our eyes locked all the time... the date lasted 6 hours...! it was great! Bar hopping and flirting ' finally we kissed.."WILL I see you again" he asked ? I said yes and we parted. 5 days have passed and..not a sign,,,,
I sent him an sms, asking how was his day,said he would call....NOTHING! i JUST DON'T GEt IT! HE seemed so happy when we were together, laughing, flirting...wHAT SHOULD I DO ? HELP!!!!!!!!!! note....p.s he is not a guy that hangs around with cheeks every night...
2007-06-12 11:02:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In the overall scheme of things, six hours is not a lot of time. Realistically, it takes much more time to get to know anyone.
It sounds like you so "need" to be in a relationship that you'll ignore reality if a comforting illusion comes along. Don't do that to yourself, or to anyone else. Those things usually end badly, sometimes after years of marriage and a few kids.
The problem isn't with this guy, it's with you. Try to figure out what you realistically want from a relationship, and life. Understand that raging hormones do not equal love. Lust may be immediate, but love is something that grows over time.
We often create an ideal in our mind, and project that onto someone. Then, when that someone doesn't live up to our expectations, we blame them, rather than ourselves.
Enjoy your feelings, but don't lose sight of reality.
2007-06-12 11:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by YY4Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a guy doesn't want to call too soon after a date to line up for another, as he thinks that the girl will think he is desperate or needy. Also some guys like the lady to call them and invite them to a date she has set up (why should guys have to do all the work)! Call him up and let him know "you have a date tonight; i'll pick you up at [insert time here]". The ball will now be clearly in his court; If he says he can't come and doesn't have a really good excuse, he probably has another girl; at least you'll know one way or the other so you can get on with your life and stop waiting by the phone!
2007-06-12 18:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by Flying Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glad you guys had a blast - but to different guys that could mean different things - I'd do this: call him and "assume" it'll go to voice mail. Leave a message saying hey this is ___. I just wanted to know i had a fun time with you. I don't want to bother you, you've seemed to be busy - so if you'd like to chat or maybe hang out again get back at me. Hope you're doing well." Something to that extent. That way he hears your voice and it's not a text or email or something he's reading. Leave it in his decision by passing on a casual message letting him know you had fun. If days go by and you hear nothing - then maybe you're just a fun chic and he was hoping for something more physical - so in that case, good thing he's leaving you alone. Good luck
2007-06-12 18:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm dont take his not contacting you as a sign........yet. He could just be nervous and need to have a little time to get himself together. He also could be really busy - remember there is a lot you dont know about him yet, he may have a sick grandparent/lots of work etc. But if he takes a lot longer to contact you, make the first move yourself. Ask if he is free to meet in a group of mates, and then you can tell his eagerness by his reaction, Good luck.
ps whats a cheek?
2007-06-12 18:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by loudpurplehair 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erm....if he hasn't been in touch is because he doesn't want to be. Guys are a bit obvious. If they like you then they are in your face the whole time. And a good date doesn't mean a thing either. Perhaps his ex came back or perhaps he has a girlie already? A whole range of reasons. You will have to refrain from contacting him and keep busy so you don't dwell on it. If he is interested or is in the process of sorting out his life to be with you then he will call eventually! Don't hold your breath.
2007-06-12 18:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may have liked you, but when he got home he realized that something didnt "click" or he was just looking for an easy chick. you really have to let go of any emotions that yuo have for him and wait and see what happens, in the mean time find other guys to date so you dont dwell on it. my nana always told me that the only way a relationship can work out is if the guy is more into the girl then vise versa.
2007-06-12 18:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by lil333 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sooner you let this guy go, the quicker you'll find another guy who will ring you back. Good luck!
2007-06-12 18:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by Emerald Book Reviews 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, he wasn't that into you. Sounds like you were more interested in him than he was in you. If he calls fine, talk to him, but I'd consider it over if I was were in your shoes.
2007-06-12 18:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by brandonb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on, dont waste your time waiting for him, and if he does get round to contacting you you can show him you havent waited around for him, he wll respect you more for that.
2007-06-12 18:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on... don't contact him anymore. If he were into you he would have called.
2007-06-12 18:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋