My 15 year old daughter just changed her password without authorization. How do I get it back?

Question

This was sent to my main e-mail account :
"Your password for this account has recently been changed. You don't need to do anything, this message is simply a notification to protect the security of your account."
How do I gain access to her account so that I can suspend her usage when I'm not home?

Answer 1

Give her some privacy and have a talk with her about internet dangers.

I'm assuming you are using AOL because that's the only site I can think of that would give you the info about her account password being changed.

Even if you were to change her password and regain control, who says she doesn't have a Hotmail, Yahoo or any other free web based email address?

Just remember, teenagers are moody and over-emotional, she's going to do what she wants regardless of how much you try to protect and control her. Let her feel like she has some independence and let her keep her private email PRIVATE.

Answer 2

email accounts arent really the thing to worry about these days its all the other things like chatting and myspace, i know what i used to do when i was 15, and i shouldn't have done it. talk with her about why she changed it, hopefully she feels like she can talk to you without being judged or accused. I understand perfectly why you are concerned and she does need some independence but at 15 its not always a good idea when it comes to the internet. The only reason to have changed it is to hide something from you. you can set your entire computer to require a password before opening the desktop and gaining access to anything, that is a good idea. I say let her have the email address but only let her online when your around.

Answer 3

Hello, this is a tough one.you want to be Mom and make sure you can protect her if needed and it's hard when they become teenagers and they are now wanting there own privacy and becoming more independent.

but i also believe it depends on the child.is she trust worthy .is she a good girl.ect.. you know your daughter..but the fact of the matter is . and i know from experience.. if you change it back. she will find somewhere where there is free email services or use a friends computer and she will have her own personal email without your consent sooner or later.i think you just need to make her aware of the fact that you know she changed the password and let her know your going to try this out for a little while and see how things go. let her know you know she is at the age where she need a little privacy and you are just wanting her to be open with you and you dont want her hiding things from you.you just need to talk to her ..
let her know that the internet,email and things can be danerous and you want her to use it but you dont want her to
be a victim of perferts and ect that are out there waiting for vuneranle teens to take advantageof. she is at the age were you can talk to her and need to talk to her about these things.

but at least this way she knows you are trying and you do understand that she is growing up...but also let her know trusting her is very important to you and you want to continue to trust her .and for her n ot to give you a reason not to .
if you suspend the usage so she cant use it at home she will find somewhere to use it friends,ect...this is a tough one but it worked for me and i have a good open relationship with my daughter.and it works.

Answer 4

I am being honest with you, I did take the time to read this whole thing. Im 19 now. When I was 15 that was the worst age for me, my mother will say so too. I lost my virginity at 15, to and 18 year old, I was very unresponsible. My mom had talked to me about Sex, stds protection etc. But I still did it anyways. I had sex with this guy 4 times. One night me and my mom got into a big argument; yelling and I was being disrespectfull. Deep down I was hurt & I didnt know what to do. I finnaly broke down and screamed at her; Im not a virgin anymore, I had sex. and I ran to my room. My mom came in crying she wrapped her arms around me and said Im sorry I didnt know. And then she wanted to know everything who it was with and if he wore protection. My mom always told me some boys just want the one thing, And after this boy got it 4 times he was gone, My mom was right. Till this day I truley believe the saying "Mom knows best" Its true they do. After all of that my mom made an apointment to the doctors, So I could get checked for stds. They all came back neg. Ever since that situation me & my mom have gotten alot closer. They key is Communication. If your daughter tells you she lost her virginity, dont call her names out of anger. (as I have seen this happen to a friend) Her mom called her a sl*t. But that was when I was 15, Like I said im 19 now and me and my mom have the best relationship.

Answer 5

Are you talking about an account set up as a subsidiary to a master account or something free like hotmail?

If you can't just cancel her account, take away ALL her computer privledges until she returns control to you. You are her parent and can do whatever you wish. Ground her...tell friends parents she's not allowed on their computers. You are in control.

Answer 6

You sit her down and let her know she either gives you the new password or she will not be able to visit that site again. Try any password she give you IN FRONT of her right then! If she lies about it punish her.
Then get a program that allows you to block site without a password and use it..make sure she dose not know the password either!!

Answer 7

If its to your email account, doesnt the email say what to do if it wasnt authorized by you.

You could also go in and just keep trying passwords until the account gets locked.

Answer 8

some emails have a security question if you forget a password use that but give her space im around her age and the only reason my parents want to kno my password is just incase something happens to me but chill until then and pray that it doesnt just let her be

Answer 9

Call your email provider because this package is under your name they can do it for you. If you don't get anywhere with that take the computer away tell she give it to you/ or until you should choose to give the computer back to her. She has no right to do this and you need to show her who the parent is.

Answer 10

If your the main account holder, then turn the account off until she tells you why she had to change it.

and to joshua~ she is 15 thats why.