My boyfriend moved almost a mouth ago. He says he wants me to move to AZ with him. I don't know what to do. On one hand I LOVE him and on the other I will be leaving my family behind. Let me say this. He did cheat on me for a year. He left me for her and moved in with her. A year later we got back togethger.
2007-06-12 15:59:02 · 14 answers · asked by KAT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My boyfriend moved almost a mouth ago. He says he wants me to move to AZ with him. I don't know what to do. On one hand I LOVE him and on the other I will be leaving my family behind. Let me say this. He did cheat on me for a year. He left me for her and moved in with her. A year later we got back togethger. He move to AZ with his sister to get his self together. He wanted to stop smokin weed and find a good job. He did both!!!!!! I'm proud of him. He says he wants to marry me. He says he will never cheat again and he wants to take care of me like I did for he for so many years. It's been a year and a half since he cheated. And he move to AZ a month ago. I really need some input. Help me PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-13 18:30:07 · update #1
Don't go. If you have any hesitance (which you obviously do), do not go. If he actually moved out and in with another woman, there was something wrong with your relationship a while ago. My ex did the same thing, moved out and in with another woman, only later to move back in with me, and now, 6 months later, we are splitting up for good. We were together for the most part of 12 years. We both kind of knew when he moved back in, that it wasn't going to last. Chances are, he moved back in with you because he may have a problem living on his own and taking care of himself. If you are not truly happy, do not go. Good luck. Try reading a book called "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt. Or another good one by the same two people is "It's Called A Breakup Because It's Broken".
2007-06-12 16:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont go, if he cheated on you once he will do it again, you have a better chance to make it if you stay around your family, if this guy really loved you then he would have never cheated in the first place, if you move with him he will have control over everything and it will be a matter of time before he sees someone else he is interested in....
2007-06-14 14:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 02:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not married before you leave he doesn't have a reason not to cheat or do anything else he wants. But dont rush into marriage either. If you have forgave him and you have build up your trust then maybe things will be ok. Think first because when you away it can be good and bad.
2007-06-12 16:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by confused! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it!blood is thicker than water and your familys always got your back, a lying cheating boyfriend not so much!i left my family and home and moved 1,200 miles away from everything i knew and loved because my husband begged me for another chance.what a huge mistake,he treated me so much worse because he could.i had no one, no phone, no money ,no car, no family or friends and 5 babies to take care of.find a man who will love you and be faithful and honest .you deserve better don't settle.you will regret it if you do! good luck.
2007-06-12 16:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda agree with the answer above. If he was willing to commit that is one thing. But to leave ur family and surroundings, when u don't want to, seems to me like u might be letting him use u.
I wouldn't force him to propose, but if I was going to move, I would want to know that this is going somewhere.
2007-06-12 16:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by MusicMan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if he didn't cheat on you and leave you for another woman, I'd say go for it!
But the fact that he did do those things tells me he's not even worth it in the first place.
Stay home.
2007-06-12 16:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't if I were you.
If a guy did that to me, I would definitely not risk getting cheated on again.
But honestly, follow your heart and go with what you TRULY feel is right! Don't listen to people who don't know you or the relationship you're in!
Good luck.
2007-06-12 16:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay --I agree with all who said NO!--Absolutely Not!!!---Girl your are convenient For him --She's not there and now you are --he is filling his neediness to. Please don't go. When men want you they will do what ever to make you know it. He Does not love you becuase love does not use and abuse. Girl You have to know you are better then this and you have to love yourself enough to say I am worth more then this crap! Don't you want a man that loves you and wants to spend his life with you loving you and respecting you? NO !NO!NO!NO!NO!NO!NOOOOO! DO NOT MOVE WITH HIM PLEASE--You are hurting already where you are--You will hurt in Arizona too. (He obviously isn't that happy either)
2007-06-12 16:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by Maze 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not worth it you can find someone else. Why did he move in the first place?
2007-06-12 16:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by ☠ ☠ ☠ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋