how do you do it??? how do you not let temptation get the best of you? my bf and i do not want to have sex because we know we arent supposed to but cant resist most of the time.
and - is masturbation wrong according to the Bible?
2007-06-12 10:29:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My husband and I lived together for 3 1/2 years before we were married and didn't do anything. It was hard at first but we just kept our eyes on the outcome. If we gave in, He wouldn't bless us and if we waited, He would bless our marriage someday. Today we are very glad we waited. He has blessed our marriage abundantly. We both know it is because we remained faithful. One helpful thing for us is we didn't look at eachother naked. If you do it will tempt you. Hope this encourages you in the right direction. I'm sure I'll get alot of thumbs down but it's how I feel. God bless you.
2007-06-12 10:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, it's not an option (sex outside of marriage.) Take it off the table. Then set in place rules, boundaries and limitation.
If it's difficult for you and your bf, then don't be alone together. Make sure someone is always around. When you kiss, don't allow them to go further than three seconds, five seconds at the most...and send him to his corner.
Don't allow your mind to dwell in the sexual realm. You have control of your thoughts. We are to submit them to the Lord. Just keep that in mind. When a sexual thought tries to enter, cast it down. Don't allow yourself to entertain the thought.
Is it easy, well...depends on your determination and your relationship with the Lord. In my case, there is too much at stake. Eternity for one. I'm in leadership in my church and I teach a bible study. The Lord is first and the center of my life. I want my relationship with my bf to honor Him (the Lord) so He will honor our relationship.
Look, I've goofed up relationships in my past (most of us have) this one, I'm doing God's way. It's the most incredible relationship I've ever been involved in...and wouldn't trade it for a sexual relationship.
As for masterbation...the bible doesn't cover it per sa but what it does say is that sex is to be enjoyed within the boundaries of marriage. When you masterbate, you take from your husband the pleasure of him giving you an orgasism.
If you ever wonder if there is something you are doing is wrong or a sin...ask yourself this..."If Jesus were in the room with me, would I be doing this?" After all, the Holy Spirit lives within you...and He is there...
I know the perks of marriage and sex...but now that I am not married, I'm waiting until I am.
Blessings!
2007-06-12 10:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You just decide that you will not have sex in any form until you get married. Then you need to not put yourself in a position to fall to temptation. Don't go parking, stay out of bedrooms when you are together, no necking or petting- that kind of thing. Set some boundaries and stick to them. If you are in love and you know that marriage is right, then maybe you need to just get married.
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Are you for real? or are you on here just trying to poke fun of those of us who have morals? In one of your previous questions, you said that you are pregnant- so obviously you are not resisting.
2007-06-12 10:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just decide a head of time you aren't going to do it. You also don't put yourself in the position where you can be tempted. Sure you get tempted, you just don't act on it.
As for masturbation, I have no clue. However, personally I believe that if you start doing that you will be more inclined to do it for real because you are used to the feelings. I think it's wrong.
2007-06-12 10:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by JessicaRabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read 1 Corinthians 7. Its all about the "marriage life". Including sex!
Having sex outside of marriage is a sin!
2007-06-12 10:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Bible talks about that...it says to "get married" if you are having desire problems. Sex is not wrong for a Christian. Only sex outside of marriage is wrong, because God says that it perverts His design for people. HE invented marriage and HE invented sex for humans....and since HE created humans, He knows best.
Masturbation is self sex, and it is a way to avoid God's law. God doesn't like people to create ways around what He says is right.
2007-06-12 10:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl Durham, Ph.D. 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In our society, people "date" to have someone to be with - to have someone to "care about" - to have someone to have sex with. That's not the correct function of dating - in fact, "dating" isn't needed. What we need is "courting".
The real purpose is to find a spouse. Treat it like an interviewing process - First date = First interview. They don't go on to the next level of interviews if it's already determined that they are not qualified for the job (spouse).
AND...... There's no need to be interviewing for a job that you're not ready to accept or that does not yet exist - meaning if you're not ready to get married, there's no need to have a boyfriend.
2007-06-12 10:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by teran_realtor 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Idleness is the devil's playground. Before I was married, I tried to keep myself busy. I worked out, played basketball, studied. etc. I also tried not to stay out too late with girlfriends.
I personally believe that having sexual relations with anyone other than your spouse is wrong, and that includes with yourself (ie masterbation)
2007-06-12 11:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by Senator John McClain 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I simply don't put myself in situations where I am tempted to do so, and sleep well at night with the knowledge that I am saving myself for my husband
Yes it is wrong because it is lusting after an image
2007-06-12 10:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Susie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Temptation is temptation, whether it is sex, drugs, food, gambling, etc.
When you love the Lord, you don't want to sin against the Lord. You want to please God more than you want to please the other person or yourself.
The order is God first, others second and yourself third.
2007-06-12 10:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋