so my ex and i broke up a month ago, and i feel like he hates me because he wont talk to me, we talked twice for like a minute but it was about a stupid thing, we texted. how do i know if he hates me? what can i do to get him to talk to me more? and how will i know if he still has feelings for me? basically how can i calm things down and have him talk to me more? please help!
2007-06-12 15:46:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You broke up and now he's an ex...he's not required to talk to you. He probably doesn't want to so he can heal and go on with his life. I'm going to take a wild stab in the dark here but I'm guessing since he doesn't talk to you that he doens't have feelings for you. You need to move on now...
2007-06-12 15:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, get a life! Move on. Don't come across as desperate. It's very unattractive. Boost your confidence. Get your hair done, lose some weight, go on some dates (but don't sleep with anyone - too messy) and just be happy you are you. then focus on bettering yourself by going to school, joining a book club or whatever you like to do, take up a hobby, hang out with friends. You'll probably spend the majority of your adult life married so enjoy your freedom and single-dom now.
2007-06-12 22:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by Falina T. Rayon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't obsess, move on! Have you heard of love must be tough? Just keep your distance and, if it was a stupid break up then both parties will lighten up next time you meet. But don't obsess right now. See other people and keep yourself interesting. Find a great hobby to preoccupy your time. You'll come out happier next time he calls. Who cares if he hates you at this time? It will be different b/w the two of you if you give the relationship a break.....
2007-06-12 22:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by RightmostQuotient 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said your "ex"....which to means to me is in the past. If that's correct, why do you care what your "ex" is still doing? He's out of your life & there must be a reason for it. I honestly would say to move on. That relationship just didn't work out & they all don't. Please don't beat yourself up over something that "was"... Go forward to something/someone who is new. You have a better chance of meeting someone NEW, someone who just might be the one for you. Don't waste your time worrying about what might have been because it didn't happen. Use your time & energy into building a new relationship, something that you'll have a better chance of starting over. Look forward, not backward! Just give yourself a chance & you'll be happy you did. Just wait & see!
2007-06-12 22:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is over to me. If it is not, bye the constant harping on him, it will be over soon. I don't mean to sound cruel but communication is a cornerstone of a good relationship and that requires two active partners. If he won't talk to you, and you have tried talking to him, there is little else you can do. You could however concentrate on yourself and not him...it takes effort but once you make yourself the center, you will think of him less and less. Check out the page below for some tips.
2007-06-12 22:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care if he hates you? Just because you don't want another person to hate your or because you want him back? Either way, you need to have a face-to-face with him and try to explain to him why you broke up. You have to be honest with him but gentle so as not to hurt his feelings. Also, you HAVE to admit your mistakes or problems in the relationship or he won't want to hear what you have to say.
2007-06-12 22:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Be me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone! Don't be a clinging vine. Let him catch his breath. The more you chase after him trying to find out if he still likes you, if he hates you, if he doesn't like you, why he won't talk to you the faster he is going to run from you.
LEAVE HIM BE FOR A WHILE!!!
2007-06-12 22:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe not talking to you is his way of moving on! he might need his space. he doesnt have to talk to you anymore if he doesnt want to. that might sound mean but its true, maybe hes upset over the break up or whatever. but either way he has a reason for putting space between the two of you. you need to respect that. try asking him if theres a reason or if theres a chance you could be friends but if he says no theres nothing you can do about it
2007-06-12 22:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by babygurl84210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Julie, darling, it doesn't matter whether or not he hates you. You're broken up. If you are that determined to get him back, harrassing him with text and phone calls will not score you any brownie points.
2007-06-12 22:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to talk to him? There is a reason it's called "Ex-" - "X" marks the spot where something was, but not anymore.
2007-06-12 22:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋