoes at each other but the word "divorce" doesn't get mentioned. Thats how it should be.
2007-06-13 15:19:29 · update #1
Your wife didn't divorce you because of a "disagreement". My guess is because of your whole attitude. Have you considered that your prayers were answered when you got rid of a wife that didn't love you?
Marriage is not slavery. I can't imagine living with someone with so much hate inside, especially if the "state" told me I had to. Get some counseling, and for pete's sake get into a different church. Whoever is supposed to guiding you in your religion is doing a poor job if they haven't told you that you aren't entitled to happiness, you have to work for it.
2007-06-12 16:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree that marriage and divorce should not be thrown around like the latest fad in someones life but neither should a person's emotions.
You call a hypocrisy against the entire Christian religion, for allowing people to choose to be divorced to say HEY I MADE A MISTAKE very loud and pay for it for the rest of their lives. I was in the military and I saw troops marry barely legal foreign brides, of which many couldn't speak English, then watched it fall apart. One woman got fake boobs, braces, and Lazar hair removal, divorced the dude and went back home. Now that was cruel. But no crueler than a man taking a woman from another country, to which customs and traditions are sharply different but both worlds live in a sort of stereotypically created fantasy world when they think of marring someone from the other country. In other words, she thought "Hey I'll come to America and be treated like an equal, just like the men. I may actually be able to better my life and the lives of my family, all I have to do is marry this arrogant American" And you.... you thought "I want a woman who 'loves' me enough to bend to my every whim. Who believes in her soul that her purpose in life is to serve me and ensure my happiness. And there may actually be one overseas who wasn’t married off at 13." Of course she left you Get over it she's an American now you screwed up, you should have lived with her in the 3rd world so that you would have been able to personally experience what it feels like to be thought of as an object. And just so you know, I take my dog to the vet and wait nervously in the waiting room if she needs a surgery but I don’t ask her what she wants.
2007-06-18 08:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by littlefariemom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to renounce Christianity because your prayers weren't answered in the way you wanted them to be, then go ahead, but don't blame God and Christianity for your/your ex wife's inadequacies. One of the things God gave us is free will, and just as it was your wife's will to marry you, it was also her will to divorce you. Not even God can MAKE us do what we do not want to, and she obviously didn't want to be with you any longer. Perhaps the answer you got was actually the right one. Do you honestly think that it is better to stay in an unhappy marriage, where you know that your wife does not love you, rather than allow her to go and find happiness? Your life is not over, you too can find happiness again, you just need to get over the hurt you are feeling at the moment. Instead of praying for your failed marriage, pray that you will be able to work through this and find happiness of your own. I will be praying for you, and hope that you will soon find peace.
2007-06-13 01:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bendito~ ; (
I belive there is a god , dont let the devil in ur head mamita.
from what i read i think u need just alittle help , with self esteem. u already been thru alot trying to be accepted . maybe just maybe u put a little too much... it scared her ! u know what i mean? it happens alot when pll dont control their love . it becomes an obsession. forgive me if i am wrong , or maybe she was an abuser she used the heck out of u until she could stand on her own. but u know what just think of it as a another experience in life , we all go thru some horrible times in our lives we sometimes think there is no god! but he is here always looking at u reading ur thoughts. seen who u deal with it ... if ur heart is true to love and accept things as they come . dont listen to ur head thinking angry at every thing that has happened to u . u know that evil talks to u , takes u away from Jesus..... is just another experience and feel proud of how u helped her stand . pray for guidance and u will recive it , god knows when the time is right!..he knows how much u can take ! ...... when is a good one, not one thats going to hurt u ! belive it mami good luck............ take it easy ! ok life is hard for those who want to be closer to god . cause evil is on the loose. but in the end we the good will prevail. i belive if the law was the way u said , i would be very unhappy... so would u if u was on the other side ,not happy with spouse. think about it mami...... mucho luv ! xoxo
2007-06-19 17:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by ALL4 ONE&1FOR ALL! AMERICA! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you seem to want is a country that makes laws according to a particular religion, and makes them binding as in a muslim country. It used to be just about that way in the U.S. and Canada until divorce became easier.
However, women still left men -- some because the men were abusive and controlling. Others left because they were loose.
I suspect it wasn't Christianity that let you down. Rather, it seemed to be a relationship which you found difficult. She was dissatisfied, whether rightly or wrongly, and you would have preferred to have had a tougher law to make her tough it out.
That might have worked if you were also willing to to work at it, to love your wife as the Bible suggests -- totally, unselfishly giving yourself to her as Christ did for the church, loving her as your own body. It's too bad that can't be put into law too.
2007-06-12 17:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by waldguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did you get your info on Christianity? Obviously not from the Holy Bible. The only acceptable reason for divorce is if the spouse commits adultery. If you want to know what God thinks you should read His Holy Bible.
Why do you want someone who doesn't want you anyway? That maybe some of the reasons she divorced you. You are way too controlling, she doesn't need your permission to do anything in this free country of ours. That doesn't have anything to do with Christianity. You need to read up on it, you don't know what you are talking about.
2007-06-12 16:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
before badmouthing Christianity because you are keeping your eyes on men (or women) instead on God's word, you would know the answer to your question. Read 1 Cor. 13 and find out what love is, read Job, Christianity is not an "easy way out" in fact it's quite the opposite, eternity with Christ is the goal and it isn't easy "at all" if it was "what" would be the point ? Everyone seeks an easy answer, there is only "one easy answer "God is love" and wants good things for us, trouble is "we" "self" the world flesh and the devil, get in the way, we expect "instant gratification" or God's not worth it"
Read the whole bible, It tells you all about it "ahead of time" about it "all". God loves us, but we will suffer many things, one day "none" "if" we are of His heart, His children.
2007-06-20 11:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by dad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep praying....you can't just give up. and perhaps God DID answer your prayer, you just didn't like his answer. also, you can't keep someone with you, that isn't happy....you might as well lock her up, because you don't want a divorce. sure it's best to try to work out your problems, but if that doesn't work, then there is no need in staying in a marriage that isn't working. as for Christians modeling after Muslims....I think that's just stupid. Muslims treat their women like they are nothing, and I for one do not think that God intended on marriage being like that. Men may be the head of the house, but he should never have say on whether or not she can be divorced from him. you have no right to keep someone there just because YOU say so.
2007-06-12 16:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by tweetybird37406 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 09:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christianity does not support divorce. If you will read the Bible, God hates divorce. According to the Bible, the only grounds for divorce is adultery.
Christianity is not responsible for the divorce trend--it's our government and all of this bull such as "No-fault" divorce.
2007-06-20 04:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Ida T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋