Is this normal?

Question

Ok, so I'm 15 and I guess at this point in my life I'm dealing with a lot of problems that teenagers face, but I feel very overwhelmed by my problems and just want to escape. I mean my parents are controling and want to know exactly everything that is going on with my life at every second, me and my best friend of 10 years have now went our separate ways for now and I'm very upset about that, and then me and my boyfriend broke up that I loved very much. So lately I have been experimenting with drugs, but nothing serious. Basically marijuana and some pills. I just used them to get away for a while and to feel stress free. I've just been thinking that maybe this could be a little more serious than tipical teenage stuff, and that it's probably depression. I make excellent grades, there's no problem there, it's just everything else. I cry a lot and I am almost always sad and I don't even know why half the time. I'm just fed up with dealing with everything. And no I'm NOT suicidal!
Thanks

Answer 1

First of all, 15 is a difficult age. You are too old to be a kid, and too young to be a young adult. It's hard.

Everything you are feeling is very normal. Not to defend your parents, but when you are an adult, you will look back and appreciate that your parents cared enough to keep up with your whereabouts. They care about your safety and well-being and do not do it to control you. But if you look at it from their point of view, it was only a few short years ago that they had to watch you more closely, do your laundry, help you wash your hair, cook your meals. The transition into the teen years is difficult for them, too. So, be glad they care...even if it appears they are controlling.

I'm sure the loss of a dear friend is traumatic. I hope you can find a way to mend that fence, or keep in touch, whichever the case may be. I am sorry to hear of the separation.

As for the boyfriend, I do not know what to tell you there. You will love many and be hurt by even more. I hope everything works out for the best and your broken heart mends, but the honest truth is you will date other guys in your youth and this is just one of many, many break-ups you will experience. Grieve the loss, be sad, but turning to drugs is never the answer.

The drugs you are taking could be making your depression much worse. Drugs are never a good thing, and you could be becoming addicted to them. You should go to your parents and express the need to see a doctor due to your sadness. It isn't necessary to tell them about the drug use, unless you feel it has gotten out of your control and you need help stopping. Otherwise, stop all the drugs now, and see your doctor for help with the depression.

I have endured a difficult childhood, and had parents who didn't care. I was exposed to alcohol and drugs, but managed to turn out really well. If you have any other questions, or need any other advice, you are welcome to message me and I will give you a candid opinion. I do not support drug use, smoking, or drinking - under any circumstances. I hope you stop the drugs and take care of your health. I do see why you might be depressed.

Please take care. Let me know if you need to talk.

Answer 2

OK Ash, you ARE going through a difficult time in your life right now and you will continue to have hurdles throughout your lifetime. All of us, no matter what age, go through life's struggles. Please, please, do not turn to drugs, alcohol, etc., to escape the problems because they only temporarilly make you think you are "pain free". When you sober up, or come back to your senses, you will still be facing the same problems, and sometimes worse problems (being put in jail for example).
I realize it is difficult but try to focus on the positives in your life. You are young and bright (from the sound of your question).
Get a scratch pad and draw and write about your emotions. It doesn't matter how well you draw or write...just put it down on paper.
Like your own personal diary.
I think your parents are possibly concerned because they realize you are going through a troubling time and sometimes they don't know how to help.
Just try to help yourself. Pull yourself up by the bootlaces, look at your good points, say you are damn well worth a good life, and march on down the road.
It may take a little time but, as the saying goes, "this soon will pass".
In the end I think you will look back and learn a very good lesson that will stay with you the rest of your life.
Believe me, I've been there a few times and have been just recently. I just wish I had the youth on my side that you have where I was more resilient. I still got over it and am continuing to go on down the road.
Keep up the good grades, keep thinking about the positives. You sound like a wonderful, intelligent person. Bless you...

Answer 3

Well first, GET OFF THE DRUGS! they may not seem serious now but they will most likely lead u 2 do even more serious drugs. second, try being friends with ur best friend again, third, understand that all parents are controling, and maybe if they're that bad u should sit down and talk about how ur 15 and u want 2 control ur own life and fourth the whole boyfriend thing, ik how u feel, but some way ull get over it, and maybe seeing a councelor could help, but u cant just not do anything now, or it could get serious.

Answer 4

You are experiencing normal teenage feelings and emotions. It is hard and you don't think you will ever get through it but you will. I used to write a lot at your age and that helped some. In fact, that was probably the most creative time of my life because of how strong my emotions were. There is a good and a bad side to strong feelings.

The scary part is that you said you tried some pills and pot. Even though you think it isn't serious it can become serious before you know it. You have worked hard for your good grades so please don't flush all that down the toilet. Plus it is illegal and if you get caught you will be screwed. And drugs lead to depression. It only feels good when you do them but when they wear off..it's worse.

Write, meditate, work out, go shopping, hang out with friends but PLEASE stay away from the bad stuff. You will make it.

Answer 5

Hi there!
Your at an age when things go crazy. Friendships change- bf's come and go- the stress of school gets more intense. This is DRAMA zone age for girls. You don't have a license to kinda come and go and your stuck still kind of doing what everyone else does. This will change in your 16th-17th year and you will feel you have more freedom to escape.
As for your parents- if you are doing drugs- they are most likely picking up on your change of personality- so they have more questions for you.
Even if you were not doing any drugs- at your age it is still appropriate for your parents to know where you are at all times.
Look at all the missing kids in the news. Should something happen to you- your parents need to be able to say where you were last and where you were heading to and how and when.
Hun- your just really at that tough age now... It will get better.
I hope you can talk to your Mom.
HUGS

Answer 6

You've suffered anxiety and minor depression as a result of your parents' controlling and two other recent events. So you'd feel insecure, depressed, lonely, anxious, nervous, lack of self-esteem, easy to cry, etc. Unless you'd talk to your parents about their controlling to you and try to deal with it, your anxiety and depression ain't gonna be lessened. You need to understand of why your parents were being so controlling -- there must have had a reason to know. Otherwise you'd have felt kept in a cage like a guinea pig and no way out, a condition which would make you feel really depressed and helpless. So the key here is you PARENTS.

If you'd feel too stressful and cannot get over it, you probably need to see your psychiatrist for the suitable medicines to proportionally lessen your current anxiety and depression.

Answer 7

Ok I am 15 too and I can relate to you. But drugs dont solve nothing they get you into trouble. You might think hey This works but It only makes you feel worse afterwards. Yes you lost your bestfriend everyone loses someone weather bestfriend boyfriend you just got to be strong and move on. Yes parents are controling always will be but thats cause they want to protect you. I found out being honest with them helped me alot. Because then they understood where I was coming from. Maybe you just need a brake from everything just relax. Yes you might be depressed for a little but hey thats life just dont let it get to you. I mean you will have more bestfriends in life and more boyfriends.

Answer 8

OK, the way you feel is normal for a 15 year old, except that you may be experiencing depression. You should seek treatment, and stop with the drug use! You could become addicted without even realizing and it could destroy your whole life. Find another way to relax and cope - try yoga, keep a journal, learn to garden. There are lots of ways to deal with stress without drugs. In the end, your problems will only be worse because of them.

Answer 9

I am sorry you are so overwhelmed. You have faced a lot of problems.

First, Drugs will not take away anything. They just make you don't care for a while. The problems are still there when you come down from your highs. Please do not let your problems start you onto drugs. You can stop now before you become addicted or get something else other than you thought you were getting.

Your parents want to know everything because they care. Look at those who have parents who do not care where they are or what they are doing. That is sad. You think you have problems now, , , If you didn't have parents who cared, where do you think you would be now?

Please stop trying to escape your problems with drugs. There are so many more things you can do. First, I believe that honesty and communication are very important in any relationship. You really need to sit down with your family and talk to them about what is going on with you. Get to a doctor for your depression. I bet they care more for you than you think they will. I am sure they will be upset you experimented with drugs, but they should be. I am and I do not know you. I do know drugs are not the answer.

Please talk to your family. Seek counseling at your school. There is so much more to your life and it is YOU who can control it. You can take the life of drugs or such things to try to escape things that will still be there, or you can change your attitude about the bad things that have happened. You can have so much more that God has to offer, choose the right path. God will have someone in your life that is for you. Pray to him about how you feel and what you would like to help you feel better. You can go and volunteer to get your mind off your problems. You will brighten someone's day and your spirit will be lifted. Make new friends. Some friends are only meant to be in our lives a short while. Some last forever. It is up to you to move on with your life. No one else can do it for you. Hugs to you from me and my cat.

You can overcome anything you set your mind to. Please talk with the ones who truly love you and will always be there for you. You may not like the rules and stuff now, but respect them for the rules as it shows they really care. Talk to them about how things make you feel about them. Start with something positive as that way they will not be defensive if you start with a negative. Tell them you love them and respect them. Tell them what you need help with. ie... Depression. Tell them you have experimented with drugs and you no longer want to go in that direction. They will actually care for you after they get over being upset at you for doing those things. If you had a child, you would probably be upset too. They sound like they are very protective of you. Tell them you would like to do more things and earn their respect of you by showing responsibility to other things. Ie... taking out garbage, doing dishes, things that will also help them.

I will pray for you. God bless you and your family for caring.

Answer 10

It is normal that you feel depressed, but is not good to use drugs. Even you are using it a little. Addict people to drugs started like this. Please don't continue using drugs because sooner or later you can loose control in using it, and then everything in your life is going to get even worst than now. We all experienced depression like yours . You are not the only one, so try to handle it in a positive way. You are very smart, so think in something good to solve your problems. Always think in solutions, and try not to make your life so difficult as using drugs. I wish you the best. Good Luck.