Is it a bad idea to invite an ex boyfriend to a wedding? I am very close with my ex, he was the last person I dated before I met my fiance. The breakup was mutual, and we still talk quite often and are close. He has told me he still has strong feelings for me and that there's no one else for him but me. I do not have any feelings for him and have made that clear. He has told me he respects my fiance and will be happy as long as I am. I am not sure my fiance would like the idea of me inviting him. Is it as complicated as I am making it?
2007-06-12 14:43:53 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I wouldn't invite any ex's to the wedding especially if they have expressed that they want me back. Its not a fun situation for the new husband and pretty akward when people ask "so how do you know the bride?" A few drinks and who knows what might come out.
I'm not saying he would cause a scene or that the groom doesn't know you are in contact with him but it just seems like an uneccsary chance for problems.
2007-06-12 14:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Would you like it if your fiance was as close to his ex as you are to yours, and wanted HIS ex at your wedding? This being just friends is always a bad idea. Is it your wedding you are inviting this ex to? If it is, don't. That would be a slap in his face. My best advice is to stop all contact with him and let him get on with his life. I personally think you have more feelings for him than you are willing to admit, or you would have stopped all contact long before now when your fiance first became uncomfortable with you and your ex being such close friends. When you and your new man have arguments, you will probably tell this ex about them, and he'll be waiting to have you back in his arms. The ex will love every minute of you pouring your heart out to him about how mad you are at this new man. So stop all contact with the ex.
2007-06-12 15:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he still has feelings for you means that it would be inappropriate and disrespectful towards your fiance, especially if you don't think he would like it. Does your fiance know that you're so close and talk all the time? I say bad idea all around, especially a wedding invite. I can only imagine it being painful for your ex if he still has feelings for you anyway.
2007-06-12 14:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your fiance about it.
Frankly, if I had an ex that still had feelings for me and there is no one else for him but me, I would NOT invite him at all.
IMO, bad idea.
2007-06-13 02:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but if he has feelings for you still, I wouldn't invite him to the wedding. I would personally hate to be invited to the wedding of a man I had very strong feelings for, even if he's already told me there's no chance! Sounds to me like he may keep in touch with you because he's keeping some hope alive that you'll get back together, not because he feels you're great friends, as you do.
2007-06-13 02:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not invite this ex. You need to put some distance between yourself and this guy. He needs to get adjusted to the fact you are marrying some else. Your fiance is the man in your life and you don't need the stress of this other guy at your wedding.
2007-06-12 15:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by longhornfan1722 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your fiance before you do anything and get his opinion. That is all that matters. Personally I would not have wanted my husbands Ex at our wedding so she was not invited.
2007-06-12 15:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by R n' B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with your situation it is a very bad idea basically because it seems that he still have feelings for you that might cause quite a buzz and because your fiance most definitely would not like the idea because although you and your ex are in good terms he and your fiance might not , and of course your fiance might feel that you still have feelings for your ex . and you might like to think what you would feel if your fiance's ex who still have feelings for him is invited isnt that a hostile competition
2007-06-12 14:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by heyjay 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i assume that your fiance knows that you still talk and that you are still close. run the idea by him and see what he says. however, if i were your ex, there is noway that i could ever go and watch the person that i love get married. that would be way painful. i changed my mind, i say don't invite him. you'll be worried about him all day and the look on his face will ruin your wedding day.
2007-06-12 14:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should discuss the issue first with your fiance you don't want a awkward situation at your wedding,and make sure that you are going to feel OK with this.
2007-06-13 06:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by christycricket78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋