I have been going out with my girlfriend for about a month and we have not kissed, its not her fault i have not tried to kiss her but she hasent either, do i have to make the first move? also she lives on my street and we talk on msn alot instead of just going to see each other usualy she has a reason but how do i get her to want me? she has never asked me to come outside i have only asked her, but she says she likes me
2007-06-12 15:50:37 · 42 answers · asked by bankas_ben 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try kissing her and see what happens. Maybe you will be pleasantly surprised!
2007-06-12 15:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by Rhiannon 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you both are very uncomfortable with this whole relationship. Maybe you to need to start acting out on some of your wants, what I mean is make a move and kiss the girl. People act off of others if you act comfortable she will and soon you don't have to act anymore. There is also the direct way by just telling her that you want to kiss her, either she'll smile and your both laughing and kissing, or she gets even more uncomfortable and then maybe you need to rethink whether or not she'll really the girl for you. Best of luck. :)
2007-06-12 16:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm surprised that after a month of going out the kiss hasn't naturally happened; but oh well every situation is totally different.
I would recomend to move halfway into a case when you all say bye to each other (not all the way).
Ask her to come out and see you. As a woman, I always wait for a guy to ask me to do something so I'm assuming I'm not the only girl that prefers to be asked out.
2007-06-12 15:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by lupitangeles_3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're mature enough to be kissing.
Maybe just give her a sweet polite peck on the cheek.
If you only talk on MSN and you live on the same street then can you honestly call her your girlfriend? You should ask her politely if she'd like to get a Slurpee with you or whatever, and then ask her if she's your girlfriend.
Good luck.
(How old are you, anyway?)
2007-06-13 16:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by Pippa McClellan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but when u do this be gentle and sweet about it.
Tell her u would like to kiss her then ask her if she mind if u kiss her, then please be gentle so she can not only enjoy it but she can remember it in a fun and wonderful way. Kiss her so can she goes home she can rewind the night and she will look forward to it the next time ur together.
Good Luck
the first kiss should always be a wonderful one for both of u
2007-06-12 15:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the "GAME" of dating and mind games. When you first start going out with a girl you should expect mixed messages and hard to get behavior from their part. "I like you, but i'm busy to see you" There will be a lot of contradictions.
Be assertive, a little cocky and aggressive and you'll be fine. DO NOT GET PARANOID and ask if everything is alright, thats a death wish. She wants and expects to be kissed so tell this to yoruself and know it will be ok and these are just the rules of the game.
The game will go one for months and years ones the BS is cut and you see each other for who you are until then be Mr. Cool.
2007-06-12 15:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, I would hope she likes you, since she is your girlfriend! To directly answer your question, your going to have to just kiss her. If she turns away or stops you then she doesn't want to! But I really don't think she will. A lot of girls don't like making the first move. That's common. Good luck!
2007-06-12 15:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, she has elected to be wth you, labeling herself your GIRLFRIEND, right??If you must ask yourself, maybe its not meant to be with this girl, cuz someones gotta move and it aint happenin'.You cant 'get' someone to want you, because then you wouldnt know if its legit, or if she liked you because of good charm,or tactics......which isnt always bad, but if you ever need to ask yourself what MORE you need to do after a whole month of going steady, with not even a kiss, theres probably little hope in that situation. Unless u just plant one on her, and take the risk. But trust me, if you are in high school, crushlove is totally different than in later years. I remember dating a guy just because he had a bomb car, and that was juvenile of me, I would never do that now. I wasnt even attracted to him. Thats worst case scenario though. Good luck.
2007-06-12 16:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl im dating made the fist move because she knew me for a long time and knows that i find it attrative when women go after what they want, dont epect all women to be that way... so far shes the only girl i dated who made the first move. from my experiance girl usually get turned on when men take charge. You might want to make the first move, ask her out and eventually if she doest kiss you eventually lean and kiss her dont be shy about it be confident.
good luck
2007-06-12 16:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by aiolos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing, you need to actually date. Stop all the msn stuff and go out. If she doesn't want to go out, then you need to rethink this relationship. Once yhou are actually going out...then if you want to kiss her then make a move. She could just be very shy and not sure if you want to kiss her.
2007-06-12 15:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by Mickey M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look her in the eye and lean toward her face. When you get close enough, put your lips on hers. The first kiss should not be a deep kiss, just a short, sweet tender one. You will know whether or not she likes it and wants you to do it again. It will work out great.
2007-06-12 15:55:26 · answer #11 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋