I tried getting a girl, but I gave up. I never even asked a girl out, as I have never talked to girls before. I know I am goofy looking. (I seriously look like a dinosaur) and I can never show love. I want people to view me as tough, and I don't count holding hands, smiling, being in love or making out as tough. I count being mean and bossing others around as tough. When I was young, I watched many movies of dictators beating people up and being boss, and that made me permantely think that dictators are tough. I don't even need sex. I view it as embarassing and not worth my energy.
2007-06-12 13:43:28 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not that you don't like women. It is that you are insecure. You probably don't want to put yourself out there in the dating world because you are afraid of rejection. Your solution is to act like a A hole because you figure it is better for people to fear you than for people to laugh at you or make fun of you (which is probably what you have experienced). But there really is someone out there for you if you are patient...but if you act like a jerk, you will push everyone away, it's your choice.
2007-06-12 13:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by katiebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not normal!!! Being tough is a good thing, but being dictator tough just makes you a Miny Hitler wanna be. Really tough men are tough when the time is right and sensitive when the time is right. It takes a really really tough dude to admit he is wrong, or cry, or express your feelings in anyway. Hiding that kind of stuff is just stupid. You couldn't get a girl to like you because women want real men, not some macho wanna be that doesn't get it. They can see right through you. The real question is... Do you even want a girl? If you do then you will drop all this "TOUGH" crap and learn how to be a real man. Someone that can smash a beer can on his head, and open the door for his lady. Chop down a tree with a hand Axe, and listen to and comfort his lady when she has had a bad day. Listen....I try to be the manliest dude around, but it wont get you anywhere if you can't figure out the right time to do what. Making out rocks, sex is oh so very nice, and I can still rappel down a 150 ft wall with my fine honey on my shoulder if I need to. Drop the tough crap!!!!
2007-06-12 20:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Blazer: I suppose it all depends on your age. When we are younger we sometimes get hurt and swear off the female sex. But soon enough are hearts mend themselves and then the majority of us anyway, return to the opposite sex for love, comfort and joy once again. I am probably not the right person to honestly answer you with your question as have just recently (3 weeks ago) married the most lovely woman on this planet.
But if you are being sincere with how you want to treat ladies then you may be in need of some type of counselling to learn the social graces of befriending and becoming attached to a woman that deserves to be loved, respected and trusted back (as I'm sure that this is how you want to be treated also.
These views that you claim to hold regarding dictating a partner of the opposite sex may be fun at times (when fantasizing or role playing), but not in everyday life. Everyone on this planet at one time or another wants to feel loved, wanted and needed. I hope that these feeling come to you eventually and that you too will be swept off your feet by a female and that you will both treat each other with love.
2007-06-12 20:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't expect to be viewed as tough or strong if no one respects you. Respect is earned...not demanded. It's not about whether or not you like women. You won't be able to get close to anyone if all you want to do is dominate them. That's not showing how tough you are...that's showing that you can be a huge jerk. There's no skill involved in being a jerk, so what's there to respect? What makes you worth someone elses energy? Even dictators have a certain charm that wins SOME people over, so they have followers. Without it...they're nothing but a blowhard that people alienate.
2007-06-12 20:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow i really never have heard anything like this...But dont be so closeminded about dating...Stay openminded because you never know when soemthin is going to come along......Controling someone is not tought by the way and being the boss is not tough either infact its kind of weak....
How is beating someone tough??? strong maybe but there's nothing tough about fighting...Its just weaker way for people to handle their problems really pathetic actually...
There's a difference between having respect for someone and being scared of soemone...Just because your scared of someone DOES NOT mean you respect them...In no way at all...
Maybe if you were the boss of a company of some sort the feeling of wanting to be in control will go away..
2007-06-12 20:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by Monster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't even seem like the kind of guy a woman would like anyway.Your looks don't count for much as long as you are a kind and interesting person.Women only like tough if your not mean with it.Having said that its your life and there are lots of men who don't need women in there lives,but are leading productive lives.Try watching something more educational 'you might get a more balanced outlook on life.
2007-06-12 20:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by carolhubac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not tough buddy. stop trying to be cool to impress others, thats weak and everyone knows it. Nobody sees you as tough, they just see you as a loser, and a weirdo. Also everyone hates dictators, they dont think they are tough, they think they are mental cases who were abused as children and have a superiority complex. Theyr losers.
so srop the tough act and be yourself. BE YOURSELF. BE YOURSELF. People will like you for that, and if they dont, **** em.
Drop. the. tough. its not tough, its weak and wussy. YOU might think its tough, but nobody else does. And dont you want to impress others?
Also, go get some help. talk to a psychologist, they can help you way more than my random online answers. Pleeease follow through on this, if you get some help your life will be MUCH MUCH better. i promise
2007-06-12 20:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by toothPASTE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a stronger man to admit and show his emotions then it does for a man to act tough and try to be macho.
I think your just afraid to show your emotions and your hiding behind your so called tough exterior.
If you never allow yourself to experience the joys in life like sharing your emotions and falling in love you will miss out on many good things that life has to offer you.
Give people a chance you just may like what you see!
2007-06-12 20:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is "normal" to not like girls BUT what's normal? What I do think it is scary how you veiw tough. I think it is sad that you do not want to be close with someone and be loved. In order to love someone else you must love yourself. How old are you? I think you should take some time and try some new things. Maybe let someone in but whatever you do DO NOT BE abusive.
2007-06-12 20:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Hitler's dictatorship, and look how he ended up.
But, if you don't like women or sex in general, that's your business. But as humans, everyone needs someone's touch, you may not have been held or shown affection by your mother.
Sounds like you don't like to be turned down, but as a guy it happens alot. Not every girl you approach or ask out will say yes.
There are alot of clubs out there, find one that suits you and your type.
2007-06-12 20:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Emerald 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋