I'm getting frustrated, this is really hard for me, I can't go anywhere, I can't even get home from work late cause my mom gets like anxiety attacks she worries about EVERYTHING!!! Today I got home 45 mins late, I tried to call but I lost connection. I dont talk n drive, so by the time I got home n looked at my cell she had called me 8 times!! And when I walked in the house she was crying cause she was worried about me. I'm 20 years old btw, I want to help her but I also want freedom what can I do??? Thanks in advance for you answers...
2007-06-12 14:40:44 · 8 answers · asked by εїз TANYA εїз 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i do call her and i did try to call her, she knows i almost always get out or work late
2007-06-12 16:02:05 · update #1
Unfortunately there is not a lot you can do. I have had some issues with my mother. They were not the same exact ones, but I think I understand. She most likely needs a professional's help. Sometimes you can try and try and never help. You are not the responsible one and need to stop putting it on yourself. You will only drive yourself crazy!
2007-06-12 14:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by Bee Belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your mother is afraid of being alone and fears your independence. She needs therapy to sort out her issues but in the meantime your should probably talk to her before you lose control and argue with her which may lead to more deep issues of guilt, threat, envy, hate, etc. Also does your mom have a spouse? Does she have a lot of friends? And sorry to ask but how old is she? Another possible way to help is if she had a man in her life :) lolz just sayin.
But good luck and remember it's not all your problem. You have goals and have your own life to tend to, your mother should try to respect that. Keep that in mind. Later!
2007-06-12 15:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is often difficult and many times borders on next to impossible to convince someone to seek professional help. Many people simply do not recognize or understand their problems or, if they do, believe that they can deal with it by themselves. This, in turn, causes even greater stress on other family members. In your case, you are experiencing the frustration of not being able to help her and you are blaming yourself for a situation you did not create. It seems pretty clear that your mom needs to get some professional help with her issues. Counseling and maybe even meds may be required, but, as it stands right now, you are in a downward spiral that you cannot stop alone. You need to find a way to get your mother some help.
2007-06-12 14:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-17 09:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest moving out for your freedom, but before you do, have her talk to a doctor about her attacks. She's going to worry about you no matter what, but it shouldn't be this bad.
2007-06-12 14:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by Josh C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to tell a psychiatrist about her panic attacks, and they will probably prescribe her antidepressants along with something like lorazepam to calm her down when the attack happens.
2007-06-12 14:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by sandstone901 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow....maybe try setting up a system where you call her,and she might go to a doctor and about this anxiey problem.....could be as simple as her getting out more
2007-06-12 15:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call 1888 826 9438. try www.adaa.org. the hotline is for anxiety
2007-06-12 15:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋