And sex to be within the confines of marriage, why would single people have sexual urges? Why would people stray from their marriages?
Thanks. =0)
2007-06-12 14:12:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sin, human fallibility, Satan's temptation, etc etc.
All the canned answers.
I've actually been told by Christians that they have higher divorce rates because, get this, Satan expends extra effort to temp them. Yeah. They're victimized by Satan. He picks on them.
2007-06-12 14:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by ZER0 C00L ••AM••VT•• 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Simple biology.
All living things exist to continue the species. We are biologically driven to do so. We are biologically structured to do so. We think of sex all the time because we're supposed to. Otherwise, our species would die out.
It is unnatural to deny sexual urges. Obviously, acting on every single sexual urge is a bad idea. But diseases exist as a deterrent from certain behaviors. As do screaming children.
So, it's like a nice little checks and balances system.
This is why I'm a firm believer in being open in discussing sexuality. It's just as natural as breathing.
In reality, sex has nothing to do with marriage. This is a religious convention designed to aid in the checks and balances system. So, it's not a bad idea, but it isn't realistic.
Some would also say that the religious perspective on this is designed to control women. But that's another issue for another day.
2007-06-12 15:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sexual urges start far sooner than we are ready emotionally for the experience. We need to wait until the body, mind and emotions are lined up.
That being said, we don't just give in to urges every time we have them. There is a time and place for them. The most "natural" urge we have is to bathroom ourselves.....yet we teach our children from a very young age that there is a time and a place to do that. We have books, vidoes, travel potties and the like to train them. If they are not trained by 2 1/2 we desperately haul them to a shrink or pediatrician to find out why. If we can train children to "hold" it until the appropriate time and place, we can certainly train ourselves not to give in to other urges. Just ask athletes how long and how hard they train for the Olympics or a marathon.
Sex is an act of God's love...it is the very deepest expression of our human love for each other and should therefore not be taken lightly. It is that intimate union that leads to the creation of new life. That new life must be freely given and freely received. It is gift. To view it any other way is to cheapen it.
To have sex for its own sake -- the physiological pleasure -- is not love but a cheap, selfish act. It is only worthwhile when it the act is oriented toward the other.
2007-06-12 14:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by The Carmelite 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who says God "created" marriage? The people in the Hebrew scriptures followed the norms of the culture of the time and men had several wives, it was a part of wealth and security. So, we don't follow that model for marriage anymore. I think people stray from their marriage because of natural, but not neccessarily healthy biological and psychological urges.
2007-06-12 14:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by keri gee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If god created safe sex then why does it unprotected sex feel so good?
Why do illicit drugs feel good if they were not meant to be abused?
Why does candy taste so good if it is bad for us and rots our teeth?
We are instinctively drawn to things that feel good. Through personal experience and social education we learn to control and withhold our urges.
One of the side effects of being such a successful species is that many of our "natural" urges can be fulfilled TOO EASILY but we have not outstripped the instinctive desire for them.
Desmond Morris suggested that couple bonding in humans was NOT instinctive but was learned from other animals that did do it instinctively (wolves, birds of prey, etc.).
Most animals that mate for life are hunters that need to be able to trust their mates alone for several days. If your mate has moved on to another while you were gone, or you doubt the heritage of you children then what is the point of returning to your mate/tribe with the food you caught?
2007-06-12 14:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, God created marriage to us as a gift, including sex.
It is about the free will. Everything is permissible for us, but everything is not beneficial for us. This was something I heard when I was a young adult and I was wondering this same stuff.
Why would people stray from their marriage? Our spirit is strong but the flesh is weak. : )
2007-06-12 15:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by SeeTheLight 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We have sexual bodies, thank God. How can love be bad?
I have had my share of one night stands and brief affairs in my younger days and they left me empty. God intended for us to have loving sexual monogamous relationships. There is nothing more intimate that sex.
I was also celibate for 14 years and had to enjoy sex alone.
2007-06-12 16:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The human emotions have no way of knowing whether you're married or not.
People stray because of their desires - - god have nothing to do with it.
2007-06-12 14:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans have lots of urges, some must be ignored until the proper time comes. You don't really have sex every time the urge hits, do you? If so, your life is probably full of surprised and angry people who want to hurt you.
2007-06-12 14:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
because of temptation. and also, god also created reason. one of the reasons to get married is to have sex, so if you don't have the urge, you might not get married. and also do you beleive that once you get married, "POOF" you'll suddenly want to have sex? i dont think so
2007-06-12 14:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋