It is causing me such stress and anxiety. I tried to teach them how to make good choices and with high standards but my boys all moved out as fast as they could at 18 out of state and are not going to school or church and struggling to keep a job and pretty much getting no where in life. I somewhat blame their father for setting a bad example and not being there for them. I cry and fret and pray for them but I get so depressed.
I cry and miss them so
2007-06-12 09:54:11 · 3 answers · asked by Rosietrue 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It shows that you are a great mom to worry about them...and nothing will ever stop that. You just have to trust that you taught them everything you could and they will get things together. Be there for support and guidance, but know they have to learn some things on their own. I went through a wild stage after I moved out and I learned a lot. I knew the day I had really grown up when I thanked my parents for everything they did. You will never stop worrying about them...but you have to trust them to make their own decisions.
2007-06-12 10:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mom and understand how you feel. We did the best we could to raise them properly, the rest is up to them. Give them time to grow up and learn from experience. Be supportive but don't bail them out, or they won't learn. Put them in God's hands, His are bigger than yours.
Find other things to keep your mind busy - work, volunteering, hobbies.
2007-06-12 10:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by ohio gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you will benefit most from counseling. You are feeling guilty when it is not your fault.
Remember that some kids need to make every mistake possible before they realize that Mom Was Right After All.
2007-06-12 10:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋