my dad has a problem with crystal meth, pain killers and alcohol. I dont know what to do, he's been using it for a while, im not sure how long. he's not a person that will go to rehab or things like that. im wondering if theirs a way i can help him. hes also very depressed. What do i do?
2007-06-12 16:22:30 · 14 answers · asked by ughh 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
No you can't help him. He will have to hit rock bottom. If he won't get professional help maybe you can do and intervention.http://www.aetv.com/intervention/participate/index.jsp
You need to intervene with professionals.
2007-06-12 16:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have had many friends and famly become addicted to all sorts of drugs. And meth is more then likely the worse. I've seen rich people lose all there money and they take there own life. I've seen poor people commit armed robbery and I've even met a teacher who sold to students because the money was so good. It's the lowest or the low drug. I dont want to scare you but if this is really your father you need to make a fast decission. Either turn him into the police and hope he doesn't hate you for something that is really KILLING HIM! Or ask more family to become involed and hold a intervention. This is not a joke! Please help the man because inside he wishes he was a better man not only for himself but for you as well. Peace love and my wishes will be with you and your father.
2007-06-12 16:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by alexaaron6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately anything you say really won't make him stop. You can tell him how you feel and what he means to you, however, addicts have to realize they have a problem and WANT to make a change for themselves.
Do you know why he is depressed, other than the fact that the drug use alone will cause this! Maybe he feels like he's failed his family or himself. Maybe he's just feeling useless because things aren't turning out in his life like he hoped.
All you can really do is talk to him and tell him what's in your heart. I was with an addict for over 5 years and no matter how many times I tried, nothing worked. He is now in prison until 2020 for reasons including possession of cocaine, which he was already on probation for.
Good luck.
2007-06-12 16:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by whatchagonnado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately people with addictions have to want to help themselves first. Is there anyway you feel comfortable in sitting down with your dad when he's not under the influence and discussing, not arguing, about how much you love him and are concerned about what's going on. Does he have medical problems for example issues with pain that are justified? If so, one avenue is to go to a pain clinic but to be honest with them on the first visit if unrelieved pain is why he's been using illicit drugs/meds/alcohol. They are good if used appropiately for pain management. It sounds as if he's taking pain pills and alcohol which are both "downers" more of a sedative effect then using meth to "pick back up". Even if he refuses to get help for himself, please find a group to meet with such as Al-A-Non not sure if I spelled it correctly but alcoholics anonymous groups also have groups for family members who unfortunately are affected by their usage. Just remember, he's not who he really wants to be right now and most probably is depressed as alcohol is a depressant along with the pain medication. Encourage him to get help and let him know you'll be there for him. I pray everything will work out for the best for all involved. Just keep on keeping on. Don't give up, that's the easy thing to do.
2007-06-12 16:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could give you an answer that would make you happy, but I can't. Unfortunately, the only person that can help your father is your father. He's depressed because of the drugs he's been taking. That's one of the many disgusting things that drug abuse can do to a person. The best thing I can tell you is to let your dad know that you love him and that you will be there for him.
2007-06-12 16:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My only advice is that if you are living with him, find a place to stay. You're only gonna wind up being there when/if he gets busted or freaks out. If you don't live there, tell him that what he is doing is not only affecting him, that its affecting you too. Tell him you'll go with him to see a doctor. If you have an aunt, uncle or sibling that you are close to, tell them about it and how upset you are. They can be with you and act as a mediator between you and your dad. My best advice is to tell him yourself. Its gonna be hard, but its something that he needs to hear. If he has an addiction, its going to take more that just telling him to make him stop. You really should distance yourself from him until he stops or seeks help. And tell him why you are distancing yourself. Tell him you are uncomfortable with his lifestyle and you are worried about his health. There is nothing you can do to make him stop, and its not your fault.
2007-06-12 16:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by MomOfThreeBoys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go to rehab. Usually there's nothing you could do. Even telling him your fears and feelings won't usually stop a drug problem. A drug problem is a symptom of an emotional dis-ease. He needs help kicking the drugs then long term treatment for emotions. Please don't blame yourself as I know children often do. Use your dads faults as your motivation to be stronger and wiser that he is.
2007-06-16 07:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by sillylittlemonkee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont make it your problem. Get a plan in mind. Call the local drug and alcohol detox-recovery centers in your area and find out what is nessesarry to get him in a recovery program.
If he takes the help. Great! If he does not, turn your back and walk away. You cannot save him if he does not want to save him self.
I know this because I left a man who was addicted to heroin, alcohol and cocaine. I dont even know what happened to him after our divorce. I am not sure if he is dead or alive and its been 6 yrs.
2007-06-12 16:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a stop by your local clinic, that deals with free bees. Tell the nurse or doctor, about what he takes. ask what they recomend you do for helping him.
Under stand this. If and when he deceides he needs help, any thing you do, wil probably be a big plus. but untill then, any desire to helphim will brobably not work.
2007-06-12 16:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by duster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime only tough love will work, you may have to turn him in to get him help. Remember how long do you want him around. Now do what you have to, with love.
2007-06-12 16:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by Coop 366 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go to rehab. That is the only way he will be able to fight this unfortunately..
Is there not a way to FORCE people to go?
2007-06-12 16:25:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋