I am atheist, we have never been married. Could the father still get my son baptised as a catholic? Dont they need my permission...does the church consider my son born in sin? The father does not go to church.
I am just hoping that the father didnt sneak off and get my son baptised...and if he did try the church said no
2007-06-12 11:15:53 · 15 answers · asked by Countess Bathory 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
it bothers me because... Its logical in my head why, but hard to explain, but the fact I dont believe means I should just get over it, huh...
2007-06-12 11:37:57 · update #1
|It is the duty of Catholic parents to have their children Baptized into the Church. In cases where only one parent is Catholic, the child is still supposed to be Baptized a Catholic.
Perhaps you want your's should have discussed this possibility BEFORE having sex?
While the Church does consider your son "born in sin", the sin does not belong to the child. It belongs to the parents. The Church will still be willing to Baptize the child even if born out of wedlock. After all, it's not the child's fault he/she is born to unwed parents.
It's unfortunate that the father of the child does not go to Church. If he intends to have the child Baptized Catholic, I'm sure the priest is going to want to question the father on this.
Let me ask you this - As an aitheist, what do you care if your son is Baptized or not? If you do not believe in this stuff anyway, what difference does it really make whether or not your child receives Baptism?
2007-06-13 07:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Daver 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baptism can be performed by any practising Catholic, it doesn't need a priest or an elaborate ceremony. The child's father could already have baptised the child. What does it matter? You are an atheist and don't believe in such things. It will not harm the child and now that the Inquisition doesn't do that sort of thing any more, there is no danger of a baptism reflecting on the child later.
Let it go. Bring the child up as you wish and let him choose his religion, if he wants one, when he is old enough to make such a decision. His baptism will mean nothing except to the father.
2007-06-12 11:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by tentofield 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A Catholic that do not married in the Church has sinned! Fornication is a sin. For not baptising the child is a sin. For not going to a Catholic church is a sin!
2007-06-12 11:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sniper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, if the baby's father could find a Catholic church that didn't mind that the baby is born out of wedlock, or if the baby's father lied about being married and/or your current whereabouts, then yes, he could have gotten the baby baptized without your permission. The good news is, if you don't believe in it, then it's just a little water on your kid's head.
2007-06-12 11:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Catholic Church does not like baptizing on the fly without months of teaching parents the responsibilities of raising your child in the church
HOWEVER there is a short cut and no one every need know about it until the priest is told later and I 'm Not telling
2007-06-12 11:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would call the church and tell them about the situation, but if he did sneak off and get it done, just remember, it’s just water. Don’t get me wrong. I’m an Atheist too and I fully understand what this all symbolizes, but try to be the better person. I'm sure your son will grow up to be a reasonable person (I'm hoping for ya).
2007-06-12 11:20:39 · answer #6 · answered by A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he/the church does not need your premission.
The Catholics consider all men to be born with the orgional sin/into sin.
And what's the big deal if he did get your son baptised, he nor you will ever really know.
2007-06-12 11:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by crknapp79 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your soul is deeply troubled, i see. Peace be with you Countess. I don't feel in such a personal matter, I can give you any advice. If you can find away, turn this battle into some kind of fortune. Your son has the fortune of you as his mother. I wish I had the power to bring peace to your world. I will offer what I have, I am a scribe. Peace again Countess Bathory.
--k--- (the letter, composed of a sword, and two daggers.)
2007-06-12 16:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by burn out 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oof... that's gonna be a touchy subject. You two have never been married, fine, but who has custody? Ideally, baptism would be embraced by the entire family, but this is a rather unique situation.
And no, your son would not be considered "born in sin" the way it used to be. Children are not held responsible for their parents' sexual habits.
2007-06-12 11:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be completely honest, there is nothing you can do if your sons father runs off and get him baptized. But, if your husband doesnt go to church as it is, then i doubt that he will take your son to sunday school or CCD when he gets older.
2007-06-12 11:18:57 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋